Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Love does not force

"Love does not force" Marianne Willamson

Relationships, I have learnt, are containers for growth. We grow
exponentially when we are functioning in the world in relationships, any
time of relationships, but the most learning- the PhD of learning in
relationships comes from what we call romantic relationships

I can say with certainty that being alone, that is, away from all manner of
people, for a while is healthy but for a long time is not as healthy as I
thought. The majority of my growth came and was recognized in the
interaction with people and intimate relationships, including the difficult
ones.

Yesterday I was having a conversation, someone asked me why was I single
and have I found candidate for making children with - (I immediately
thought of convening a screening process when I heard the word candidate) I
digress.

My response was a chuckle (I use the chuckle to stall)

She then went on to talk about in her relationship her man asked her to
wear certain types of clothes because that is what his woman ought to be
wearing.

Now see the thing is, no one tells me what to wear especially when I am
buying the threads- no siree

Now I was curious, about how it made her feel She admitted she did not like it but its a small price to pay to keep the peace I began thinking about what I do to "keep the peace" I used to do a whole lot of self-dishonoring things and I committed to myself that it ain't happening for love nor money ever again.

I began thinking about how far I have come, because yes sometimes I start
on the road and then I realise hey, this is the road to hell, and instead
of saying but it may have a shortcut that may lead to heaven along the way
I turn the hell around - literally Growth!

I'm looking for a partner to share, the whole forcing me to wear certain
type of clothes, and all that goes along with it - Naw homie

Love supports, builds, encourages All the things we say are love - newsflash if involves lies, fears, hiding, excuses and forcing- it is something masquerading as love, chances are it's your fear or something in you that requires healing or growth

May I remember that If I am thinking with love I will experience the effects of love - and love
is the absence of fear If I am thinking with fear I will experience the effects of fear

Let the screening begin

Peace

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 8/20/2016 03:25:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School