Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

Relationship Potential

o gain you must give, not bargain. To bargain is to limit giving, and this is not God's Will. To will with God is to create like Him. God does not limit His gifts in any way. You are His gifts, and so your gifts must be like His. Your gifts to the Kingdom must be like His gifts to you. ACIM 

I love Kyle Jones's work, it resonates with me on so many levels! I wanted to share this piece with you.

Rather your relationship lasted a couple of weeks or twenty years, breaking up leads to feeling heartbreak and rejection. At times, these feelings make you question getting involved in a relationship again. - You questioning getting involved in a relationship again is fear-based. You have relationship trauma needing healing. - Without healing relationship trauma: * you settle for lustful experiences rather than loving experiences * you get in a relationship, but keep entertaining other potential options – just in case your relationship ends * you do anything to please your partner – out of fear of them leaving you * you become possessive and control your partner – out of fear of them leaving you * you lack trust issues and make misleading assumptions when your partner doesn't text back for awhile or goes a day without speaking * you get in a relationship, but your heart remains closed — you fear letting someone else in - These aren't loving behaviors, but acts of fear.


 Relationships are meant to be vulnerable, unpredictable, and intimate. They are mediums for growth. Past relationship trauma shouldn't ruin new relationship potential for growth. - How To Heal Past Relationship Trauma: 

1. Start defining your own worth rather than depending on relationships to feel worthy. When you depend on relationships to feel worthy, you carry your past relationship experiences with you – including in your self-perception.

 2. If you are holding a grudge with any of your ex-partners, forgive them. Also, forgive yourself for believing they did something wrong.

 3. Don't leave feeling loved up to someone else. 

4. Don't get involved in a new relationship until past relationship trauma has been healed. If you get involved in a new relationship without healing, those feelings stuck inside will eventually project themselves onto your new partner; and create further trauma.


Publications: www.akosuadardaineedwards.com/publications


Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VH1K7nRGrYc


Unveiling: Looking into the Mirror Of Self: Residential Retreat - Trinidad and Tobago May 2017

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Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School