[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Love does not force

"Love does not force" Marianne Willamson

Relationships, I have learnt, are containers for growth. We grow
exponentially when we are functioning in the world in relationships, any
time of relationships, but the most learning- the PhD of learning in
relationships comes from what we call romantic relationships

I can say with certainty that being alone, that is, away from all manner of
people, for a while is healthy but for a long time is not as healthy as I
thought. The majority of my growth came and was recognized in the
interaction with people and intimate relationships, including the difficult
ones.

Yesterday I was having a conversation, someone asked me why was I single
and have I found candidate for making children with - (I immediately
thought of convening a screening process when I heard the word candidate) I
digress.

My response was a chuckle (I use the chuckle to stall)

She then went on to talk about in her relationship her man asked her to
wear certain types of clothes because that is what his woman ought to be
wearing.

Now see the thing is, no one tells me what to wear especially when I am
buying the threads- no siree

Now I was curious, about how it made her feel She admitted she did not like it but its a small price to pay to keep the peace I began thinking about what I do to "keep the peace" I used to do a whole lot of self-dishonoring things and I committed to myself that it ain't happening for love nor money ever again.

I began thinking about how far I have come, because yes sometimes I start
on the road and then I realise hey, this is the road to hell, and instead
of saying but it may have a shortcut that may lead to heaven along the way
I turn the hell around - literally Growth!

I'm looking for a partner to share, the whole forcing me to wear certain
type of clothes, and all that goes along with it - Naw homie

Love supports, builds, encourages All the things we say are love - newsflash if involves lies, fears, hiding, excuses and forcing- it is something masquerading as love, chances are it's your fear or something in you that requires healing or growth

May I remember that If I am thinking with love I will experience the effects of love - and love
is the absence of fear If I am thinking with fear I will experience the effects of fear

Let the screening begin

Peace

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Unconditional Self Love on 8/20/2016 03:25:00 pm