Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

Love Does Not Ask Us To Lose Ourselves

I will know love when I realize...my life is the sacred and holy ground of love!

It is not loving to stay in a place or an experience where you are happy sometimes, sad most of the time. It is not loving to convince yourself that it is okay to stay in a place where you are not loved, honored and valued the way your heart tells you you deserve to be...

Love does not ask us to lose ourselves, harm ourselves or sacrifice ourselves for its sake. Love offers itself to us, measure for measure, what we offer it... Iyanla

Someone asked me yesterday if loving someone includes feeling pain and hurt and if not what is love

I had to stop and think for a hot minute. This was in a conversation about choices of our friends and more importantly our partner

For me love does not hurt. Simple

There may be actions that happen which we do not agree and it may hurt our feelings however in a relationship that is bound in love there is a separation with the the event. And the love gives us the courage and the opportunity to talk about and share how we feel.

We all know when we are settling - settling meaning in a situation where we know this is not exactly what we know our heart's desire but just either too scared, too frightened, too ignorant (not aware), too comfortable to make a move or a change

So when we are in that settled space, we make excuses, rationales, reasons, justification for the space we are in

"It's complicated"

"He/she is a good person underneath it all"

"It's the kids. the children"

"I have responsibilities and bills"

"I will embarrass my family"

"I am a free spirit"

" It's just who I am, it's just how it is"

"I'm working on it"

"When the time is right"

And the beat goes on

So how do we move beyond the reasons, excuses, rationales, justification for settling

According to Iyanla - we must do the work

the work for me is the willingness to move, to take a risk, being aware of the situation as it IS AT THE MOMENT and making a firm decision

You deserve more than dregs

You are divine

Peace

 

 

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School