Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

What's in A Name?

f you whisper your own name and picture what it means, you will rediscover your personal medicine - Jamie Sams



I have an unusual name for where I live. I live outside of the African continent and my name originated from Africa. At school I was teased about it, teachers and students struggled to pronounce it and the spelling was butchered time and time again. Added to that my second name was long and changed twice.


When I was in school I got into a couple of fights because of the teasing, after a while I withdrew and started using a nickname to avoid the drama. As fate would have it I was teased about my nick name as well.


As I grew up, I started making up stories that if my name is unique, then I must also be unique. That changed the game for me. I started embracing the name with more confidence and love. It changed the way I started saying it out loud

I also learnt about letting things go. If I got upset or ran around to everyone who teased me, misspelt my name and made fun of me it would have left me depleted and exhausted. I learnt to let it go, that helped in keeping calm. Calm in now my super power


I found my medicine!

Peace

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Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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You Will Be Presented With Lessons

"You will be presented with lessons. Life is a constant learning experience, which every day provides opportunities for you to learn more. These lessons are specific to you, and learning them 'is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and relevance of your own life'.There are no mistakes, only lessons. Your development towards wisdom is a process of experimentation, trial and error, so it's inevitable things will not always go to plan or turn out how you'd want. Compassion is the remedy for harsh judgement - of ourselves and others. Forgiveness is not only divine - it's also 'the act of erasing an emotional debt'. Behaving ethically, with integrity, and with humour - especially the ability to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps - are central to the perspective that 'mistakes' are simply lessons we must learn Lessons repeat until learned Learning does not end " Cherie Scott 



blessings are everywhere. I could embrace the deep truth that, “I have everything I need.” I may not have all that I want but how much do I want? And why do I want all "those" things? I’m not sure I’ve reflected upon that question long and hard. I wonder what I would discover about myself. I could wander into the rare air of truth – that life is but a very brief journey. Do I invest this precious gift of my life chasing after fleeting things or by treating each day and each experience as a new surprise? Anything can happen. I could dwell in faith: I am blessed. Many times, I am not sure what that means but how much do I need to have to realize my blessings? 
One whole day......


Peace


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Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Discernment

memories are a dangerous thing to be in love with. i hope you learn to discern the difference between the love you have for someone, and the love you have for the moments you spent together. Billy Chapata


It's a challenge to change habits, to change a life, to change what we are used to. Many times we remember the fond times, the memories and tell ourselves that maybe just maybe we can have a moment like that again. We convince ourselves that maybe things will change, the situation will change, the person will change. And yes, sometimes that happens, and sometimes it does not happen.

The challenge happens when nothing changes, not even you!

Then the pleasant memories start becoming fleeting, they start being the exception, we continue to hang on to the hope and remember those times.


I have learnt that everyone is inherently a loving soul. Sometimes they don't know how to display it, or sometimes they have forgotten. People in our lives are all teachers and mirrors. When do we know to love someone from afar?

When we are uncomfortable to be our full, true authentic selves - there is never a need to "perform" for our loved ones

When we are afraid to grow around them - for fear of making them feel bad or small- having the freedom and support to grow is love

When we are not sure what their mood will be and act accordingly - communication is absent

When we are only remembering the good times to keep us from leaving

When we are making excuses, rationales, justification and reasons to stay where we are - even when no one asks

When we are thinking about leaving

When we are sad more times than happy


Trust that it's time to start discerning whether you are holding on to hope of the past becoming the present or just walking around in fear

Peace


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there

https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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I choose

I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.” Elisabeth Kubler-Ross


I choose

I choose peace over chaos & I’m proud of my choice

I choose spirituality over religion, &   I’m proud of my choice

I choose real over phony & I’m proud of my choice

I choose to dream more dreams than live in a nightmare & I’m proud of my choice

I choose to embrace real life over getting lost in a fantasy & I’m proud of my choice

I choose divine guidance over external validation & I’m proud of my choice

I choose courage over fear & I’m proud of my choice

I choose bake period.

I choose consistency & discipline over speed and fads & I’m proud of my choice

I choose to wait rather than settle & I’m proud of my choice



Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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It Takes A Village

A family is a patchwork of individuals tied together by heartstrings - Kav L'Noar


In everything I do, I am blessed and ever so grateful to have a village surrounding me. I have learnt that we cannot do everything alone, that there is a time and place for everything.

A time to give and a time to receive.

We have to learn when is the time for both and move accordingly.


The NiNa Programme is no different, the village of Pat and Avinash surround me making this journey so much richer and rewarding.


On 23rd July  2019, we have another opportunity to interact with young ladies who always show up and teach me about unconditional love, the power in respecting others and that non judgement has an impact on decisions made.


It is never an easy road hoping on the Journey however, knowing that there is a Village is worth the trip.


I Give Thanks


Peace


NiNa - WHAT IS IT?


  • § NiNa is a programme targeting young ladies between the ages of 15 to 18 who reside at the St Jude’s Home for Girls. - A Care Home Operated by the State.

  • § NiNa promotes mentorship with young ladies within the care system

  • § Born out of a need to provide support to young ladies who are part of the care system through either being given up for adoption, through the court system or any other method.

  • § Forerunner for the use of Entrepreneurship skills as an empowerment tool

  • § A week long residential programme held annually with monthly mentorship activities

  • § Transition space for young ladies leaving the care system at the age of eighteen (18)

  • § A self-sustainable programme which can provide training and employment for young ladies in transition out of the care system


To support us, please contact us 

http://www.akosuadardaineedwards.com/contact-me


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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First Thing to Remember Is

First thing to remember is... you ARE the one - Louise Hazel

My grandma said last night " be number one in your world, be your own hero, be your love" that resonated with me.

It resonated because so many times we look on the outside for our number one's, for the most important thing in our lives, and here it is, right there, we are the the ones we look for

It resonated with me because this thinking will not let me off the hook by looking outside of myself and blaming others for answers to the questions that I know

It resonated with me because it simply is the truth - it is the truth for all of us, we are the hero's in our own story. We are all the lead actors

Peace


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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To Teach is To Demonstrate

If you don’t know where your boundaries are, let me show you mine - Emma Magenta

A Course in Miracles says to teach is to demonstrate. To teach is to show yourself and those around you by your actions, by what you do.

Many times we talk with no actions, we say we want to do something and make zero movements towards it.

Newsflash there are zero brownie points for only talking about what you want to do

It is a commendable first step, however the magic lies from the action beyond the talk.

Talking about it alone will not bring it about.

How many times have we talked ourselves out of doing a thing? How many times do we find reasons, rationales. justifications and excuses for not doing something that is a burning desire because of fear and that lovely place called the comfort zone?

How many times have we talked ourselves out rather than talk ourselves into?

Pay attention to when your self talk heads in the direction of talking yourself out of your deep seated desires because of fear.

Pay attention to it because when it is something that you really must do, or is called to do, the consequences later will be far greater.


Peace

Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Self Talk

The way you talk to yourself can really impact your confidence. The effect can be good or bad depending on whether your self-talk is positive or negative - Reach Out.Com

So I forgot the speech! I got on the stage, saw the crowd and froze, it was truly a moment, my mind started racing, I started thinking of scenarios to save myself.

Breathing was the first thing that came to mind

so I did that

I talked myself out of being disappointed that my very wonderful speech could not be delivered, how I wasted an entire two days, how I can bomb right here on this stage.

I pulled myself together and decided to just talk about what I know and relate it to the theme.

That seemed to work

So I learnt that the self talk in a tough situation is important, it guides us subconsciously to act. If the talk is positive and non judgemental, the results follow

If the self talk is judgemental and negative, the fear sets in!

So in the end, I spoke the gibberish for a few minutes then I spoke from the heart.

It turned out well!

Peace


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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We Look Straight Into the Present

We look neither ahead nor backwards. We look straight into the present. And we give our trust to the experience we ask for now. ACIM


Today is the first of July, in this world order, the year is in its second part, second phase. I like to review where I am at the present moment. How I feel as I chart the way forward to end of the year. As I reflect upon it this moment I realised that my clarity in my intentions have brought me here. 


This morning I have the opportunity to deliver the motivational message at a company's 15th Anniversary Celebrations


Confessions on the Journey - I am nervous, it's a different type of company and they asked for a specific type of message. So it is totally out of my comfort zone of showing up and sharing some of my story. At the same time, I am excited because this is a manifestation of what happens when we get what we asked for with a clear intention and the proper support.


I locked myself away this weekend to prepare for this, and I am still nervous as hell! I know that to get the things that I asked for I have to develop the qualities required to roll it out.

Discipline

Courage

Self Belief

Release of Ego and Release of Judgement

to name a few

And if this is what it takes to be the best me, I am all for it.

This morning I intend to look straight into the present moment, to be fully in the mix so that I can learn while having fun.

Send me some good vibes, I need it!


Peace


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Are You Playing Small?

negative self-talk is playing small.
giving into fear is playing small.
saying "i'll do it tomorrow" is playing small.
comparing yourself to another is playing small.
creating narratives of false impending dooms is playing small.
restricting your possibilities by perpetuating old cycles is playing small
. Olivia Jade


Why do you play small?

Marianne Williamson says it is our greatness that scares us more than anything else.

To become "great" means becoming a great person. That means we cannot skip the process, we cannot skip the lessons.

My definition of greatness is living on purpose with purpose, living in peace and faith despite the challenges and situations we find ourselves in

The great ones, had to go through the process, to do the work

The discipline

The faith

The consistency

The patience

The self belief

The showing up

The questioning of the beliefs

The pissing people off

The self care

Not willing to any of those things?

Then you may just be playing small

Why?

You were born for a purpose no one else can fill

You are magnificent

Catch that

Peace


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Blame or Responsibility?

Quite often we confuse accepting responsibility for bearing the blame - Iyanla Vanzant

Accepting responsibility leads to self acceptance, self discovery, self correction

Blame leads to looking for some punishment

Accepting responsibility  leads to choices, choices have consequences

Blame leads to punishment

Accepting responsibility leads to self evaluation

Blame leads to punishment

Accepting responsibility leads to lessons on the journey

Blame leads to pointing fingers and speaking about others

Which one would you choose?

Peace

Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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The A in Self Love

My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you I the best place for the next moment.

Oprah Winfrey


The A in self-love

What happens after you have reached a point of unconditional self love? does life just run smoothly? is there continual bliss? are all your problems magically solved?

Well i would say no

Unconditional self-love is not the answer to all

It really isn’t

Unconditional self-love offers hope

The hope for confidence to deal with the challenges one will inevitably face on this journey called life

Do not be fooled into thinking finding unconditional self-love is the ultimate fixer

What this love does is, it holds you accountable, it makes you more responsible and it leads to making more hopeful and loving decisions both for you and others

It does not give you a pass to be a jerk to others in the name of “i love myself”

It does not give you the reason to blame anyone or anything on “for the love”

Unconditional self-love is the foundation

Without a solid foundation everything all falls down

Accountability looks like owning your stuff

It looks like showing up

It looks like keeping your word

It looks like forgiveness

It looks like empathy and compassion

It looks like boundaries

Accountability leads to making better choices and decisions

There is no self-love without accountability and without accountability hope is lost

Here’s the thing, we get to the point of unconditional self-love and beyond by holding ourselves accountable, by holding others accountable

The a in love is accountability

Peace


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


The WeLead Caribbean Conference, happening in Guyana in September 2019


Speak of the Possibilities

Gratitude is the Cure - Gary Vaynerchuk

Confessions on the Journey!

I really really wanted to be selected for a particular book festival, and I have not been, was not the first choice. I was salty, downright salty and sad. 

I felt rejected. 

Then the penny dropped, the virtual AHA moment

This was a reflection. A mirror back to me of how I think about myself and my abilities, the truth can be a bitter pill to swallow

I never considered myself to be an author and a writer, I just happened to write a book.

So if I feel like that about myself, it will manifest itself outwardly.And there it was

I wanted to be a part of a book festival as an author and that did not happen. It is clear now why


Many times we harbour thoughts, feelings and doubt in our minds and they reflect back to us with what people do and say about us, we get pissed off because no one is supposed to know it, we get to see it in living colour what we had in our minds.

Imagine what can happen if we focus on the possibilities?

Where are the thoughts about the possibilities?

What about the self belief?

What I have learnt is we have to own our stuff, feel it and ask ourselves if we are making up a story about our limitations rather than being grateful for where we are on the Journey.

If we want to make up a story, why not make up one on possibilities?

Peace


 Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Who Are Your People?

if they are not growing you, pushing and elevating you, feeding you (and, vice versa) what purpose are they/you really serving? Nah! J. Leon


Who are the people in your circle?

Who are your people?

Who are the ones that keep it real with you?

The ones that call you out?

The ones that let you know that you are being a jerk- all with love

The ones that celebrate your wins and mourn your losses?

Do you know who your people are?

Do you even care?

Listen to your body when you are around your "people"

How do you feel? do you honour the feelings, listen to them? Let them guide you?

This requires awareness, courage, honesty, vulnerability and work.

You have to do the work!

There are people who are around us because of time, history, and comfort. This works well when they are the ones who are around you who are honest, authentic and fanning your flames. If they do not, then its a drain on your own soul.

There is fall out to choosing the people in your life intentionally. People may take it personally, you may have to grieve the ending of somethings but its all part of the lessons on the journey.

I have been blessed to have a circle of people around me who "keeps it real", they call me out, they celebrate the wins and support the journey. I do my best to do the same for them.

Some people will fall out of your life and it will hurt, you may not even know why, they may never tell you. Trust in that and seek the lessons.

It took work building my circle! It took being present on the Journey and I am so much better for it. I am still learning to let go of some of the people who in fact let me go, and learning to deal with my own feelings of guilt in letting others go.

My friend in South Africa, bless her, greets me every time - "Hello My People" because we are each other's people!

Who are your People?

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

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Readiness Starts With A Choice

Readiness is only the prerequisite for accomplishment. ACIM



"When I am ready I will do it" - How many times have I said that in a most genuine way?

"It will happen when its good and ready" - what about that one, have you heard or said that?

Readiness is a decision, it takes action and a will.

Readiness is not a state of just waiting for the best and right moment to move or to take action.

Readiness starts with a choice.


How do you know if you are ready? You decide.- it's that simple!


When you find resistance strong and dedication weak, you are not ready, do not fight yourself.


Readiness requires discipline. The ability to discipline yourself to do what is required.


I have now decided that I am ready to face the state of finances. I have decided that it is time to be disciplined, to take action and have the will to start budgeting, to start saving, to pay off my debts, to catch up on my taxes and tie up all the loose ends left hanging after getting divorced and moving around the world.


After following all the rules that I was taught that made for a secure financial future. This included saving 10% of my income, investing a portion, paying all the taxes , having a pension plan and whatever I was taught in business school. Life happened, I went through a divorce which left me reeling and seething. I moved to 2 different countries, one in which I literally volunteered instead of having a "proper job"and I was done! I did not  care anymore what happened. 

After following all that advice and instructions, I was angry and disappointed that I was left with "nothing" to show for it, all the accumulated things were gone. I lived with this anger and disappointment, I have been living with it, not knowing that I have turned my own self into a victim.

I was blaming others for the spot that I found myself in. Blaming is, for me, not taking responsibility for my own actions. I wanted someone to say to me "sorry" - but newsflash, that was not coming!

I wanted to just go back to where I was before - second newsflash - that was not coming either.

I wanted to take out my anger on something- I took it out on myself. This resulted in under valuing my own worth, making poor decisions or no decisions at all and making random and frankly poor decisions which manifested itself in more and more debt and living hand to mouth.

Now, I am ready. My life is my responsibility.

My mindset is my responsibility

No amount of rationale, justifications, reasons, and blaming will bring back the past or change my now

It must come from a place of readiness.

And I am ready

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

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What Does it mean to be Flexible?

Flexibility means surrendering, giving up your preconceived notions about people, circumstances and the way things should be. Flexibility is a reflection of your willingness to do what needs to be done with no attachment to how it gets done - Iyanla Vanzant

Having something done a certain way because "it was always done that way", or because someone we trust told us that it is meant to be that way is safe. Many times, what we want to do and be turns out differently, and we stress the hell out of ourselves looking to change it. We think it is wrong or we feel guilty that it is different, we don't recognise this way. 

Life is so much bigger than what we know.

Life has so many possibilities and pathways, why limit ourselves to only what we know?

I get it, yes it's safer, its easier to control the outcome, we know where we are going. 

I have learnt that when I am willing to be flexible, the results are so much more fascinating and magnificent and mind blowing.

I was taught that to have a decent life included the specific steps of going to school, doing well, passing all the grades, getting a University education and then a job, a car, a family and die. Throw in some vacations in there for good measure.

I walked that road and here I am with some what was prescribed as the formula, but there were twists and turns which stressed me out to the point of making myself crazy.

Where I am now, I am pretty much content with  my situation, knowing that my willingness to be open to flexing the path has lead me here. 

Be flexible

Let life guide you

Listen to the guidance 

Keep and open mind 

and know that Life holds something magnificent for you if you do

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

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Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer