treat the situation like a plane crash: Leave everything behind and get out. This tactic may also be necessary in relationships with people who are too wounded, addicted, or emotionally inaccessible to reciprocate your feelings. You can save yourself enormous pain by acknowledging the plain hard truth that some people can’t really love you. Martha Beck
There are some people I am putting the caution tape around.....right now!
It's really okay to love some people from afar, our responsibility is to show up with no judgement adn compassion and in love. It is very easy to get caught up in the ego and wanting them to do better but what is the intention behind it, helping can easily turn into co-dependency and enabling and ego stroking
What is your intention behind what you are doing?
If it is guilt- get the caution tape out- for both parties - you and them
If it is "they should know better" - caution tape time
If it is shame - start unrolling the tape
If it's ego stroking - buy extra tape - for you
It's hard, yea I know, but who said it would be? Take the temporary discomfort because on the other side of it there lies openings for growth, peace, and love