“Hold still. Stay there. Tease back the layers. You are in the space between your comfort zone and infinity. You want to hide. Not be seen. Not be open. Not be vulnerable. But you have to. There are two ways to do this – soft and gentle or fast and hard. Both will get you to the other side, if you let them.” – Jeanette LeBlanc
The entire concept of feel the feelings took on a whole other level of significance for me!
Yesterday I was listening to a conversation, and let me tell you, it is the barefaced truth that we can get lessons from anyone and from anywhere!
The conversation was centered around how busy she was and how strong she had to be for her kids while going through a divorce. Strong enough to sign up for a PhD and to keep it together with no tears!
So why no tears? Why is that strong? - well because I don't want the kids to see me as weak and crying all the time
So why are you so busy with doing a PhD - well I have to provide for my children
Is it okay for the kids to not see you at all, whilst you are having class at night? And do you need a PhD to provide for your children?
What do you believe about crying is weak? What is the alternative to crying? How do you let out your heartbreak in a healthy way?
Many times we mask our feelings and look for external validation
We hide the feelings and it manifests in anger towards others, busyness, and sickness
Many tmes we look for external validation to let us know that we are okay
more qualifications, more brand names, more material possessions
So, why not feel the feelings
Why not spend some time with the kids then go to your room and cry?
It kills two birds- spending time with your peeps and releasing the hurt!
And it cost less too!