Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

The Reaction of Others

The feedback is not so much the details of their opinions and the specific things they say in the moment. Rather, the real feedback lies in the gist of their reaction to us. That reaction can tell us if we are in ego mode, which is invaluable feedback for us. ACIM



We live our lives on this plane with others. Some of us live our lives more publicly than others - some by choice and others by purpose.

Whichever it is, there will be feedback involved. Some feedback we ask for and some we don't. Some feedback we like and some we don't.

I have learnt that all feedback is useful and  involves some type of lesson. The Course in Miracles says that our response to feedback determines if it comes from a place of fear or not.

As soon as we start getting defensive we know, fear has stepped in.

As soon as we want to justify, make excuses, sometimes even fight, rest assured that those are fear based responses.

We know the difference between the unwarranted attacks and feedback. We really do despite what we think or say. 

Social media has opened us up for unwarranted feedback - how do we handle this?

Being in the public domain is also a place where unwarranted feedback is par for the course.

Stand firm in yourself and know that when  the feedback comes to you, it comes for a reason. It may be to set boundaries, it may be to grow, it may be to cut someone off, it may be to believe in yourself and stop seeking external validation, it may be for you to grow and get better. 

What I do know is, feedback can be useful. Especially when received with a willing spirit and an open mind.

And one has to be prepared for it, whether you are a so called public figure or not.

Being prepared for it comes down simply to knowing who you are and having a willingness to grow, to listen and to learn.


Peace

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer