Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker


[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Jump into the center and get comfy

Jump into the center of YOUR own life and get comfortable being there.

I was doing my early morning reading and I came across something by
Danielle LaPorte (note to self, these things are really messages so maybe
you didn't just come across it?) anyways, this reading was sent to me
directly because it was exactly what was required this morning.

It talked about "swallowing your words, paying rent in hell and maintaining
appearances. Why we make (unhealthy) compromises"

So there are two types of compromises, one that expands you, make you feel
joyous, growth and not yucky!! Comes from a place of love and grace

Then there is the type that dries you up, makes you feel like crap because
it is driven by fear and people pleasing!

So why do we do it? We do it because of fear that we will not get what we want! Yea, that's it
in a nutshell right there fear! whatever excuses you make for bruising your
soul in the name of compromise is just plain ole fear!

We fear rejection, criticism! So here's the thing

"We stay in ridiculously dramatic relationships for fear of loneliness or
despair -- which would keep us from the connection and joy we really want.
We keep up with social situations even though they make us feel flat, fake,
or alien, because we don't want to be cast off entirely -- because that
might keep us from the nourishment and affinity that we really want.

In review:

We compromise -- we swallow our words, keep paying rent in hell, and
maintaining appearances, because we're afraid that we won't get what we
really want if we... really tell the truth, choose joy over pain, and show
up as ourselves. But if we don't really tell the truth, choose joy over
pain, and show up as ourselves... we'll never get what we really want."

You may really do experience some loneliness, rejection, and pain but its
on the path to getting what you really really want and that's worth it!

Are you worth it?


-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 1/05/2015 01:48:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer