Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker


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I choose

I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

I choose

I choose peace over chaos & I’m proud of my choice

I choose spirituality over religion, &   I’m proud of my choice

I choose real over phony & I’m proud of my choice

I choose to dream more dreams than live in a nightmare & I’m proud of my choice

I choose to embrace real life over getting lost in a fantasy & I’m proud of my choice

I choose divine guidance over external validation & I’m proud of my choice

I choose courage over fear & I’m proud of my choice

I choose bake period.

I choose consistency & discipline over speed and fads & I’m proud of my choice

I choose to wait rather than settle & I’m proud of my choice

Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Your Choice is Your Power

The world’s greatest lie is that you lose control of your life, that you have to obey some rules that are not your rules Paul Coelho

Your choice is power!

Every choice has a consequence whether it is a conscious or an unconscious choice! 


Listen, brutally honest! Stop holding other people accountable for the choices that YOU make! It’s your choice! Hold yourself accountable and then if it is not what you want or leading you to your highest good, hey, make another choice!

All change is not growth and all growth is not transformation beware of just wanting things to be different it may not mean that you are growing.

Some of us have the same experience a thousand times ,it isn’t growth until you have learnt a little bit of something, its not growth until there is actual progress.

When something truly transforms you don’t recognise it for what its used to be, when something has growth you can see and tell the difference.

We have to make a choice, whether you want to grow or transform.

When the transformation comes you are not telling the same story anymore, that story is now inappropriate for where you are right now to tell in the same old way

When you transform the old stuff is not what your life revolves around anymore, there’s a revolution, a shift in the centre.

What is your life revolving around?

What are you choosing?


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Choice - to select your preference or desire from the possibilities presented. Your choice is your power, it is a function of your free will given to you by the creator. When you make a choice you are saying to the Universe that there is a desire, an idea, a vision, an intention, a dream that you are choosing to advance. When you fail to make a choice you are saying to the Universe that you have no power because every choice you don't make is a choice you are making. - Iyanla Vanzant

I was having a conversation with a someone yesterday, there was a difference of opinion on a matter at hand. I said in the end it is always a matter of choice. They did not believe this as many times "people have no choice"

This led to a further discussion about  what is "having no choice"

I believe that we always have a choice, this is where our power lies.

Making no choice is also a choice

Blaming others is also a choice

Accepting a situation is also a choice

regardless of the circumstances, any move that we make is based on a choice we make either consciously or unconciously.

So let's say one was sent to jail for a crime that they did not commit, the choice there is - what do I now do with this situation that I have found myself in, one which it seems at the moment that I have absolutely no control over?

Therein lies the choice

What do you do in a situation, any situation based according to Iyanla, the possibilities presented.

Many of our choices are based on our beliefs- and many of our beliefs are never questioned. The beliefs we have either comes from our family, our parents, our experiences, religion and society. Beliefs demand loyalty. When one believes in something they remain loyal to it, going against the belief brings up guilt. So rather than feel guilty about questioning the belief or discomfort from being different, we make a choice.

Mind you, I am not saying anyone's choice is wrong, to me if it is working it will be reflected in how you live your life,in how you feel, in your health, in your relationships

The most beautiful thing is, with free will, we can choose again, choices are unlimited until we die

So, how do you make choices?

Do you do it based on fear or love?

Do you make choices based on unquestioned core beliefs or not?

Do you make choices to avoid uncomfortable situations? (this one is me!! my hand is up!)

Do you make choices to enhance how you feel?

Do you make intentional choices?

One thing I have learnt is - every day in every way we are all making choices

Look at your life and it will tell you how well those choices are


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on




Make Better Choices

Life is made up of an infinite amount of choices. Most decisions, such as what you’ll eat for lunch today, are small and only slightly impactful, but it’s the big decisions—the ones that can change your life forever—that are tough to make. - Lydia Sweat


In January of every year I come up with three different mantras for the year. For 2018, my three mantra's were


1. Make Better Choices


2. Show up Real


3. Let go when you have done all you can



The second and third one has been easier. Make better choices has been the challenge.

Why? I act on impulse, I feel it, I do it. When I follow my intuition it works out swimmingly! it may not even make an inkling of sense the feeling and the doing it. But I press ahead like a champion. 

When the decision is made in fear, the outcome is fear based. 

So when faced with a decision, the mantra kicks in "Make Better Choices" 

Once I get still, my intuition whispers to me

Once I get busy the fear steps in


Make Better Choices - choose in Love not Fear

Make Better Choices - choose your intuition sometimes over logic

Make Better Choices - think about the big picture

Make Better Choices - believe in yourself

Gentle reminder to self!



Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer