Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love - With everything you know what would you do?

"So this time I can apply all that I've learnt. Knowledge that I can
observe with an open hand. The ancestors whisper to me, with everything you know now, what would you do differently? With everything you know, what will you do?" Natalie Stewart (one of my fav poets)

"When you know, or when you have learnt, your behavior will change, until then, you haven't learnt nor do you know so don't tell me that you know because when you know you act like you know" I have heard this a few times on my journey and I would just smile and say "ok ok, I heard ya" Now it is making more sense to me because when you find yourself repeating the old patters, in the same circumstances over and over again and you keep saying "Yes I know I need to ......" it really signals that you seriously don't know or haven't fully grasped that hey, this behavior is not getting me to my goals, not healthy, not leading to my highest self, and so on and so forth.

So here's the thing, when I realize that I am heading down that road of
doing the same crap or making the same decisions in fear, I stop
immediately, just stop it, dead in my tracks and ask "With everything I
know what would I do differently?" and then I move. Sometimes it works a treat and when it does I feel proud, when it does not and I fall back into
the old patterns I forgive myself, stop and move on keeping the question to the forefront of my mind. No time to beat up on myself!

Can you identify with me here? This usually happens to me in relationships, when they are not going as I want them to go, especially with guys, OMG, the question is on repeat! Loop! As we say here, my road march! I'm telling you, it's been like that! To be honest, it's the knowledge that I am enough, that I do not have to bargain with anyone to like me, that I show up as me and that is all I accept people's decisions and not try to force them to see how awesome I am, if they don't see it, that's ok, moving right along. Bless em and move on! Pay attention, every choice gives you a chance to pave your own road, keep moving, keep learning then act like you know! Peace!

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Unconditional Self Love on 6/15/2015 02:49:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School