In order to truly forgive, each of us must process through the full range of lessons, feelings and emotions associated with the traumatic events in our lives. Blind forgiveness is the easy way out and is usually the route most people prefer. Blind forgiveness is denial and avoidance. It helps people brush things under the rug without ever getting to the root cause of the problem. Unfortunately, this leads to a pattern of recreation in the future because it was never properly addressed. You cannot change a problem with the same state of consciousness that created the problem. Sabrina Reber
For a very long time I believed that forgiveness was about letting the other person off the hook. I never wanted to forgive anyone, I would simply put it out of my mind. As far as I was concerned, the person did not exist and what happened never happened.
That, my dear friends, does not work. Ignoring and pretending is a sure fire way of bringing the lesson back over and over again.
Sabrina Reber in her book "How To Raise Your Vibration" talks about blind forgiveness, she says
"blind forgiveness is a way for people to avoid truly getting in touch with their feelings. When we avoid our feelings we hold onto them, stuffing them in our energy fields giving them great power. These stuffed feelings become reactive emotions fueling the fires of emotional imbalance, depression, disease and illness in the body. True forgiveness is an energetic experience that occurs when we dissolve and release stuffed traumatic events that are stored in our energy fields"
Forgiveness is big! It is the very thing that releases us from the bonds we hold t the past and propels us forward. Forgiveness of self first, then of others. Many times we give away our power, especially when we refuse to do the work, We hide behind escapsim and religion. We go to church and believe that just being there will exempt us from doing the work. Newsflash is does not, The free will we are given allows us to make choices. If we choose to not do the work and go down that other route our lives will reflect it back to us, the lessons will continue to come until we feel, deal then heal.
According to Sabrina Reber,by allowing our emotions to surface, we can understand and integrate them helping us to dissolve our judgments about ourselves and each other. We can then move into a place of clarity and understanding, choosing to release our pain, while we retrieve the wisdom from the event that will help our soul grow. Once the lesson is learned, forgiveness is an essential step on the path to healing.
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