Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

Are You Ready to Look Deeper?

our lives present us with enough obvious opportunities to practice forgiveness without the need to uncover others. We can rest assured that, if any area of our lives is in need of healing, which simply means that it is a symbol upon which we have projected our unconscious guilt, that need will become apparent when we are ready to look deeper. ACIM

There is a theory that when one is triggered it means that this is a place of healing. The thing has come up to be healed. So what do we do? Many of us do not recognise that the trigger is a gift therefore ignoring it or projecting it onto other people in the form of annoyance or anger or cutting them off, other times we "hide" through comfort eating, sex, drugs, alcohol, excess partying, shopping, staying at home. Some type of overcompensation happens when we do not know, realise or acknolwledge that the triggers are blessings, an indication of growth, that healing is the next step.

Having said that, one of my triggers is people not keeping their word to me, particularly if we planned it in advance. I know it is my trigger because I get livid, then I get totally disappointed. Then I have noticed that a couple of people around me have had to change plans, it sent me bonkers. The "brave" ones tell me honestly that I over react or they see me transform when it happens. So I have decided to pay attention, I have decided to "be" to look at the patterns, to understand the triggers and most important to comit to healing


That takes some discipline and guts people! 

To go back to my childhood where I would get dressed, my mother would dress me up in what I would ask her to, and I would wait on my father to come to collect me to spend time with him. I would sit waiting in the front porch looking sweet, if I may say so myself, and hours would pass. If my mum was at home she would take me for Dairy Queen ice cream or KFC, if she was not at home I would go inside and sit at my grandma's kitchen table and she would talk about how much "these people who are full of promises and cannot keep their word are a waste of God Damm time" 

I never gave this a second thought until I was grown. And became aware of triggers. Everytime I had to wait on someone - hell broke loose in my mind! I was mad as hell

then when they cancelled? oh hell naw!

I started attracting men who would do the same thing. My exercise trainer, same! 

So the time is up! healing is essential.

and what heals everything? Forgiveness! that is where it all begins

Peace




 

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I