Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker


Are You Waiting to Feel Ready?

excessive expectations will block your fulfillment because life will never be able to meet your demands or fantasies that come from scarcity. And...holding on to expectations with desperate or demanding energy will drain the sweet fuck out of you. And then you end up too brittle and tired to magnetize anything to you — or enjoy it if you do get what you want. Danielle La Porte

“Being” ready is an action, “Feeling” ready is the result

“If only I was ready.”

You are, or you wouldn’t be wondering about such things. But the problem is you are looking at “ready” as a feeling, like being hungry, and you don’t find it there. “Ready” is just a decision, like eating. It comes in response to wanting food. Wanting something more. And that’s all that ready really is. Being hungry for something more.

We understand hunger and eating, because we do it daily. We eat for necessity and for enjoyment, we eat with others and we eat alone; we eat to survive. Eating does not depend on us having a good day or a bad day, waking up late, or even where we are. When we are hungry, we do what we have to; we find a way.

But we can ignore the feeling of hunger if we choose to, no matter how imperative it is. Hunger will never make you eat, even if you will die without doing so.

Being ready is just as simple, and just as imperative. If you are waiting to feel ready in order to make any change, great or small, you’ll die standing still. The feeling comes after the doing; it’s what happens when you see that you ARE ready after you’ve done something about it. In truth, feeling ready isn’t feeling hungry; that’s passion. Feeling ready is just being full; it comes after you’ve done something about it.

And the sooner you do it, the better. Just like eating, the sooner you satisfy your hunger, the sooner you have the energy to get through the obstacles in front of you. Many of us take eating for granted, simply because we do it so often we expect the next meal. We have confidence it will come, even in an uncertain world. The sooner you can feel that way about being ready, the sooner the world becomes yours. And you get there by feeding yourself a consistent dose of “doing”.

There is no feeling “ready” like we imagine it. Just an “I am hungry for more, and I am starting today. Regardless.” Now get to satisfying that hunger.

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Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer