Practice Setting Boundaries - First With Yourself

If you have difficulty saying no, override your needs to please others, or are bothered by someone who is demanding, controlling, criticizing, pushy, abusive, invasive, pleading, or even smothering you with kindness, it’s your responsibility to speak up. Darlene Lancer

I think it still remains to this day, one of the toughest lessons on the journey! There are internal and external boundaries - who knew?? Internal boundaries relate to your relationship with yourself and external boundaries relate to your relationship with others, both are equaly important on the journey

So why might it be the challenges in setting boundaries:

1. You put others’ needs and feelings first;
2. You don’t know yourself;
3. You don’t feel you have rights;
4. You believe setting boundaries jeopardizes the relationship; and
5. You never learned to have healthy boundaries.

Boundaries protect us! 

They protect you and the people around you, think of it like a fence. There is a gate and sometimes the gate is locked and has to stay locked to protect what's inside the fence from any harm or danger. The gate in the fence represents flexibility, one cannot be so rigid as to leave everything and everyone outside without checking to see who they are and what they are bringing. into your space

Would you leave your house open for anything and anyone to enter? I doubt it

Boundaries are like that

Check in at the gate

Decide

Then take action

this helps in processing guilt and resentment

Practice.Setting. Boundaries

First with yourself

Peace