Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

[What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love] Do we set up ourselves to be resentful?

This is what can be hard, about adulthood: you are aware that you have
choices. You are aware that your choices have consequences. You are aware
that you might make a big mistake and need to retrace your steps to restore
equilibrium in the wake of that disastrous choice. What we sometimes do, however, is set ourselves up to feel resentful. How? By knowing that we have options, yet being afraid to act on available
options–and then getting resentful that we don't like where we are. It
becomes a form of ignoring the fact that change, while hard, is possible.
Sometimes, when we're afraid to make changes, we blame it on circumstances.
We get resentful, the more we blame.

So the whole choices thing again! Yes, the old free will concept, the
ability to choose- which is one of the things that separates us human
beings from the other species, get's me ever so often I get to choose- note to self, reminder, newsflash And when I feel the strong urge to justify my choice, most times it is a
case of not I being totally happy with it or there is some fear involved or
I am looking for external validation - none of the above is helpful.note to
self,reminder,newsflash. As a result, I have learnt that when I am at peace with my choice there is
no feeling, need, urge, or excuse to justify the choice, there is no need
to get external validation, no second guessing, no dishonoring of
boundaries and gut feelings. The "truth" needs no defense. It really does set me free. And what is real is real- the sun does not go away even if I block my eyes
from it Blaming solves nothing - it's a complete waste of time There is no good sense in not making another choice There is no good sense in dishonouring my self, not keeping my word to me
and, Being resentful gets me ill So it all comes back to making another choice and choosing again and again
until I am at peace Peace!

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 7/12/2016 12:36:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
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— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
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— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
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You are an inspiration to us all
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Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
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