Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker


[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] The most common mirror

This is my best lesson this week..... I have been moaning about some of the
people around me and it hit me, the penny dropped " this is a mirror, a
lesson of some sort" let me pay attention.

When you find yourself in a negative situation ask yourself: "What is this
person reflecting back to me?" What behavior, thought or belief does this
person have that I also need to heal within my own being?

There are usually 3 reasons for a mirror:

  1. Someone is being a mirror for you to show you how you are thinking,
    feeling, behaving, vibrating. They are a reflection of a lesson you need to
    learn. Usually both people have the same core belief or issue that needs to
    be healed. Both are reflections for each other. This is the mirror most
    commonly used!

  2. You have volunteered on a soul level to be a mirror for someone else.
    Through their actions, words, beliefs etc.....you have chosen to hold the
    space for them so they could behave or react out of alignment and "see" and
    "feel" the pain they have inflicted on you. IF they witness your pain and
    "acknowledge" their behavior they will be less likely to repeat the lesson
    again and will clear their karma. Through experience and consequences
    lessons are learned IF the person is willing to accept responsibility
    transcending the need to repeat the lesson in the future.

  3. If you have done a lot of work on yourself, another person can reflect
    your progress. People will reflect back to you lessons you have recently
    moved through. They are seeking assistance from you to help shed light on
    the situation so they can also move forward without having to repeat the
    same lesson over and over. In this case, you provide a new perspective and
    are a lighthouse lighting the way for others helping them to bring their
    unconsciousness forward into the light of awareness so it can be healed.

Understand that mirrors are not about the "story". The mirror is about the
feelings and reactions the "story" provokes within us. Do not get hung up
on the He said/ She said, "story".

Focus on the interaction and how it made you feel and how you wanted to
react. The reflection is about the feeling that needs to be transformed
within yourself. If there is no feeling or need to react there is nothing
you need to transform. Look for the emotion!

If someone is mistreating you, ask yourself: " How am I mistreating my soul
or the soul of someone else? Where am I being abusive?

Ask yourself:

What is this person or circumstance trying to teach me?

What behavior are they revealing that is a mirror of my behavior?

What negative thoughts and beliefs am I holding onto that need to be

What am I allowing to be drawn to me? Have I been negative or positive
lately? Where am I holding my vibration?

Am I evolving or revolving? Where am I repeating the same things over and
over? What is the pattern?

What is the gift (lesson) they are trying to give to me?

What is the gift (lesson) I am trying to give to another?


-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 9/05/2015 01:59:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer