memories are a dangerous thing to be in love with. i hope you learn to discern the difference between the love you have for someone, and the love you have for the moments you spent together. Billy Chapata
It's a challenge to change habits, to change a life, to change what we are used to. Many times we remember the fond times, the memories and tell ourselves that maybe just maybe we can have a moment like that again. We convince ourselves that maybe things will change, the situation will change, the person will change. And yes, sometimes that happens, and sometimes it does not happen.
The challenge happens when nothing changes, not even you!
Then the pleasant memories start becoming fleeting, they start being the exception, we continue to hang on to the hope and remember those times.
I have learnt that everyone is inherently a loving soul. Sometimes they don't know how to display it, or sometimes they have forgotten. People in our lives are all teachers and mirrors. When do we know to love someone from afar?
When we are uncomfortable to be our full, true authentic selves - there is never a need to "perform" for our loved ones
When we are afraid to grow around them - for fear of making them feel bad or small- having the freedom and support to grow is love
When we are not sure what their mood will be and act accordingly - communication is absent
When we are only remembering the good times to keep us from leaving
When we are making excuses, rationales, justification and reasons to stay where we are - even when no one asks
When we are thinking about leaving
When we are sad more times than happy
Trust that it's time to start discerning whether you are holding on to hope of the past becoming the present or just walking around in fear
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