Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

Are You An Emotional Avoidant?

An emotional avoidant is someone who goes out of their way to "not feel." They deflect conversations that evoke an emotional response. They change the subject often. They also tend to make jokes about serious situations. They act silly. Sometimes they get angry or defensive. And sometimes they're just too fucked up to emote... real talk.  Stacey Herera

Isn't it easier just to not feel, to keep avoiding a situation that can lead to confrontation, change, new things? It keeps us in a place where we already know rather than pushing us into uncertainty - something we have no control over and not know

Who likes pain anyway? Who likes to change the routine

And that is precisely what we are being called to do when we reach to a point where emotions are being avoided.

Someone very important to me asked me last week to "pay attention to my feelings" who knew? I was on autopilot? doing the same thing over and over getting the same results

You see if I pay attention to them I would have to make a decision, to make a change, to look the thing dead in the eye and call it, to own it

I wasn't ready

Or I thought I wasn't

I was born ready!

We were all born ready

Getting out of my own way requires a firm decision, committment, discipline and being gentle. all of which I can do

all of which you can do

so let's do this

Peace

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School