Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

6 Things I am No Longer Spending Time On

there are some habits, people, practices, and choices that I simply don’t have any time for anymore. And I don’t have time for them because they create cycles of energy that stress me out. And most importantly, they’re not pushing me to heal, to grow, or to get better. So done. Done with dirty playing fields. Done with letting images, messages, and molds tell us what to do. Maxie McCoy


Have you ever had one of those moments when you just get it? When the light bulb switches on and you say "Oh I get it!!" (sometimes loudly and in libraries and bank halls)

This hit me during this week. There are just some things that I must, absolutely must, spending time on:


1.  Convincing others - that my way is the right way, that they ought to be doing "so and so" and to mind their own business - done with that. I don't know it all, I don't know their full story only what they have told me and want me to know and let me mind my own business so when others are not I will not even know or care.


2. People Pleasing - OMG! Can I just stop this, immediately? Yes I can. It's a definite no win situation. Accept that some people will just not like me, deal with it, they are not part of my tribe.

3. Saying Yes when I want to say No - overcrowding my schedule. This saying yes when I want to say no is also directly related to people pleasing! No is sometimes self care, it is sometimes self honoring and it is many times essential.

4. Looking for External Validation - just going to do my utmost best and leave the rest. The mantra is "Be cool with you."


5. Not Believing in Myself - Believe in yourself or who's gonna? The doubt will be there, the worry may step in, the fear too but hey.....believe. progress over perfection every single time.


6. Being Around Friends who don't believe in you or treat you like shite - Need I say more?

Have You Read Akosua's Books

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School