Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Comparison is a joy stealer

Comparison is crazy-making. It stamps on potential and truth and all the
good things you might already have going for you if you weren't so busy
shadow-boxing with the people who you think have it better. Danielle La
Porte

My grandma always told me that I must compete with no one but who I see in
the mirror and compare myself to that person as well.

Truth be told I do not have a competitive bone in my body, put me in a race
to prove it and please don't bet on me! I developed the whole compare vibe
at University, I wanted to be like the students who had cars, who were
popular who were hanging out with the who's who! I quickly learnt that it
wasn't my game to play. Comparison left me feeling always wanting! And so
it seems like over the last few weeks I started reliving my University
experience by comparing myself and guess what the "always wanting" feeling
came screaming to me!

Comparison is a big waste of time and energy, you can only be you so do you
to the best

Comparison is a slippery slope to envy and for the most part, envy wastes
energy that could be put towards getting what you want or optimizing what
you have. It's a trap. I used to envygirls who went to the prestige schools
and my friends with rich parents. "Poor me...no leg-up, born into an average
family, gotta be self-made..." Yack. Whatta waste of mind space - space that
could be filled with creativity and ingenuity.

Do you and do it well

Peace

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 5/04/2016 04:00:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer