[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] It does take courage to be the one who exposes themselves to others
It's always fear in opening up to one another that holds us back and stops
us from getting the support, help, love, encouragement and understanding we
need in life. Dawn Barclay
Let's face it, if we open ourselves up and feel more vulnerable in the act
of trying, why would we even go there? I'm not going to say 'just reach
out', 'ask for help', or 'let people in', because it is hard. I know that.
Everyone's content is different, complex and unique. And, sometimes, well,
sometimes the shame we feel about our own story is such a heavy weight, we
think we have to hold it alone because we feel 'it's all our fault'.
We're afraid that by standing emotionally naked before others dressed in
our struggles and fears they will judge us, misunderstand us, or push us
away. That if we expose our words and feelings we will be shown up as the
ones who aren't coping, or aren't enough, never mind good enough.
We don't want to be vulnerable.
We don't want others to see how much we are hurting. We don't want to be
the ones who are less than (what?), we don't others to see that we haven't
got it all figured out and are the ones who lose control at times.
We're so scared that if we remove the mask, release the guard and let the
brave face fall others will notice that we haven't got our life neatly
packaged up, that we've failed or falling. Heck, we don't want to be the
one who risks standing alone and appears to have lost our way and may not
It does take courage to be the one who stands, shares and exposes
themselves to others. It's risky, make no doubt.
It may not be well received, or our words may be used against us or thrown
back down at our feet at a later date when the meaning of what we said
today has changed, may have expired or no longer holds true for us.
Yes, we may expose our private world to another and – through no blame – we
assume they have understood our workings when they have merely run it
through their own experience and filtered into a box called 'What I think
With all that above, why would we share? Why would we risk it? Even if we
know and understand that we all carry our own struggles and suffering –
that we aren't alone - why allow others in our world if we run the risk of
leaving ourselves wide open?
You can choose to run the risk, or not. Fear will always hold you hostage
to the belief that nobody else is suffering the way you are. Fear won't let
you hear the words, 'You're not alone', no, it would prefer you didn't
notice them. Fear will always ask you to pop on your bravery mask and your
suit of armour and 'deal with it', it will keep hidden from you the others
wearing theirs. You get to choose, but fear doesn't always have your best
interests in mind. Peace
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Unconditional Self Love on 8/01/2016 03:55:00 pm