Self Love is the Start of Everything
"unconditional love does not mean allowing people to mistreat you over and over and still holding them down. unconditional love means “i accept the truth of who you are and accept you as you are, as long as that doesn’t infringe on my self love.” Wavy
Self love is the start of everything!
Without the foundation of self love, unconditional love to others will be non-existent.
Self love goes beyond the external, it is a deeply internal process where we accept who we are - all the vulnerabilities, the things you believe are not good or perfect about you. Accepting does not mean you like it, it means that you see it for exactly what it is rather than looking at everything as you believe it ought to be. Once you accept, then you can make decisions from a place of truth. Sometimes making no decision is also a decision. We get anxious about facing the truth believing that we must make decisions immediately.
Self Love involves forgiving ourselves, for all the thoughts, ideas and actions we have used to beat ourselves up. When we beat ourselves up, it then becomes even harder to forgive others.
Self Love involves questioning core beliefs and looking at the ones that no longer serve your highest self. A core belief is a ritual or way of life that you were told, given or inherited from your home, school, religion or culture.
Self Love includes setting boundaries - having a strong No and a strong Yes,and letting others know what you are willing to tolerate. Consequences for actions must be worked into your boundaries- both for you and others.
It is a journey, the foundations however must be put in place or nothing you build will be secure, not your job, your relationships, your health, your life in general
Make a commitment to start the journey to unconditional self love, see what it throws up, I guarantee you that it will not be boring.
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