Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

Day 4 Lessons from St Lucia

Anything is possible Ebonee Davis

Drove about an hour out to Vieux Fort to visit the Eco South Tours - a local community group aiming to bring about sustainable livelihoods using the natural resources within the area. So far they use th sea to produce sea moss, to provide kayaking tours. They have an apiary making high grade honey, they also have a camping site available.

The set up is pretty simple -pay a fee and get an authentic experiences from the rural community of St Lucia.

Standing there I am reminded of a few things:

1. Simplicity is not always the easiest option

2. All needs are met - we get exactly what we need when we need it, what happens is the wanting of more and being attached to a particular outcome

3. Use what you have - it is provided to you for a reason

4. Make friends and diverse ones - a support network is always useful

5. Keep plugging away!


Best of luck to the Eco South Tours on their commitment to improve their lives and their community and thank you for the opportunity to be a part of this movement

Peace



Day 3 Lessons from St Lucia

You must know who you are first though. Otherwise you will be told how to move, think, .... and you’ll perform solely for outside praise. Dr Crystal Jones


The Conference was filled with people in business attire, dark suits, pump heels, jackets and A Line skirts. I turn up in a bright purple and yellow suit, lots of colour. A new thing for me - Confessions on the Journey.

One lady said - you are- pause - colourful. I go into default feeling self conscious for about a minute, then I talked to myself about it

Self - how do you feel?

I love this outfit

I feel wonderful

Carry on smartly then.


I listen to the other presenters and place myself in the moment, to remember that everyone has a space at this event.


Just do you. Go there and be you, do the best in the moment and have fun.


The room was packed, the audience kept saying that they were looking forward to what I had to say, I felt the pressure of it all. I asked for this so that meant that I have all the tools required.

When we are given a dream ,a purpose, a gift, The Universe provides everything that we need to make it a reality, to use it, to share it.

This I have learnt.


Knowing who I am helps me navigate the nerves, it supports me in making the decisions that provide for the gifts

Knowing who I am grounds me.

I had fun sharing my story with the bunch of suits

At the end the applause was loud, the room felt warm - the fuzzy type of warm and I was reminded again to know who I was when sharing these lessons

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Day 2 - Lessons From St Lucia

I feel a major reset coming - Ebonee Davis

I drove from the airport to the resort with Ian, the taxi driver. He seemed pleasant from jump, he was so proud of his island and talked about it with that same love and pride that made me smile. What a wonderful way to show up at one's job!

The traffic surprised me, I asked him about it, even that he was positive about as he mentioned that growth caused it but its all good

Seeing the daily lives of the people on the road, the hustle, the children walking from school, the after work traffic, I didn't even feel rushed,their bustle felt relaxed.

We came off the main road and drove into the well manicured compound with large trees, cleaner sidewalks, newly paved roads, people in uniforms smiling and waving.


The compound is beautiful, an all inclusive resort is never one of my favourite places, it seems so sterile but that is my view, many people love the seclusion and ease of it all. So I am learning to be neutral about how I feel when I am in a situation that is not to my fancy.

Neutral meaning to accept that it is different to what I like, what I would choose yet find the joy and happiness in the moment, be grateful for the opportunity to see a different perspective.


I speak today at 3pm, looking forward to sharing the lessons to such a diverse audience

Give thanks

Peace


Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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What is the Difference between Value and Service?

You know a skill that’s underrated but super valuable? Storytelling. Ari




I'm en route to a speak at a Conference in St Lucia. I was asked today if I am being paid to speak at the Conference, I said no. That question was almost like a mirror to me reflecting what has been going through my mind over the past few days. Value and Service.

What is the difference between valuing oneself and providing a service to my community.

I would love to hear from you, let's share lessons and compare notes!

Peace


What Are You Saying?

In form, you are and will always be inferior to some, superior to others. In essence, you are neither inferior nor superior to anyone. True self-esteem and true humility arise out of that realization.


You will never experience the success, do the things you really want to do as long as you worry about it.

Chances are you are thinking in terms of what you do not have and cannot do. 

Your good cannot get to you if your mind is filled with lack.

You have no room for blessings if your words are laced with limitations.

You will not notice or be open to new experiences if you are stuck in old ones.
What you want may be totally new to you.
It may be beyond your highest expectation.
How can it get to you if you keep getting in the way?
It's time for you to move, realising the thing that you are seeking is also seeking you.

Peace


Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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The Small Voice Within is a Guide

"Go out into the countryside and teach the Gospel", they said to him, "What will we say?" And his response to them was, "I'll tell you when you get there." Book of Thomas

The small voice within is a guide, it tells us what to do and where to go, and it works particularly well when we ask, it works even better when we get still, when we pause. It's usually a small voice, sometimes a whisper, you will miss it if you are too "busy" if you are moving around too much, if you are drowning it out with excessive "noise". "Noise" can be judgement, drinking too much alcohol. working too much, toxic relationships, judgement and not taking responsibility for your actions, too much TV and Internet to keep you occupied. Noise can also be not being present and minding other people's business.

To teach is to demonstrate, or the combination of demonstrating what you have paid attention to when the small voice speaks to you works miracles, it never leads you astray and many many times it seems illogical,but then, so is being too busy to handle your life and living your best life!

Peace!!


Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

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Spend More Time Learning Who You Are

My advice: Spend more time learning who you are and what you want out of your intimate partnerships before jumping in and out of unfulfilling predicaments where your actions can hurt more people than you ever intended. Embrace honesty and be outspoken about what you need and what you refuse to settle for. If a monogamous relationship is what you seek, someone out there is willing and able to give you the things you want. Be patient. Don’t settle. And be true to yourself and honest with others. Feminista Jones

Friday night girls party, a few drinks, some comfort food and lots of talks and laughs, always a fun time. Until it gets serious, with these particular women. The serious bit usually leans towards why am I still single after getting divorced over 5 years ago. I usually smile and say right now the situation I am in is working for me

And if I am truly honest I really believe that it does. Its even so much more comfortable to just remain where I am at the present moment - single.

There are times when doubt sets in - am I doing something wrong, am I shutting myself off, am I setting the bar too high. These feelings and questions last for a few hours maybe a day or two and then they go.

Having being socially conditioned to the notion that women are complete only when either there are children or a partner, it becomes quite a challenge for those women who fall in neither of those categories.

What about happiness?

What about contentment?

Can we feel those feelings without following the norms of society of children and a partner?

I do believe so, I believe that everything is not for everybody, some have other paths to follow

As to answer the question - I am willing to be open to changes and spending more time learning who I am.

Peace


Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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Dear November

Onward and upward. Growing and expanding. Deion Page

Dear November

We meet again, I thank you now for coming around again for me to experience another one in this form. I thank you in advance for:

-safe journeys

– courage 

– letting go of what is not serving my growth 

– fun 

– reminding me that mistakes make masters & they are part of the journey 

– to not beat up myself about them. 

For reminding me that these dreams that have been downloaded from Source are there to bring to fruition.


I'm ready!

Let's do this

Peace




What Mask(s) Do I Wear?

What Mask(s) Do I wear? 

At home. . .  

At work. . .

In family relationships. . .

In intimate relationships. . .

In the world. . .

Iyanla Vanzant 

I was listening to one of my favourite truth tellers Iyanla Vanzant, she was talking about masks. What masks do we wear and why. 

I thought it was in interesting question.

Wearing a mask says that I don't want my real face to be seen. My true self to be seen, I want to show the world something else.

The question is why

Why would I not want to show people who I am

to protect myself?

If I want to protect myself it must feel that I am not protected.

Why else do I feel to wear a mask, to put up a wall

a wall that will not penetrate to hurt me

Avoidance!

There is in our minds benefits of wearing a mask. 

We feel it helps us.

Having listened to Iyanla, self reflection says to me that looking at the masks I wear and why is important in the life that I am living.

What am I scared of?

What am I hiding?

What are the benefits?

All valid questions

Share your lessons if you will

Peace 


Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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Instagram

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The Whole is Not the Whole Until Everyone is Involved

In order to love who you are, you can’t hate the experiences that shaped you

- Andrea Dykstra


One of the best lessons that I have learnt is that for everything and every experience we are either teaching or learning. The faster we get clear on which one is happening, the easier it becomes to navigate through this life of ours.


Acknowledgement and acceptance are two extremely important factors which help us gain that clarity.

As Iyanla Vanzant says "we have to call a thing a thing" so if we call a pig a bird and feed it bird food, the pig may either die or lose weight, it will not become a bird.


And so we have to face all the parts of us in moving forward, we not like it, we may not love it, facing it does not mean that we must. It is part of the ingredients that make us who we are, the flavour, the juice.


The whole cannot be whole until everything is involved.

Your experiences is not who you are. Your thoughts are not who you are. They play a part in determining how your life plays out but do not for one moment think that this is who you are

You get to define that

That job is between you and the Universe

Peace

Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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It Takes A New Thought

What I have discovered is that some people unwittingly fight to retain ownership of the very limitations that  cause their suffering. Iyanla Vanzant

I know that I am in resistance when I am fighting to be right. When I am in defence mode. When I am making justifications, reasons and excuses. When I am not open to hearing a different point of view.


When I am getting hot around the ears, I start sucking my teeth, I know that I am in resistance mode.

When I know it is the truth.I get defensive. I don't want to be wrong.

Who wants to be wrong?

But no matter how much we get annoyed, deflect and blame, we have to take responsibility for our lives, we are the ones to make the change

I have started with being open to listening, then I move on to really being conscious of the thoughts that I entertain.

What we think determines how we act and how we feel

Being a slave to my thoughts - the negative ones are a set up for a life filled with repeating of old patterns.

We really do have to believe that we have the power to change our circumstances

It takes work and it takes self belief, it takes responsibility.


I'm ready.

Are you?

Peace


Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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Love Never Runs Out

Love’s frequency is powerful. Every soul that I’ve connected with has came into my life unforced, through natural vibrations. The gravitational pull between two souls on love’s frequency is unmatched. Doesn’t matter the distance or location, those souls will connect. Boi McCoy


I give thanks for all the people who joined me on the journey at some point in my life. There are some who have gone on to their own path. I give thanks for them as well.

The struggle that came out of them leaving my life was me wanting to hang on to the relationship, the friendship, the past as it always was. The lesson was - do not water dead things!

If the love is there it matters not when the relationship changes, there will be no forcing, only flowing. Distance and time will not stop the flow

It has been a lesson that I have taken quite a while to learn

Love never runs out, it just changes form.

Peace

Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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All is Always Well

The only thing I ever really know is that all is well. Melissa Infinity

Very often, we define ourselves by what we want or dream of. 

Yet when our lives shape us differently we often think we have failed, that we are settling for less, because we weren’t good enough to become or have what we wanted. 

Certainly, as we experience our limitations this sometimes feels true, yet even through our limitations we evolve rather than fail

do not be afraid of evolution, it is the revolution of you

The truth is what we want or dream of doesn’t always last. It tends to serve its purpose in our evolution & then fades away, losing its relevance at that point in time on our journey & we do enormous damage to ourselves by insisting on carrying on what has in fact died

I was fired as the Chief Financial Officer of a company & because being an accountant defined me as I worked damm hard at becoming a young & successful one, I literally lost my mind but more accurately, this evolution propelled a life with purpose & authenticity 

What I have learnt is that living up to a dream is rarely as important as entering it for all it has to teach, the lessons & now, here I am speaking to you, every day more & more comfortable in my own skin (to make these faces!) & willing enough to show up. Real. 

keep dreaming.keep evolving.keep room for possibilities that look different.keep learning.


Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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Facebook

Some Relationships Deepen, Some Dissolve

Your friends either go through this inner transformation with you or drift out of your life. Some relationships dissolve, others deepen. Eckart Tolle


I was having a conversation with a colleague yesterday about her weekend and a party she attended, which ended off with her saying that she had no friends to call anymore at short notice who will go partying with her.

Her statement got me to thinking.

Who would I call to go with me to a party at short notice or at all?

I came to realise that I have different people in my life for different times and reasons and when I attempt to force them into different boxes it causes me stress.

My party hearty friends - I love them to bits, I see them during Carnival time where we party like there is no tomorrow. When that time is over we go back to our lives and countries until Carnival rolls around again. Not to say that we don't keep in touch during the year but we know Carnival is our time.

My running buddies, I see them for the weekly Tuesday run, we hang out after if we feel to. Until next time, until next Tuesday. I may see them during the week coincidentally or otherwise, the love is there.

Then there are the ones have fallen off, one day I realised, but wait? I haven't seen or spoken to them in months - the love is there but the direction of our lives have gone in totally different ways. We touch base ever so often and its all good.

Then there are the ones who are always there, even if not everyday in person but there remain constant through growth and drought, thick and thin. They are like family we chose.

Then there are the new ones who come in and its like you have known them forever!

I guess its like Iyanla says, some people are in our lives for a season, a reason or a lifetime. We make it harder when we want to hold on to the seasonal ones, the ones for the lesson and blessing, When the reason and season is fulfilled there is nothing we can do to hold on.

Bless them and Bounce!

Give thanks for them all

Peace

Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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Self Love Shifts Awareness

Self-love shifts your awareness. It’s bigger than what’s on the outside. Your attention must go inward, and you’ll have to ask yourself tough questions. Along the way, as you uncover self-truths, you’ll run into parts of yourself that you’ve tried to escape, parts of you that you’ve long warred with. Some days will be harder than others, and it will get ugly before you find beauty in the process. It will be uncomfortable, but you will grow. Kestrel Ambrose


I always go back to love, self love.

Confessions on the Journey, the last few days has been challenging.

Situations not going as I expected or planned, sent me into a small spiral of doubt and the questioning of self.

Self Love saved me from heading directly into the rabbit hole

Not the one where I go to the spa, get a massage, do my hair and pedicure. Though all very nice and I love doing those.

The internal type where I pull out the affirmations, I sit in the discomfort and ask some questions, the one where I decide, where I don't escape in a movie, a bar of chocolate, watching football and scrolling IG and FB.

This is the self love that I think will save me this time around. The internal work, the one with self

We all have it in us, we forget, we neglect, we deflect, and none of that will change what is inside us.

As ACIM says nothing outside of ourselves will save us.

Start within

Go within

Peace


Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

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What is Occupying Your Mind on A Daily Basis?

Self Care is taking your power back - Lalah Delia

What do you want to make happen?

What is your it?

What do you have to do to make it happen?

What is occupying your mind on a daily basis? 

What is the most important thing on your mind?

Is it positive or destructive?

These are some questions, if we answer honestly and authentically ought to have us thinking and acting.

So again I ask what are you willing to do to make it happen?

Willingness is an expression of being ready, eager or prepared to do something. So are you willing?

Making it happen starts with a consciousness of willingness. Once you are prepared to just be willing, you can take action. 

If anyone asks me what can I do to make it happen, I always say “Do something!”

There is always, always always something you can do

You can help your neighbour

You can feed somebody

You can talk to somebody

Do something wherever you are


Each and everyone of us has a responsibility and that responsibility came with being given this gift called life, a responsibility to leave here this place better than you met it.


You may believe that you are powerless but you aren’t. Do you not see that all your misery comes from the strange belief that you are powerless?

You are somebody, you are nobody’s victim, you are powerful and you have the same ability to create as each and every one of us. The question is are you willing?

Do something to make it happen.

Start where you are with what you have

Start with yourself even

A lot of us would rather sit around and criticise complain or bad mouth on people. That is easier that doing something  just in case what you tried didn’t work.

We must remember we are either part of the problem or part of the solution

Right where you are right now with what you have you can make something happen

Willingness and Action is being part of the solution

The challenges will come, making it happen will have challenges. This is where you tap into your willingness and personal power

Making it happen takes

Willingness, Recognizing and tapping into your personal power to create and doing something

Let us honor our responsibility as co creators to making it happen

Peace


Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Lucia

https://www.crcaconference.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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Instagram

Facebook




Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer