Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Stay close to those who are not afraid to be vulnerable

Stay close to those who are not afraid to be vulnerable, because they have
confidence in themselves and know that, at some point in our lives, we all
stumble; they do not interpret this as a sign of weakness, but of
humanity.Avoid those who seek friends in order to maintain a certain social
status or to open doors they would not otherwise be able to approach.Paul
Coehlo

In my house growing up we had to be "strong" crying was a sign of weakness,
when I burst out in tears I would hear "Let me give you something to cry
for" which may be followed with a pinch or maybe two "hard slap". Crying
then would now be totally out of the question then for who wants another
pinch or "hard slap"? Not me no sireeeee

And so showing any sign of so called weakness was never a feature in my
make up. Crying? hell naw no chance, weakness? no I fix things and I am
strong! That had its advantages in many occasions however when the
proverbial shit hit the fan, all the proverbial shit stayed inside until it
started overflowing and stinking up my life!

Now I have learnt that vulnerability is a type of super power, it allows me
to be wholly and fully me and feel comfortable that those around me who
judge that and run - let them run and those who judge me and stick around
with a willing mind and spirit we can work it through and those who accept
me we are on the same path

Vulnerability allows me to release the toxic feelings of what no longer
serves me it allows me to know that feeling a feeling is ok, feelings are
signals and signs pointing me in a direction, to welcome them, accept them,
deal with them and heal.

And so when I realized that, all hell broke loose, I am crying in the
movies, in front my lap top reading something, when I meditate, running and
seeing the sun rise, at the beach seeing the sun set- OMG I went overboard!
but hey, I have some years to make up for don't I?

Avoidance denial and repression cannot help you

It's the most life-strengthening gift you'll ever give yourself...to see
what you've been refusing to see. To deal in order to heal. Every day you
keep yourself from looking that shit square in the eyes is a day you keep
yourself exactly where you are.

I have been learning compassion, self love, acceptance and non judgement-
who knew???

Peace

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 4/12/2016 02:17:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I