How Well Do You Listen?
• opening your heart to fully experience what someone is communicating to you
• giving absolute attention to the sound waves that roll off another person’s tongue
• mirroring the other person’s body language
• resisting the desire to speak until the other person finishes sharing his or her perspective
• being empathic
• putting your pride aside
• managing your emotion and internal dialogue
• seeking to understand the other person’s needs and feelings - Kyle D Jones
How well do you listen?
For me it is a conscious effort to remain present. Remaining present is holding off any judgement, asking questions to ensure that I fully understand what is being communicated. Remaining present is me not hatching a response before the person has completed their point.
I practise listening because it is a wonderful way of learning. It provides a platform for building emotional intelligence.
In this conscious effort to listen I have found myself saying "I hear ya" quite a bit, both to family and to friends. "I hear ya" is my way of letting others know that I am listening, I am being present.
I have learnt that when I am fully present, in the moment, minus the judgement, the lessons and the feelings involved pave the way for so much richness. It opens a path for as Kyle Jones mentions, empathy and understanding.
Listening is a way of letting go of control. Of knowing that things may not be our way, and that is not the end of the world.
Listening allows for a new perspective, a different view
Listening allows for the total belief in self!
As Maya Angelo people will always remember how you made them feel
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