Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

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When You Believe Something, You have made it true for you

“When you believe something, you have made it true for you.”  When we try to hold opposing thought systems as both true, our mind becomes split, conflicted and confused. ACIM


What do you believe?

What do you believe about you?

What do you believe about the world?

What do you believe about YOUR world?


If you don't know what you believe, look at your actions, look at your life

Your actions and your life reflect your beliefs

and the beautiful thing about this is if you can acknowledge that then you are on your way to peace

If you acknowledge and accept that your beliefs are working, then you can enjoy the moment, you can take the gifts and lessons into a new adventure, you can share.

If you can acknowledge and accept that your beliefs are not working, you can make movements to replace those beliefs with ones that work. Not working means - you are not living a peaceful life.


Your beliefs are true for you. and therefore you will live from that space

What do you believe?

Peace

Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there

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Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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What Are Your Green Flags?

Everyone warns you about red flags in a relationship but I want to hear about green flags.What’s some green flags for you? - Boi McCoy


Here are some of the ones I dig:

1. Allowing silence - sitting in silence without feeling the need to full it up with chatter, music, small talk, noise

2. Going with the flow when things are seemingly out of control - bump up to a challenge - flow rather than fold

3. Putting down the toilet seat - yea I said that!

4. Being kind to people and animals

5. Being kind to children and babies

6. Self Belief even when the doubts come

7. Loving Nature

8. Loving Sports

9. Willingness to forgive, communicate and move on

10. Making Quality time just for us - without a phone

12. Have genuine friends

13. Makes time for rest and fun

14. Keeps it real - an authentic person - no performance masks

15. Practices gratitude and generosity


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Celebrate the Small Wins

Take one step towards doing something you have been thinking about. Speak to yourself calmly, firmly. Do things that are in alignment with your thinking. Celebrate any little progress you make. Iyanla Vanzant


A friend and I were chatting about getting to our goals, how do we move to the next step, when do we know it's time to do something different. It dawned upon me then that many times we do not in any way celebrate our small wins, postponing it for a big win. It also dawned on me that many small wins can add up to a big win.


Celebrating the small wins makes the journey easier, makes it fun. Who can be serious all the time without feeling burnt out? The fun part gives us an impetus to move ahead with some more joy happiness in the mix.

I truly believe that celebrating the small victories is a part of the journey. Celebrate them and then get back down to work.

Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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What's in A Name?

f you whisper your own name and picture what it means, you will rediscover your personal medicine - Jamie Sams



I have an unusual name for where I live. I live outside of the African continent and my name originated from Africa. At school I was teased about it, teachers and students struggled to pronounce it and the spelling was butchered time and time again. Added to that my second name was long and changed twice.


When I was in school I got into a couple of fights because of the teasing, after a while I withdrew and started using a nickname to avoid the drama. As fate would have it I was teased about my nick name as well.


As I grew up, I started making up stories that if my name is unique, then I must also be unique. That changed the game for me. I started embracing the name with more confidence and love. It changed the way I started saying it out loud

I also learnt about letting things go. If I got upset or ran around to everyone who teased me, misspelt my name and made fun of me it would have left me depleted and exhausted. I learnt to let it go, that helped in keeping calm. Calm in now my super power


I found my medicine!

Peace

Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there

https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

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Facebook


Discernment

memories are a dangerous thing to be in love with. i hope you learn to discern the difference between the love you have for someone, and the love you have for the moments you spent together. Billy Chapata


It's a challenge to change habits, to change a life, to change what we are used to. Many times we remember the fond times, the memories and tell ourselves that maybe just maybe we can have a moment like that again. We convince ourselves that maybe things will change, the situation will change, the person will change. And yes, sometimes that happens, and sometimes it does not happen.

The challenge happens when nothing changes, not even you!

Then the pleasant memories start becoming fleeting, they start being the exception, we continue to hang on to the hope and remember those times.


I have learnt that everyone is inherently a loving soul. Sometimes they don't know how to display it, or sometimes they have forgotten. People in our lives are all teachers and mirrors. When do we know to love someone from afar?

When we are uncomfortable to be our full, true authentic selves - there is never a need to "perform" for our loved ones

When we are afraid to grow around them - for fear of making them feel bad or small- having the freedom and support to grow is love

When we are not sure what their mood will be and act accordingly - communication is absent

When we are only remembering the good times to keep us from leaving

When we are making excuses, rationales, justification and reasons to stay where we are - even when no one asks

When we are thinking about leaving

When we are sad more times than happy


Trust that it's time to start discerning whether you are holding on to hope of the past becoming the present or just walking around in fear

Peace


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there

https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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I choose

I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross


I choose

I choose peace over chaos & I’m proud of my choice

I choose spirituality over religion, &   I’m proud of my choice

I choose real over phony & I’m proud of my choice

I choose to dream more dreams than live in a nightmare & I’m proud of my choice

I choose to embrace real life over getting lost in a fantasy & I’m proud of my choice

I choose divine guidance over external validation & I’m proud of my choice

I choose courage over fear & I’m proud of my choice

I choose bake period.

I choose consistency & discipline over speed and fads & I’m proud of my choice

I choose to wait rather than settle & I’m proud of my choice



Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook


Are You Paying Attention to the Signs Your Life is Showing You?

Your life is always speaking to you - Oprah Winfrey

Your life is always telling you something. It may not be in words. We all know that communication may be without words. How many times do you get goosebumps totally out of the blue? That is life telling you something

How many times have you felt so peaceful in a strange space? That is life speaking to you

How many times have you had unexplained migranes, or some type of sickness? That  is your life speaking to you

There is an old saying "if you don't hear you will feel" Your life will throw up signs to you to get you to pay attention

When life wants your attention it will get it. 

If you ignore life, it will continue to communicate with you.

Take the time to pay attention and listen to the signs.

Be a good listener 

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

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Instagram

Facebook


Be You

Do not throw away truth in favour of illusions - ACIM



I was listening to Oprah Winfrey's Super Soul Sessions yesterday, the topic was "Your Truth". I was quite enthralled with her story- I guess who isn't right? It's Oprah! What resonated with me was her story on how someone gave her the platform to be herself and it was for her the best advice she ever took. In her words, she made quite a lot of money being herself. She had a phenomenal life being herself.

How many times have we not been given permission to - just be your yourself?

How many times have we been asked to be a little more this or a little more that, or a little less this or a little less that?

How many people say change how you look to fit in, change how you speak, change what you wear!

Here is Ms Winfrey saying do you, be your best you, work it baby!

I was heartened by that advice because I am a total advocate being your best self.

Who can be you better than you?

No one!

Who do you have to pretend to be you?

No one!


Be you. Be all in.fall get up.learn.do it again.repeat

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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Instagram

Facebook

Manifestation

Reality is a projection of your thoughts or the things you habitually think about.” ― Stephen Richards

Manifestation is always a lesson that I was fascinated with

Manifestation is this case is about seeing something in my mind's eye, doing the work and then letting it go, surrendering to the process in faith, trust and patience! The surrendering part is always the most challenging

As I practice it more I get better at it and less fussed about what and when things will happen

I had a conversation with my business manager a few months ago, I wanted to talk at an annual conference which I believed fit in to my vision. I asked her if she knew anyone that we could have approached. Left it there

Come Sunday 8th July I will be speaking at this conference, it landed in my lap! They called me yesterday and asked if I would be interested in speaking at the event

I literally screamed! Manifestation at it utmost best!

I have learnt when we are impatient, and doubtful we stump the process, when we are wanting to control it all, we stump the process,  when we blame others, we stump the process

So what do we do, do the work and have the faith

Doing the work is being at your best, making the calls, sending the emails, showing up, being present, listening to the intuition- not acting on fear and doubt!

and, and, and, learning to surrender it all

Peace

Catch me at Girls First this Sunday

https://firstcitizensaccess.com/girlsfirst/

 

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

 

Follow Akosua on

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Football Fever

For after all, the best thing one can do when it is raining is let it rain.” 

― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

I am fascinated by football - the beautiful game as Pele calls it! I can sit and watch football for hours. Me and the telly! nothing else, time will pass I will not even remember to eat until the rumblings of my stomach reminds mw that it was not fed. Every four years 32 countries from around the world come together to play the World Cup, which determines the best footballing nation on the planet.

During this time, I am front middle and center in the thick of this celebration

I have never in my adult life missed this, even when I am travelling

I rememeber in 2010 I was in New Orleans, not a football city to say the least, and the time difference for when the games were being aired was mad! I eventually had to change hotels with one with football showing on the television.

So this season, it is quite strange that I have to miss games, it is quite an adjustment.I thought that I would literally die, however hey I am still alive! After the fuss, I totally accepted that the choices that I have made brought me here and this is where it is at!

I rush home though to see the highlights and listen secretly in the car! Yea it's just like that!

 

Peace

Akosua

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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Instagram

Facebook

 

Spicing Up The Spice Isle Day 3

the reality is, I want to share my work in a BIG way! And I want to be brave enough to step out on the edge with the hard stuff. That means my chances of messing up are high, so instead of avoiding the hard, scary stuff, I’ve got to be willing to stay open and learn from others. Sara Alvarado


Fear - what a hell of a thing! I keep myself in a box because of fear, this feeling reared it's head here on the Spice Isle in two instances

I walked to the beach, I mean out of a post card, white sands, blue water, empty beach, I looked at it lovingly but I would never step in the water! It scares me shitless!

When I was younger I almost drowned twice, the feeling of helplessness, I never let it go. It still lives within me, on top of that, I have a fear of wearing a swimsuit, yup there it is, I said it! I feel soooooo naked and judged, I know I know It is all me and in my head, still holding on to those fears which has me missing out on white sandy beaches all over the world!

The other fear, a woman told me at the workshop yesterday that she uses the TedTalk that I had the absolute priveledge delivering and What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love - the book that I also had to absolute priveledge in writing - as part of her tools when she delivers programmes to young ladies. It blew me away and I got scared too. What if it does not help them? Wht if they rebel against using it? What if, What if, What if!

Fear! 

If I want my message and journeys shared I must be willing to step out of these comfort zones, so with you, what boxes are you still in because of fear? In what ways are you holding yourself back?

After processing all the what if's in my mind - that took about 3 minutes, I told her thank you and smiled. 

Peace

Spicing Up The Spice Isle Day 2

Little things seem nothing, but they give peace, like those meadow flowers which individually seem odorless but all together perfume the air. Georges Bernanos

Grenada is lovely, the laid back vibe is unmissable, the people are friendly and the hotel that put us up is just fabulous! And it is close to the beach - nothing beats that!

I took the opportunity to run to the beach this morning at 6am, to my surprise the beach was full of people, seems as though it was a senior citizens party that was either starting or continuing. Senior citizens were there having a good time. I smiled at the scenes, I smiled because the simple things can bring us so much joy, nature, the beach, good friends, companionship! The little things are usually the big things

The excitement they were giving off made me stop to watch them further, and I smiled more

What a great simple way to start my day

I will be co-facilitating a workshop today, giving thanks for the oportunity to share lessons on the journey

 

Peace

6 Things I am No Longer Spending Time On

there are some habits, people, practices, and choices that I simply don’t have any time for anymore. And I don’t have time for them because they create cycles of energy that stress me out. And most importantly, they’re not pushing me to heal, to grow, or to get better. So done. Done with dirty playing fields. Done with letting images, messages, and molds tell us what to do. Maxie McCoy


Have you ever had one of those moments when you just get it? When the light bulb switches on and you say "Oh I get it!!" (sometimes loudly and in libraries and bank halls)

This hit me during this week. There are just some things that I must, absolutely must, spending time on:


1.  Convincing others - that my way is the right way, that they ought to be doing "so and so" and to mind their own business - done with that. I don't know it all, I don't know their full story only what they have told me and want me to know and let me mind my own business so when others are not I will not even know or care.


2. People Pleasing - OMG! Can I just stop this, immediately? Yes I can. It's a definite no win situation. Accept that some people will just not like me, deal with it, they are not part of my tribe.

3. Saying Yes when I want to say No - overcrowding my schedule. This saying yes when I want to say no is also directly related to people pleasing! No is sometimes self care, it is sometimes self honoring and it is many times essential.

4. Looking for External Validation - just going to do my utmost best and leave the rest. The mantra is "Be cool with you."


5. Not Believing in Myself - Believe in yourself or who's gonna? The doubt will be there, the worry may step in, the fear too but hey.....believe. progress over perfection every single time.


6. Being Around Friends who don't believe in you or treat you like shite - Need I say more?

Have You Read Akosua's Books

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Always Live Within The Question

The question! The question! Always live

within the question!"  It is when you think you have

all the answers that expansion ends, growth stops, and

your arrogance begins. Neale Donald Walsh

I was told that, in certain scenarios, I ask a lot of questions, and uncomfortable ones as well. 

Trust me, that is really never my intention, I ask questions  for  clarity - I believe in the Four Agreements made popular Don Miguel Ruiz.One of the Agreements, is do not assume, find the courage to ask the questions.

And for me, finding courage to ask questions was huge as the irony is, my friends who know me from a very long time gave me the name "I did not ask" 

We would be chatting away and they would ask me about something and my response would be "I did not ask". It became a huge inside joke. 

Now, the sentiment is that I ask too many questions!

I like asking questions, I learn more and I have more information and I am clear. 

Decision making improves all round.

I have noticed though, that people get very testy when I ask certain questions, some even get annoyed enough to preface our conversations with "please ask no questions, or please do not ask me to many hard questions" 

I have learnt to deal with these requests more graciously with time.

This week, a friend of mine made a request for a favour. I asked a few questions and she said this to me "I do not have all the answers, you do ask a lot of questions, but what I realise when I calm down is in answering them or thinking about them, I get more clarity or I find the answer somewhere" 

I smiled like I ate a hot homemade coconut bake straight out of the oven!

because I found the courage to ask,I am getting more compassionate in my approach and my intention was realised.

Lessons and More Lessons

Peace

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Dream Big

The universe is always packing for the adventure of your dreams -- that’s the law of dreaming -- you cannot dream anything that cannot be achieved . . . everything you dream is available to you. When you doubt that you’ll be included in, or allowed to experience your next destination -- you have no joy to enjoy it with. Guru Singh 


Dream big!

I was looking at an awards show speech last night given by Tiffany Haddish an actress and comedienne, who, right now to me, in not only the funniest but also the most inspirational character I have encountered for a long time! She brings the humour and the humility with her whenever I experience her

Tiffany had a hard life by all normal standards but she used it as a push forward, with a smile on her face

She said to dream big, imagine it and see it

How many of us dream at all?

It seems as if we leave sreaming when we become adults and that is when we ought to tap into it the most

I looked at Tiffany's speech and thought to myself- reactivate those dreams girlfriend

It will involve work and it will involve some no's and perhaps some tears but can you imagine how much it will be worth it when they come true?

And of course, include some rest in there because rest is part of the work!

Peace

Life is a Game of Boomerangs

before you think, do, or say anything -- imagine what it

would be like to receive what you are sending. Florence Schovel Shinn

 I posted a comment on Instagram today, and there were some comments about, particularly that it it was judgemental and condesending. I thought about that for a moment and then I said to myself

"Self, you know what?, that was so not your intention so leave that alone"

I received some comments about it and started to answer it, granted I got a tad bit frustrated as well because I honestly was not intending to hurt harm be judgemental or all of the above. 

In the end I deduced that people interpret things based on their experiences and beliefs, if they do not have the opportunity to ask questions then they run with that interpretation. I am now okay with that. I am okay with it knowing what my intentions are. There is no way that we can please everyone- can I just repeat that for my own eyes?

There is no way that we can please everyone!

And there is no way that I can respond to everyone's comments and questions nor should I!

Accepting my intentions and owning the responsibility for what I put out is the most that I can do

Detachment from the outcome also helps!

So the next time people interpret what you say and what you do and comes back with fire or a totally out of timing negative response, ask yourself

What were my intentions?

Do I take responsibility and own what I believe?

Am I taking this response personally?

The answers to that will pull you forward!

Peace

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Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer