Re Definition of Lose
Rather than think about what you have to do to change a situation, consider what the situation might be doing to change you. How it might be seasoning and transforming and growing you. You are not responsible for everything and everyone. Allow that as a possibility. Jessica Dore
There are some situations that are simply in your life showing you how to shift, how to be flexible, to grow, to transform.
You long for change, yet you cling so to the familiar.
You are so afraid of what you think you will lose.
You are even afraid to lose the things you don't want.
The familiar becomes your family, regardless of what it is.
let's redefine "lose"
I define lose as opening up to a new possibility
The day I stopped saying that I lost my house, lost my marriage, lost my mind, things shifted for me
The shift has to start inside
How we define and relate to the circumstances in our lives transforms how we act.
I started asking myself different questions - what am I learning? What am I displaying to myself?, Who do I want to be?
Ask different questions, get different answers
The key question was
How can I see this differently?
That became the shift.
It is still painful, challenging and feels shitty at times but, I have learned, all of those feelings are valid and teaching me something.
Share with me your redefinition of "lose"
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?
Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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