Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker


What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love - Maybe what you want isn't what you want, you just enjoy wanting.

Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something enough. They just aren't aware of what it is they want, or rather, what they want "enough." If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe what you want isn't what you want, you just enjoy wanting. Maybe you don't actually want it at all. Mark Manson

Simple question

What do you really want?

Another simple question

What do you really really want?

One more simple question

What is it do you really really really want?

We love comfort, or maybe it is that we prefer to avoid pain. Who likes
pain? Pain hurts! It's uncomfortable as hell! But the thing is, growing
pains, yea those, they hurt.

Birthing something new it hurts or involves some level of discomfort, that is just how it is, so what do we do?

Avoid pain at all costs and settle? That is a choice as well.

Pain is also a wake up call, Iyanla says it means Pay Attention Inward Now!
so I summed it up as turn within and focus on what is going on inside
before the pill popping begins!

So, on the journey, there are things that you may want, Mark Manson says the things that you want will involve some work. I concur.

Everybody wants to have great sex and an awesome relationship -- but not everyone is willing to go through the tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings and the emotional psychodrama to get there. And so they settle. They settle and wonder "What if?" for years and years and until the question morphs from "What if?" into "Was that it?" And when the lawyers go home and the alimony check is in the mail they say, "What was that for?" if not for their lowered standards and expectations 20 years prior, then what for?

Same with a great body, - but are we willing to put in the time working
out, eating sensibly and taking care of our bodies and minds?

It starts though with knowing what you really want, then, and then, take
action. Deciding that there will be some uncomfortable moments and being ok with that. Being ok with the awkward times and pushing through to the other side asking yourself, what are you trying to tell me? or maybe just knowing that it is par for the course Be willing, be open, be flexible, decide then push through Because it may lead to what you really, really really want.


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Unconditional Self Love on 6/23/2015 02:18:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer