We are required to communicate in this world if we want to have healthy and functional relationships. We can get a bit further in this life if we acknowledge that we need something and show the person the way. I’m not asking you to spoon feed a person, nor am I asking you to explain the same thing 49 times. I’m asking you to consider what it might feel like to balance out all of the ways that love can be given and received and equalize it. Vienna Pharaon
A friend of mine was chatting with me yesterday, he was bemoaning the fact that his wife does not listen to him. I asked him what does he mean by "she does not listen to him"? He responded with- she hardly ever does what he says or asks her to do.
That got me to thinking, does listening to someone only mean that we do what they say or ask us to, in the same way and form?
I would say no.
I would say that listening means hearing someone and using the feedback to make the best decision possible for themselves. Sometimes that response may be completely different to what what advice was given or request made.
It can never be doing exactly what someone else says out of fear, people pleasing and lack of self belief.
Communication is a skill, it takes practice, patience, compassion and acceptance Acceptance is simply recognition. When you recognize a thing, you see it for what it is. All of our experiences, no matter how awful they appear to be, are temporary. According to Iyanla Vanzant, Acceptance of an experience as a temporary situation can make it a lot easier to handle. There are times when all the skills required to communicate effectively will become necessary when dealing with others. It is a wonderful lesson in growth when communication becomes a love language.
The willingness to communicate is important, there will be times people may not agree nor listen to you and your point of view, how do you respond in that case?
Remember that there are different love languages, different points of views. Diversity is a beautiful thing!
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