Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Honor Yourself

Thou shalt honor thyself enough not to take things that do not belong to
you, and this includes other people's people - Iyanla Vanzant

One of the most challenging lessons I have learnt is the honoring of
myself. Why? Because for one thing I firmly believed that I was a good
person, doing good things and living a good life and then I realized that
being a good person had absolutely nothing to do with how I honored myself
or if indeed I honored myself. Being a good person was a social construct
based on my upbringing of respecting my elders, paying my dues, working
hard - nothing to do with me and how I showed up for me and in the world.
It was hard at first to swallow that honoring myself was steeped in the
fact that I had to be radically honest in all situations and take
responsibility for every single thing that was happening in my life down to
even my health. Honoring myself involved taking responsibility for my own life and how I
live - all.the.time! Honoring myself involved keeping the agreements that I made with ME and
renegotiating them when they absolutely required not because I was punking
out Honoring myself involved celebrating my triumphs without excuses or dumbing
them down to make others who were not honoring themselves feel comfortable
around me Honoring myself involved doing what was morally right - every.single,time Honoring myself involved forgiveness of myself first and then others Honoring myself involved accepting myself as I am Honoring myself meant saying no - because sometimes no was the most loving
thing to say The whole concept was like wow, this is different to being "good" I have learnt that when I honor myself,
every.single.decision.comes.from.that.space Peace

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 5/30/2016 03:57:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School