Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker


[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Choices and its Consequences

Every situation, every condition and every circumstance present in your
life today is the consequence of choice you made or did not make; a thought
you held and the words you have or have not spoken. A consequence is what
unfolds in relationship to how you do or do not honor your intentions and

It is the result, outcome, effect, ramification and the aftermath of
everything you think, feel, say and do. In many cases, you may also face a
consequence for what you choose not to do. Your life today is a function of
what you did or did not do yesterday. Your life tomorrow, next week, next
year and for the next 3, 5 and 10years will be a reflection and a
consequence of what you think, say, do and/or fail to do today. Iyanla

I saw my grandpa (Daddy) yesterday, for the first time since 2005. Daddy
and I were a team! I was his first born grandchild and he never let anyone
forget or told anyone who was willing to listen or not listen even, until
people would come up to me randomly even and say "Your grandfather, girl
the man needs to stop it about you!"

He would pick me up from school three times a week and I would hang with
him sometimes until it was time to go home, I would go to his house for
Christmas holidays and spend a few days, when I moved to London and I came
home to visit we would sit on his porch and talk for hours! And then boys
started coming around me! Daddy did not play! He would say "Kous bring them
all here before you entertain them" I would laugh and ignore him but if he
sees me out and about with them there would be a stern talking too!

I was going to get married, I called Daddy he said "Kous I never sat and
asked that young man his intentions and you are getting married to him, I
want to sit with the both of you" I told him not too worry Daddy I will be
fine. And he was upset, he came to the wedding and then I moved away and
our relationship changed, When I did go to see him with my new husband he
said to him in front of me "young man you have no god or good intentions
where my first born beautiful grandchild is concerned I know it and you
know it" Boy oh boy I was embarrassed and vex, and my husband at the time
said "Daddy needs to mind his own business" another sign I ignored! And
that was it, I just let the relationship with Daddy die.

So after that, feeling embarrassed that Daddy was right about the lack of
good intentions I chose to ignore him when my marriage went bust, and just
never visited him, called him, nothing!

My mother always said to me, "please go and see your granpa he is grieving
that you are not talking to him" I never answered her!

I got to the home yesterday in which Daddy is now living, as I walk in the
front door I see him sitting there, looking so healthy, well dressed,
handsome as ever. He sat there singing and tapping his hands on the table.
He looks up at me and smiled, I bend over to kiss him and he stops me and
asks " Do I know you? You don't look familiar"

I stood there feeling so stooopid! Ok yes they told me he was sick and that
is why he now lives in a home, but he looks so normal, so healthy, so like
Daddy I knew who was always active.

"Daddy it's Kous"

"Kous? Oh that name sounds familiar, sit next to me let us talk"

I sat down next to him and as the tears was rolling down my cheek he said
you look well I don't know you but I am glad you came, let us be happy now
because you are here.

Unfinished business leaves you with power leaks, it drains your system of
the power you were born with, unfinished business takes you away from the
present moment, you take the unfinished business with you into the now and
that is a recipe for repeating the same things over and over. Dealing with
it clears the way for blessings to flow, the temporary pain or discomfort
will pass but after that oh the feeling is sweet and light. Deal with it!

It felt good to see Daddy again, I cannot go back and fix it or change it
but I have now and its all good! Power leak plugged, I'm powered up!! Boom!


-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 4/14/2015 01:59:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
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