Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker


[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] We don't adequately think an issue through

We don't adequately think an issue through; we let fear rule a decision.
digging ourselves an even deeper hole than the one we're already in; we
fail to connect deeply with people and situations around us, leading to all
manner of negative results Marianne Willamson

When I make a decision based on fear, it backfires, shit hits fan - no
exception! work, love, play, any category. And what exactly is fear in my case? When love is absent, when the ego is
raging, when I am out to prove something or someone wrong or prove myself
right, when I forget who I am and start acting needy, and I think my worth
is established by what other people think and not by God

So, I made a promise to myself not to concsiously get involved with
someone, either through face to face contact or technology- why? I just
felt that given the experiences that I had with this person I felt that, I
was not a priority - a friend, in a way that I defined friendship. Really
nice person though and the thing is, their interpretation of our friendship
may be totally different to mine. And that is okay We don't usually get to tell people how to love us, what we get is the
opportunity to choose if we want that type of loving, we get to choose if
we want to be around it. Don't bother trying to change people - that
usually doesn't end very well. I know now that my feelings are my responsibility, I cannot or I will not,
hold anyone responsible for how I am feeling, the feelings are mine. And so I did the whole delete all contact, distracted myself when the urge
arose to chat, you know how we do it? Yesterday I relented and seriously, nothing feels worse to me than going
back on my own word when I did not renegotiate it in advance. I contacted the person I did it out of fear And it was a bad idea Do things in love, discipline yourself to do things that are self loving
and self honoring, take the time to forgive yourself when you go off course It will get better All things are lessons that God will have us learn and all things are for good Peace

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 7/26/2016 01:55:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer