Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Love never grows the same way twice

I have learned that love never grows the same way twice. Even if you circle
back and love the same person again, the love will never be the same. Love
changes because we change. Love is adaptable because we are. And loving
yourself is the only way to wholly and completely love another. Stacey
Herrera

Confessions on the journey, I thought that self love was really about
taking care of your body, having a pedicure, a health checkup, a manicure,
a new hairdo. That is what I picked up as a teenager reading the magazines
and looking at the women around me. And even with that I never took it
seriously. There was nothing pointing to the inner work of loving yourself
through being honest, accepting, trusting, acknowledging, setting
boundaries and forgiving myself as part of the self love process. And from
that place that I knew before, I lived my life, things were going well and
then the shit hit the fan hey, Try living a life without setting boundaries, people pleasing and not
forgiving yourself, it is I tell you, not a sustainable strategy!!

Luckily,life speaks to us and shows us reflections through the people that
come into and leave our lives. They are all mirrors. As you change, your
relationships change some of them may come to a natural end and you or them
move on when you have learnt all there is to learn from that space. Some of the things you do may change as you change, but at the centre of
that is how you are with yourself, how you show up in the self love room!

I look back and realized that I was showing up in many of my relationships
without that full cup of self love and that was unfair to myself and the
other party, but lovely as life is, it provided me with opportunities to
learn the lesson over and over until I got it!

I started paying attention and this is why the love I have now for me is
the love I have been waiting for my entire life, unconditional, forgiving
my mistakes, accepting the skin that I am in, internal and external! Love allows us to see and hear the best of what we have right now. The love
within us grows and we grow, it shifts when we shift, when how we love
shifts and grows, love gives us an opportunity to chose again, whether or
not our partner changes.

According to Stacey " The loves that came before me were my guides, leading
me home to my one and only. I am grateful for the heartbreaks and the
tears, the joys and the sorrow. The loves of my past were each wonderful
teachers, they schooled me on how to be unapologetically me"

Peace

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 2/26/2016 11:40:00 am

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School