Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

The Trick is Taking Responsibility

If you want to know who you are, pay attention to what you do. Think about what you tend to and what you don’t. If you want to be a writer, then write. If you want to be a good friend or partner or parent, then show up, listen, love. Yes, love is a verb, so do it. Keep moving. Maggie Smith


What we do says so much!

What we say can be changed, but what we do consistently shows us who we choose to be

What we do consistently is driven by how we feel about ourselves.

So our response to events and our choices are driven by the way we view and see ourselves

Isn't that fabulous? Because it suggests that we are accountable for our actions and can adjust accordingly

The trick is taking responsibility.

Taking responsibility can be tough. But it's worth it in the end.

If we don't take responsibility we cannot heal or change or improve our circumstances.


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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You Are Growing

Growing, at times, feels like not growing. Stay encouraged. You are: growing. Lalah Delia


A very dear friend of mine and I were chatting today about "how we are doing". I told her that I was a tad bit anxious about where I am and what I was about to do, she told me that having a pair of big girl panties comes in handy at times. I laughed at the time but I took it to heart that having that mindset that I can tap into that reminds us that we will be okay.


The ability to feel the feelings, let it pass and then remember that yes, we do have this amazing resource that we can tap into this resource at any time and feel safe that whatever happens we can handle it, learn from it or grow from it.

Sit in that comfort when you feel anxious and indecisive.

Whatever decision you end up making remember this

And press on

Peace


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You May Never Be Able to Right a Wrong in Your World

A very wise teacher once said to me, “Who would you have to make wrong in order to get things right?” As long as you need to continue to make your sources “right,” you may never be able to “right a wrong” in your world. Neale Donald Walsh


This quote resonated with me today as I received news from a colleague out in Bahamas.

During this month, Hurricane Dorian battered a number of islands including Bahamas. I have the great fortune of being in Bahamas in July. I loved it. I met some wonderful people, I had fun, I fell in love with the place

Today I was told that one of the families that I met did not survive the hurricane. It was a sobering conversation reminding me that we get to choose how we live and when that time comes, it comes ready and uncompromising.

Who would we make wrong for a hurricane happening?

Who would we make wrong for natural disasters?

Isn't it just part of the cycle of life?

And something that we have no control to?

Just our response to it?

This had be pondering this morning

How do we respond to the things that we cannot control

How do we accept and not look for the right and wrong and the blame?

May the families affected by Dorian RIP

May Bahamas rise strong

Peace


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Sometimes we just have to be real

An act of personal and loving self-service is that you stop telling yourself nonsense. Carolyn Myss

Sometimes we just have to tell ourselves the truth

Sometimes we just have to tell ourselves that mistakes makes masters

Sometimes we just have to talk to ourselves with a loving yet firm voice 

Sometimes we have to peak to ourselves with compassion

Sometimes we just have to remind ourselves that not everything will go the way we intend for 

Sometimes we have to be real

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What is Your Definition of Power?

To bring any creation from the realm of imaginative vision to concrete manifestation, you must learn how to wield power effectively. Power is a quality of your soul, so it is already within you. You access it by clearing the beliefs, stories, and patterns that keep you from applying it skillfully to shape a life and business you truly love. Hiro Boga


How do you define Power?


There are so many descriptions of what power is, what is looks like, what it is supposed to be and who has it?

Like success, I have learnt that I get to describe what Power means for me, in that way I take the stress off myself and walk towards my own definition of what Power is.

In reading the work of Hiro Boga who believes that Power comes from within, I have also come to the conclusion that all of us were born with power, we forget that we have it inside us when we run towards the external definition of power which rests on the pillars of money, position and status.


Power to me is a decision to use the gifts given to each of us

It is the decision to remember that we come from Source and if we do come from Source we can tap into that source at any time

Power is knowing that we can bounce back from set backs

Power sets into motion the service, abundance, prosperity and consistency.


What is your definition of Power?


Peace

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What is Filing Your Void

Your void wants to be felt not filled. Steph Feels


Uncomfortable feelings are well....uncomfortable! We don't like to feel them, we run from them.

We suddenly find so many things to fill the void in our lives. People fill it with shopping, sex, drink, food, social media, you name it. Rather than face the uncomfortable feeling, we run from it.

We run from feeling of discomfort, we run if we think it will bring us pain.

Feelings are guides, they point us in a direction. If we ignore the guides it is so easy to get lost.

We have to know and remember that our guidance comes from feelings and decisions are best made with a balance of both head and heart

Many times our heart's decisions are illogical, it gives us uncertainty. so we shy away from those decisions waiting on certainty and signs

What we don't understand is that our feelings are the signs and we may never get the validation and certainty that we crave.

The next time you feel a void, sit in it for a moment, let it wash over you, this too shall pass, don't run to the mall, to the TV, to the phone, to the man, to the woman, to the bottle. After the feeling passes then decide what is best for the celebration!


Peace

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30 Things I Believe

What is being of service? Looking upon another human being with kindness and compassion and not judgement is a profound act of service and though such a form of service lacks for whistles and bells, this expression of “service” comes from truly understanding the power of your soul and what it means to “look upon another with eyes of grace.” Carolyn Myss


1. I believe in sleep

2. I believe that love can cure it all 

3. I believe in feeling my feelings

4. I believe that nature is my best teacher

5. I believe that friends are family minus blood lines

6. I believe that discipline and consistency combined with talent  can and will can create miracles

7. I believe in following my intuition

8. I believe that rest is part of the Journey

9. I believe in that all things are lessons that God will have us learn

10. I believe in choosing the people around you with care

11. I believe that vacations can reboot creativity 

12. I believe in joy - doing what brings you joy - and often

13. I believe in karma and  that there are consequences for your  every action

14. I believe in God and using whatever name one uses to refer to their God

15. I believe in love - yes it is worth saying it again

16. I believe that women are changing the world

17. I believe in minding my own business

18. I believe in letting people be

19. I believe that music has super powers

20. I believe in gratitude, service and giving back

21. I believe in starting where you are

22. I believe in being yourself, every single time

23. I believe in tears and its cleansing powers

24. I believe in writing things down as it makes it real

25. I believe in self belief

26. I believe the future is female

27. I believe we are never alone

28. I believe in asking for what you want

29. I believe in disrupting to create

30. I believe that anything is possible



Add to the list!

I am looking forward to hearing from you

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Let People Be

There is no right or wrong way to be spiritual, everything is spiritual since all is Spirit. Adhering to a specific diet or lifestyle doesn't make you more spiritual than anyone else, although your ego might convince you otherwise. It's all the same, baby. Zoey Ann


The ego wants us to believe that we are superior to others based on the things that we do, the clothes we wear, the places we visit, where we have gone to school and the list goes on.

The ego is simply about separation. The ego is about survival at all costs. The ego thinks that everyone is a threat.

Just because someone does not do what you do, in the same way, with the same passion and intensity does not make them inferior to you.

Everyone is different, every one has different experiences which leads to how we behave, how we respond, how we act.

If it brings you peace without harming anyone else, how they respond is their business, not yours.

Our lives is our responsibility.

No one else's

We must always remember that all of us are connected.

There really is only the illusion of separation.

Let people be, just as you would want them to let you be

Peace


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Fun is An Investment Too

Let no one tell you that taking a vacation is not an investment. People assume investments only make sense when you "deny" yourself nice things & invest in some market-tagged thing. Doing things for your well-being like having fun or taking rest and time out IS important. Chao Mmbogo



 Confessions on the Journey - I am craving a vacation and I was feeling guilty about taking one. The people around me are not interested in vacations, they are workaholics. I drank the KoolAid and now I am out here craving a vacation.

I peeped at my calendar two days ago and saw that it is literally full up until the end of September and got a tad bit depressed.

Yesterday it seemed that an event on the calendar may be cancelled, I actually got so happy I started planning vacations in my head right away! That is how much I want to be somewhere quiet doing nothing!


Vacations gives us an opportunity to reboot, to revive, to re frame our minds and bodies. Once done well, it is a catalyst for inspiration.

Don't let anyone tell you that you are wasting your time and money when you want, need and crave a vacation.


Share with me some of your favourite spots and vacation rituals

I am looking to plan one very soon

Peace


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Do You Use Affirmations?

Affirm: I change who I am first and watch how everything in my life changes for the better. It all starts with me. How I think, how I feel about myself, and how I use my time. Taking responsibility for my action and behavior only helps me become the best that I can be. Idil Ahmed


Do you use affirmations? Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts.


Confessions on the Journey -I was not a fan of affirmations at all. It's funny when we believe life is going well and everything is lined up we move along in a certain type of way. Then when shit hits the fan we look for everything available to take us out of the muck and mire.

And that was exactly my introduction to affirmations. I was literally at a point in life where I was willing to do new things to start feeling better. I decided to write my own affirmations and say them out loud on a daily basis.


When I began, it felt as if I was lying to myself. The rational brain at work telling me well this is not exactly the case honey! It took time for me to rewire my thinking to let myself know what this is a statement to challenge the old patterns and thoughts that overtook me and helped in making poor decisions.


When the self sabotaging thought surface, I speak to it with an affirmation. I saw it until the self sabotaging thought subsides. Automatically now when it comes up the affirmation appears and they do a dance in my brain. The affirmation usually wins!


Using affirmations have really helped me along the Journey in rewiring my brain and my approach to situations.


Some of my favourites are:


1. All is well and so am I


2. I am never alone


3. I am worthy of abundance


4. The more I love my body the healthier I feel


5. I bring only the best thoughts to this day


6. I release all tension, I release all fear, I release all guilt


What are some of your affirmations?


Peace


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Acceptance Leads to Transformation

Accepting something about ourselves does not mean that we don't intend to change it. In fact, it's when we fully accept something that we increase our capacity to transform it. Danielle La Porte


The definition I love most about acceptance is recognition of a thing as it stands. Recognition minus the judgement of self and others. Acceptance is tough. Well at least for me - confessions on the Journey

I want to fix, I want to change it immediately, and sometimes I even wish I had a time machine to go back in time and make this different.

Acceptance drops the need for all of that and just leads us to recognising the truth of the matter in that particular moment.

As soon as we accept, we can decide.

Acceptance takes courage, discipline and release of judgement and ego.


Taking steps towards acceptance means that we are willing to face a thing and face the feelings that are associated with it. 


It brings a level of freedom if we are willing to do the work.

Acceptance is the precursor to change.


What have you been unwilling to accept?

Peace

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Letting Go of Attachment Brings Peace of Mind

In truth, possessions don’t make us safer — they only give the illusion of security. Having more things around you doesn’t make it more likely you’ll survive tough financial times. Zen Habits


Over the last few days, I have been thinking about the things, people and beliefs that I am attached to and why?

How do they improve or affect the way I live?


I have learnt that the attachment to something, someone or a belief can be a form of fear particularly when in the moment one does not want to let go. Even if holding on is harming us.


I started asking myself - what am I afraid to let go of?

It as a tad bit hard to admit the answers honestly to myself but when I did come around to facing it my answers were:


1. My definition of what success is

2. My youth and health


I know now, that I am afraid of growing old and unhealthy and not achieving my dreams.

Having come to terms with these answers, I went on to further ask myself - what is the worst that can happen- after contemplating that for a while it became easier to reckon with it knowing that the fear of it is bigger than the reality of what may happen, because we just never know! 


We think when we let go we will lose something important, we think we are giving up. The truth is, letting go is a form of strength, it makes room for new and gives peace of mind. Knowing that whatever happens will be a lesson or a blessing opens the door for being grateful for every experience even if it is not fun!

So what are you attached to?

Peace

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Stay in Touch with Your Intuition

That’s the thing about when you push – yourself, your chances, your hopes, your abilities – there’s always the chance that you’re pushing too hard and too fast to notice what’s really going on. You’re gunning for the outcome and you miss the information presenting itself in the process. Maxi Mc Coy


I am sharing today a message from Maxi McCoy which resonated with me in a huge way

"When something happens to us. That intuition was normally there, in a way. But we ignore. We temper. We quiet it down. We want to move quickly, relentlessly, to what we want anyways. When I look back on being screwed over, I had signals. I had signals when the woman representing me in business was a total fraud, and I’m lucky that I got every dime back from her because many didn’t. Or the time that I had indicators from the get-go when everything that date was telling me just did. not. add. up. In the end, it required me to call and act like I was someone I wasn’t to verify his education and employment. Yes, I went there. And it didn’t end well. 

Bad feelings. Weird feelings. Off feelings. They’re there. Sometimes they’re unfounded and simply fear based. Sometimes they’re completely founded and knowing based. And the only time that you’re really f*cking your own self over is when you rationalize the latter. When you talk yourself out of feeling what you feel. When you analyze your intuition out of the picture. When you call yourself crazy, overreacting, dramatic, or emotional. Don’t do that. Your body – this beautiful, knowing, powerful intelligence – is trying to tell you something. Let it speak. Let it guide. Let it work its way through a decision alongside whatever your head is saying. 

Stay in touch. Do what needs to be done to stay there – by breathing, by getting quiet, by crying, by being still, by meditating, by taking a bath, by not talking about it, by journaling, by moving your body, by praying – and the wisdom you need will show up. And it’ll be all yours. Avoid that wisdom, and ya…you’re screwing yourself. But you’ll learn. Every bad choice we make is an opportunity to remember what our intuition was saying in the beginning"


Peace



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Take Your Power Back

Your thoughts are powerful. Your stories are powerful. Tell a story about power and agency, see yourself and the people in your world as powerful, able to participate in miracles that transform themselves and their world, and you lend them your power. Hiro Boga


I wanted to test this theory of powerful thoughts and telling myself powerful stories. I decided to do it with during a long run. Running is an activity that has now become a part of my life, I can safely say it was never something that I was interested in or loved, only because I felt that I would not be able to do it.

On the 10K route yesterday I decided to think and tell myself only powerful thoughts.

There is a particular part of the hill that I walk because I believed it was hard, I would burn out and plainly that I would not be able to make it

And so began by power thought test - you can do it was the mantra. I also invited the negative thought in then replaced it with the mantra as soon as it surfaced. At the end of the run, the trainer said to me - "you looked really comfortable running the hills" well well well apart from the continuous run without stopping I was told this as confirmation of the how powerful our thoughts are.


The next time you are in a situation that is uncomfortable, unknown, scary, you don't know what to do, pay attention to the language you speak, the thoughts you tell yourself. Flip the script and remember you are powerful, your thoughts are powerful.


Holding on to the statements such as

"This is just how I am"

"I cannot deal with this"

"I refuse to deal with this"

sends a message that you have decided to give up your power.

Take your Power Back!

Peace


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Go For IT...

We all have excuses for why we don’t shine. For why we don’t show up fully as our beautiful, magical, glorious, radiant, divine Selves. There is too much talent going to waste. If you are wondering if you are needed this is your wake up call. You are here, that means we need you. Mayaam Hasnaa

Excuses and justifications are most times fear. Fear of failure or fear of success.

The "what if's" come in and plays havoc with our brains if we are not grounded in who we are.

Ask around those who are living their dreams and their best lives - they let go of excuses and justifications, they take responsibility for where they are, the learn the lessons and walk the talk.

There is always a reason not to do something, not to start something, not to take that risk. Many times they all seem like pretty valid reasons. How does the excuses, reasons and rationale given to stay stuck where you are compare to the feeling you get from living your best life? You will never know if you don't take that step.

What's the worst that can happen? You end up exactly where you started!

Shine

Show up

Take that Risk

Take Responsibility

you will thank yourself when you do.


Peace

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Communication Requires Acceptance

We are required to communicate in this world if we want to have healthy and functional relationships. We can get a bit further in this life if we acknowledge that we need something and show the person the way. I’m not asking you to spoon feed a person, nor am I asking you to explain the same thing 49 times. I’m asking you to consider what it might feel like to balance out all of the ways that love can be given and received and equalize it. Vienna Pharaon


A friend of mine was chatting with me yesterday, he was bemoaning the fact that his wife does not listen to him. I asked him what does he mean by "she does not listen to him"? He responded with- she hardly ever does what he says or asks her to do.

That got me to thinking, does listening to someone only mean that we do what they say or ask us to, in the same way and form?


I would say no.

I would say that listening means hearing someone and using the feedback to make the best decision possible for themselves. Sometimes that response may be completely different to what what advice was given or request made.

It can never be doing exactly what someone else says out of fear, people pleasing and lack of self belief.


Communication is a skill, it takes practice, patience, compassion and acceptance Acceptance is simply recognition. When you recognize a thing, you see it for what it is. All of our experiences, no matter how awful they appear to be, are temporary. According to Iyanla Vanzant, Acceptance of an experience as a temporary situation can make it a lot easier to handle. There are times when all the skills required to communicate effectively will become necessary when dealing with others. It is a wonderful lesson in growth when communication becomes a love language.

The willingness to communicate is important, there will be times people may not agree nor listen to you and your point of view, how do you respond in that case?

Remember that there are different love languages, different points of views. Diversity is a beautiful thing!


Peace


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Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
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— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
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— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
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— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
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— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
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— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
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