Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Excerpt from What Did I Learn Today?

"Self-love is simply appreciating the miracle of my own being. When I
really love myself, I cannot hurt myself, and I cannot hurt another person.
It begins with self-acceptance and self-love. I no longer wait to be
perfect in order to love myself. I accept myself exactly as I am, right
here and now.

Self hatred is really only hating your own thoughts. Don't hate yourself
for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts. Acknowledge that you
created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to
fulfill those needs. So lovingly release the old negative patterns."

Loving yourself is the catalyst of living a healthy and abundant life. It
is really about me, no one else! I got it!

Don't beat up yourself all the time; learn the lesson and next time it
shows up practice what you've learnt. Paying attention to my emotions in a
healthy way is a good thing; I always thought it was a sign of either being
weak or focusing on drama! Emotions are guides, listen to them and make a
choice.

Many times we focus on what's missing, what we don;t have and all that does
is draw more of the same on to you. And when that happens, we beat up
ourselves, with that the cycle continues.

Meanwhile at home, I had left my house empty in the hands of a real estate
agent, I budgeted three months of mortgage as I anticipated by that time
the place would be rented.

It was coming up to the seventh month and there were no renters in plain
sight. I started getting the calls from the bank about when am I going to
settle these outstanding arrears. No one knew my situation, I kept it all
to myself. I convinced myself that the loss of my job and the breakdown of
my marriage was enough. A tenant will be found soon, it was just a matter
of time.

I never even told the bank that I was now divorced, they kept asking about
my husband's role in this and I stuck to the story of he is no longer
responsible for the mortgage.

"Well is he unemployed?"

"No"

"Is he ill?"

"No"

"He just is no longer responsible"

I think the poor lady was in between baffled and frustrated

One afternoon I was coming back from the library and the phone rang, I
recognised the number as the bank

I answered

OK we have given you enough time, if you do not settle these arrears by
next week the house will be put up for sale

"Sale?"

"Yes sale"

Click, phone went dead! So did my brain for about two minutes.

Oh boy! I got home and sat at the edge of the bed, what now? I'm being
good, I'm eating fruits and vegetables, I'm exercising, and I'm doing
charity work. I brush my teeth and I floss when I remember! What now? Can I
just get a tenant? What what?

Peace

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 2/29/2016 10:58:00 am

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I