Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

Do Not Lose The Plot

Use questions to build your strength. You will get angry. Some days you will be devastated. But even on the days when you might fail to be compassionate, please don’t let go of what you know to be true in your bones: that compassion illuminates the darkness. Danielle La Porte

How do you respond when your point of view is in the minority? Especially when the people are seemingly more powerful? What do you do when what you think and feel are different?

I was in a meeting yesterday and was totally outnumbered with my view, I started getting annoyed, I started raising my voice, I started being defensive, then it hit me I do this when I want to prove that I am right rather than listen to other points of view,  when I refuse to learn from others and most importantly when I believe that I am not being heard and losing control.

Really, I am never losing control, that is ussually a perception, a view that says I am wrong. 

Truth be told, there is nothing to prove to anyone, especially when you know that you know that you know, there are some people that one cannot convince, it is an absolute waste of time so don't even bother

Your role is to share your view and be open to it not being agreed to however knowing that you have done it with respect, love and intentions that are pure, the "fight down" aint necessary yo! It really is not!

So as I started shouting and looking to prove my point, I looked at the faces and it was clear no one was getting this so I stopped, I thought, let's leave this, let me find another way to get this message accross and if not then so be it!

As soon as defense starts, one has lost the plot

Do not lose the plot

Peace

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
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— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
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— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
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