Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] You end up with a little more courage

The average human being will go to any lengths to avoid the experience of
being hurt, being abandoned, or being rejected. Hurt takes on a totally different perspective when you are afraid of it. In order to protect themselves there are people who will not indulge in any
personal contact or closeness. Some of them will go so far as to strike first, hurting others before they
get hurt. When you are afraid to be hurt, you can spend a better part of your
lifetime on the location for hurt, expecting to be hurt. There is something you must remember What you Expect you usually get. Iyanla Vanzant

So I was doing my daily morning reading and I came across the quote above
from Iyanla and I had a "penny dropping moment" or some would say an A-HA
moment. You get what you expect - that's big! and even bigger living life to avoid
hurt, or rejection, or in fact, how and what we believe are hurt and
rejection, really limits and puts a different spin on situations. The discomfort, the stories we make up to avoid the uncomfortable
situations at times puts limits on what we can and will do, or may go. So
the choice is courage over discomfort. Many times, and part of that choice
of courage, is taking risks of doing the thing, meeting the person, opening
up your heart, flying across the world to take a job, going to an
interview, asking someone for something and so on and so on. And just to
avoid being hurt, rejected or abandoned we chose the safe route, one of
what we know and at the same time wondering what might have been, we
eventually bury the feelings but feelings buried alive don't die, they
fester and layers and layers of them added on start causing illness,
resentment and other types of build up So, do the thing, meet the person, fly where you want to fly, tell that guy
that he's scorching hot, make the call. What's the worst that can happen?
You end up where you started, with a little more courage And, know this, all things are lessons that God would have us learn Peace

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 12/21/2015 12:10:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School