Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

Check Your Emotional Health

Louise Hay says that shoulder problems are from carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. She says shoulders “represent our ability to carry out experiences in life joyously. We make life a burden by our attitude.” Is the financial or emotional burden all on your shoulders and you feel responsible, fearful and inadequate? That wear and tear will show up in your shoulders. Think about your last injury. What was going on emotionally at home, in your job, for you at that time? East House Natural Health 


My shoulder is now healing. I have been following the doctor's instructions, taking it easy and not rushing the process.

Louise Hay's work has been important on my journey, her philosophies on affirmations, on healing ourselves through our thoughts and letting go of the past. During my healing process I decided to reacquaint myself with Louise's work. I came across the theory that my shoulder problems are determined by our attitude

I must admit, I have been feeling this way, how amazing are our bodies and our minds that we can heal them by our thoughts and feelings.

I give thanks for all the teachers on my journey

I now release the feeling of any burdens and move forward with a feeling of gratitude knowing that all things are lessons that God will have us learn


Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Initiate the Change

There’s accommodating and then there’s adapting to the world we live in. We all have to accommodate people around us and they do the same for us. It’s a give-and-take world we live in. But adapting to negativity within us or in our environment means deciding we can live with something negative rather than take action to initiate a positive change. Each time we adapt to something negative within us or around us, we pay a price Carolyn Myss

I always remember a story from a lovely lady I met on the journey. She was very ill at the time, her attitude was always positive. I always thought, every time we spoke, that I would have loved to have spent more time with her as our talks were usually quite insightful. I knew it would be a matter of time before she transitioned. One day I worked up the courage to ask her about her condition, she said that she had some pain and discomfort but never went to the doctor to check it out, she just learned to live with pain!

She learned to live with the pain!

We do not ever have to learn to live with pain especially when we can do something about it.

Living with pain is a choice!

We must find the courage to make another choice

We must believe that we deserve more

We must pay attention to the pain as it is giving us a message, a lesson, a sign, we don't have to live there, we don't have to live with the pain

We must know that, then act like we know


Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Stay in Your Power

At all times, we have the right and the freedom to determine what is important in our lives. We also have the freedom to focus our time, energy, and efforts on those things. 

The challenge is that far too often we do not take the time to determine what is important. Then we spend a majority of our life and time doing what we think we must do, have to do, need to do
. Iyanla

Someone told me that they were intimidated by a friend of mine, I must admit I was a tad bit shocked. I wanted to find out more as to why someone who can be considered her contemporary would intimidate her. So I asked after saying - never let anyone intimidate you! She responded that it was the job that the person held. Oh dear me, someone's position would intimidate you, and you knew the person before they had that job?

I was quite amazed!

We get to chose who and what we place importance on

We may choose this deliberately or unconsciously, the beauty about life is that it always gives us feedback through how we live

If the choice is unconscious it will still reflect through our lives.

We get to choose what we focus on

Declaring intimidation and helplessness is giving away our power. 

Spend some time in your own power, making your own choices, knowing exactly what is important to you and your life will reflect that!


Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Till The Soil

Honestly, without a lot of fluffy talk, it is time for you to know and to express the fullness and the richness of how wonderful, of how special, you are. NDW

We, all of us, are magnificent beings, we are born that way, believe it or not. 

Our magnificence is always there, it never leaves us despite poor decisions and choices, or circumstances and setbacks. I liken it to seeds in the right soil. If the soil and the conditions are conducive the plant will grow. The fruits will bear. 

There are some plants that seem to be withered, worn and ready to die, yet with some water and TLC they spring up and thrive

There are some with brown leaves that really ought to be green, stalks where buds are supposed to be - with a shower of rain a difference happens

The soil is important, the fertiliser is important

Our friends, family, health and choices are our soil and fertiliser. With the right combination our magnificence shines through.

I keep remembering that when I am veering off course, when I encounter others who have also forgotten their own magnificence!

Let us always remember

Till the soil! Root out the weeds! Spread the Love!

Peace



Why You Are Not Getting What You Want

Yesterday the celebration of the Bodaciousness started

Six of the young ladies of the NiNa Programme had an audience with our country's first female President, up close and personal

It was a bit of a surreal moment sitting with these young ladies next to the President of the country chatting away.

I want to thank the Office of the President for facilitating this memorable day and wish her the best for the future.


I also want to share one of the best blogs of my week - Maxi McCoy


I really hate not getting what I want. And I’m the queen of letting desire get in the way of intuitive knowing.


The amount of times I’ve known something was bad for me, but my brain decided I wanted it (for any number of reasons)…is countless. I’ve chased after big dreams that weren’t aligned but were desired. I’ve been laser-focused on making strides that weren’t rooted in what really mattered. I’ve chased after people that sucked (and some that were great but sucked for me). I’ve gone after huge opportunities that I knew would look and sound good, but were completely off when it came down to why I’m here.


Untangling the tentacles of desire is a complicated and difficult thing. The process will require you to learn the hard way. It will cause some blow ups in your life. It will break your heart. It will shake your confidence. It will make you wonder if you can even be trusted with what it is that you want. It will push you to the edge, and when you get there, you’ll realize why you didn’t get what you wanted. No matter how badly you wanted it. No matter how hard you worked for it. No matter how much energy you gave it.


You’re not getting what you want, because you’re getting something better.


You’re not getting what you want, because you ignored the whispers.


You’re not getting what you want, because the right thing is coming.


You’re not getting what you want, because it was the only path to learn the lessons you needed to learn.


You’re not getting what you want, because you’re getting what you need – To evolve. To know your power. To learn yourself. To understand your potential. 


What you’ll find when you don’t get what you want is that when you stop your initial fighting, sulking, and wallowing in your own bullshit puddle of why not me, you have an opportunity to shed the stories you layered onto the situation you were gunning for – why it was right, why it was meant to be, why it was for you, why it would all work out perfectly, why your future depended on it – to see all the red flags that you sprayed neon pink. You’ll get to see the information that was there all along. You’ll get to remember the whispers you heard and ignored.


And when you see all of that, you remember that you CAN trust yourself. Because that soft and intuitive and wise you is always there. She’s always accessible. And you get to choose whether you listen to her or not.


Sometimes we let desire get in the way of that wisdom, which is OK. And eventually we’ll learn to let that centered and knowing voice lead, instead of shoving it back behind the megaphone of desire. 


Bodacious Girls

Go for the Joy - Iyanla Vanzant




Plans are well away with the Bodacious Girl Gala. A celebration of bodaciousness which all began as an idea in my mind, it was shared with some wonderful people. The idea has morphed itself into something beautiful.

The intention is to to celebrate the young ladies that I have met on the journey, the ones who have taught me about showing up, about non judgement, about compassion, about patience!

The intention to highlight to others and to remember also that it takes a village.

The intention is  be of service to someone in someway

The intention is for the young ladies to celebrate themselves and their achievements

The intention is to live our best lives

The intentions is to share lessons on the Journey

Come celebrate with us!

The Little Things

Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness.” ~ James Thurber

Today my whole aim is to pay attention to my surroundings and what I am doing, to taste my food, to enjoy the warmth of the sunshine, to look at the flowers blooming on the porch, to smell the grass

The little things are the big things.

When I neglect or forget the little things big things happen to remind me to get back to them

So, today I remind myself to be aware, to be grateful, to be mindful of all the little things that make life so big!


My top 5 Little Things


1. Fresh Watermelon

2. The smell of newly cut grass

3. Sunrise

4. Birds around the flowers on the porch

5. Silence


What are your little things?

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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All Needs Met

"never underestimate and be willing to invest in the power of your mind. That’s the ticket to anything and everything, because that’s what’s going to lead to your experiences. That’s what’s going to build you character. That’s what’s going to resolve your issues and challenges. That’s what’s going to transmute and change your pathology. Don’t underestimate the power of your mind and be willing to invest in the power of each and every thought that you have.” Iyanla Vanzant

I have been reading up on thought patterns, and how powerful our minds are. From a thought comes an action and from the action results the experience. It fascinated me that simply by paying attention to what I think I can make simple adjustments to shift the experiences in my life. Of course there are things that are way out of our control, but what is within our control is our response the situations, as well as, the thoughts about the situation.


What do you think about money?

What do you think about love?

What do you think about your purpose?

What do you think about the world?


Every thought, every belief may be shaped by your experiences, by your family life, by your religion.What happens is that we look to validate our beliefs, and what we seek we find.

Since January began, I felt helpless, subconsciously, I felt helpless because I did not get paid for the jobs that I completed, when I called and asked about the debt, I was told that there would be a huge deduction based on the contract. I was pissed off, I knew they were right, but I had committed bills. I felt even more helpless, the spiral continued until my thoughts showed up in my experience, I woke up and I could not help myself, I could not move! I got shit scared, what is really happening here?

I could not move my left hand. 

My thoughts manifested itself in - I could not support myself

It is a painful wake up call, and through the process of healing which involves doctors, physio and rest I have to keep reminding myself that all my needs are met.

All Needs Met

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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I believe In...

What is going on in your mind determines the quality of your life - Micheal Singer

Maxie McCoy came up with a brilliant lists called "85 Things That I Believe in", I am going to share my top 30, I would love if you can share yours!

  1. I believe in sleep.

  2. I believe that believing in yourself is the ultimate superpower.

  3. I believe that we become what we believe. 

  4. I believe in stories. And their power to connect us. 

  5. I believe we’re here to love. Full stop. 

  6. I believe there’s magic in the everyday. Extraordinary in the simple.

  7. I believe moments are what matter. Not outcomes. 

  8. I believe that women are changing the world.

  9. I believe in the men who believe in women.

  10. I believe the path is made while you’re stepping. Not before.

  11. I believe in being the highest possible expression of yourself, always. 

  12. I believe that saying what’s hard is easier than living a life created by only saying what’s easy.

  13. I believe laughter is worth searching for. 

  14. I believe we’re here to learn the lessons. So let’s be compassionate as we do.

  15. I believe kindness is the ultimate leadership style.

  16. I believe we all have the power to make someone feel seen. 

  17. I believe the future is female.

  18. I believe words find us when we need them most. 

  19. I believe in lifting as you climb.

  20. I believe gratitude begets abundance.

  21. I believe we can make mistakes without being a mistake. 

  22. I believe if they’re talking about other people to you. They’re talking about you to other people.

  23. I believe tears can cleanse. 

  24. I believe the best healers help you heal yourself.

  25. I believe ‘letting go’ is actually acceptance. 

  26. I believe that anything is possible.

  27. I believe “one day” should be today.

  28. I believe in the power of small. It’s where big begins.

  29. I believe in clarity. Giving it and asking for it.

  30. I believe that beliefs can change.



Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Who Establishes Worthiness?

Your worth is not established by teaching or learning. Your worth is established by God. As long as you dispute this everything you do will be fearful, particularly any situation that lends itself to the belief in superiority and inferiority. ACIM

Your worth is not established by anything you do, make , share, teach or learn. You are           born worthy!

Isn't that magnificent to know?

Everything that you do does not make you worthy, everything that you don't do does not        make you unworthy and vice versa.

You are worthy, period.

We forget our worthiness, we forget our magnificence, we forget our enoughness and           engage in behaviours that reflect that. When we forget, we must learn, unlearn and re-         learn. And that process of unlearning, re-learning and learning still will not make us               unworthy, because we already are worthy. That process of learning will continue until we       transition. The process will continue until we get it, until we accept that our worth , then         we move on to something else.

Remember that, our worth is is only established by God, by virtue of being born, you are        worthy!


Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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What Do You Believe?

What you believe precedes all experiences - Iyanla Vanzant

What do you believe about your health, your finances, your body, your dreams, your abilities?

What do you believe about the world?

Do you even know?

If you don't consciously know, your life will reflect to you all of your beliefs. It really is quite amazing!

When you pay attention to your beliefs not only can you change them, you can change your life.

Money in my case, I believed that there is never enough of it for me to live. My life started reflecting this. It is only when I started paying attention to my beliefs I realised, wait a hot darn minute, I believe in a lack. Life has a way of reflecting what is inside of us.

So, I have embarked on the Journey to change these beliefs, I have started reading books, clearing off my debts, paying my bills on time and in love and knowing that there is always enough. The hardest part for me was charging a fee for the services that I provide, and this struggle is made so much more easy by the people I surround myself with and my flexibility to be open.

What are you believing about yourself, and how is it playing out in your life?

Pay attention

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Teamwork Makes The Dream Work

Alone we can do so little, together we can do so much." --Helen Keller



Heart Fire was scorching! It all came together so fabulously! I couldn't ask for a better band of supporters, they are all angels.

The one thing we thought we did not have, a photographer, showed yup. A friend who takes pictures gladly obliged. I know that I am divinely guided and supported- if I had any doubt I don't anymore. I took the approach of letting the team do their thing, each of them have strengths and maximising them is always magnificent!

I am so honoured that this team chose me, they say the team work makes the dream work!

Who is on your team?


Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Cheers to Knowing

Knowing, as we have already observed, does not lead to doing. ACIM


I cannot tell you the number of times that I have, in response, to a question about doing something that I must absolutely do but for some reason procrastinate say I know. In fact, I may repeat it - I know I know.

Today as I was reading ACIM, it hit me, knowing does not lead to doing, knowing is the first step. to complete the action one must do!

I say I know to satisfy myself that I am doing something, in reality I am not really doing anything. I am stalling. So, how do we complete the process, how do we complete the "doing" 

1. We acknowledge where we are 

2. We accept where we are

3. We commit to taking a small step, daily

4. We stop judging ourselves

5. We celebrate the small wins

6. Repeat!

Cheers to knowing!

Peace


Tomorrow is Heart Fire at the Kaiso Blues Cafe!

Is Anything Enough?

When you know you have given enough, done enough and taken enough, the pain of overwhelm is replaced by your powerful decree: enough!  Iyanla

Our belief of our enoughness is critical in making decisions.When we start from a place of enoughness there is less striving, less proving and less stress.

When nothing seems enough we lose perspective on what is working in our lives

We leave gratitude out of the equation

and keep on searching, looking, wanting.

Start from a place where YOU are enough and see what difference it makes

Peace

Love Is

it costs absolutely nothing to love people. love does not mean i will carry you. love does not mean i will stay. love does not mean i will allow you to bring me harm. love is just that. there is a way to love without letting people that are not good for you into your space. Diamond Dorris


Love does not hurt

Love does not cause drama

Love is Love

Unconditional Love does not mean that there are no boundaries, it does not mean anything goes. Boundaries are in place to engender respect of self and others.

Love is Love

Love is Acceptance

Love is Patience

Love is being in a Safe Space

Love is knowing your worth and not having to bargain for anything.

Love is Declaration, not secretive

Love is freedom

Love is being vulnerable

Love is Love


Peace


Come out to Heart Fire on Saturday 26th January

Love Vs Fear

Nothing and everything cannot coexist. To believe in one is to deny the other. Fear is really nothing and love is everything. ACIM 


How many times have we pre-planned an event in our mind, we create scenarios and have proper conversations about what can happen, what ought to happen, what will happen if he or she says or does so and so!

And then when the event actually happens, it goes nothing as we anticipated, especially when the conversation is based on fear.


Fear has its place, it is a survival mechanism. we have evolved from living out in the wilderness, we have taken this survival mechanism and used it inappropriately to cause ourselves and others undue stress and strife.


Fear is really nothing and love is everything - I absolutely live by this when I am feeling totally at sea and afraid I remember this line

Love is everything, love of self first, love of others, love of life

If you are reminded that love is everything, you will not act in fear.


What have you been doing in fear?

What have you been doing in love?

Pay attention to that

Peace


Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer