What is Your Reason for Busyness?
So, before we start applauding sotmeone’s busyness, can we take a moment to understand that we are also possibly applauding and reinforcing a trauma response and a systematically flawed system? Maria Sosa
In my culture, busyness is rewarded. Not taking holidays and vacations are rewarded, not taking time off when one is unwell is rewarded.
I bought it into this culture- wholesale!
kept working even when unwell
and kept being rewarded for it.
Questioning this approach and realising that it led me to not only health issues but mental depletion, has led me to the concept that too much busyness is a response to trauma, a way to escape one self and avoid something or someone. To not get in touch with self. To run from self.
Some of us are truly being rewarded for always being busy, always working hard, always on the go. It shows a sign of success. When we are called successful and rewarded for our actions we will continue on that path.
We applaud them
We salute them
We even look up to them.
The thing to remember is that trauma and pain can be disguised in overwork, busyness,perfectionism and over achievement.
Don't assume that people who seem to have it all together, really do.
Balance is important. Anything we do with no focus and too extreme can be detrimental to us.
Honour the balance in how you live
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