Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker


[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Make up a new story

Release all stories/let go of all excuses, be willing to do the thing that
scares you - Iyanla

Don't we make up a lot of stories? Yea we do, we make them up, especially
when we are in fear, listening to the ego and want to justify our position.
Making up stories mean we are convinced that something or someone or we are
either right, that "they" did that to us. Or perhaps, we have no other
choice, that we are powerless or have you heard or said "if only they would
change, or do what I want my life, our lives will be happy and simple"

Sometimes the stories are simple, sometimes they are dramatic, sometimes
they have elaborate characters and lines that send us into a frenzy,
getting angry, depressed or smug as hell

All this to justify our position, to make ourselves feel safe and to more
importantly to avoid what's staring us right in the face, to keep being in
denying what is and to remain in a false comfort zone! As Byron Katie
says " when you argue with reality you suffer"

I find myself doing it, making up stories when I am in fear or not ready to
face reality as it is but as I want it to be, and here is what I have learnt

If I am making up stories, why not make up a positive and empowering one?

Or even better, tell myself the truth, face the thing as it is then move!

All the stories, usually not true, pushing me more in a cave of denial and
not facing the thing as it is!

Stop beating up yourself, tell the truth, and make a move! The stories are
usually worse than the real thing! Release the monsters! Oops, there aren't
any monsters, it's just a story I made up!!


-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 12/02/2014 12:09:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
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I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self