Akosua Dardaine Edwards

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Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love - Being prepared is an act of kindness and intelligence

We never arrive at a place knowing it all. For as long as we are alive we
are challenged to grow, learn evolve and mature. Love is a decision is a
destination, you must choose to walk in it live in it and become it. Rob
Hill Sr .

Yesterday I was asked to spend day with 25 young people, fifteen years of
age as part of a programme called "The Winner Within" - This programme
developed for youths from the so called marginalized areas who have
challenges in functioning in society according to the status quo
definition. Yesterday the aim was to chat about self-esteem, confidence and living authentically. I must admit that this is the most challenging gig that I have done this year.

Why? I was unprepared. What do I mean by unprepared? I have not been on the ground working with young people on the margins of the society, I stopped doing that a while back for reasons such as having a different focus. Unprepared meaning leaving love out of the equation at the start of the session. Unprepared meaning using a one size fit all session yesterday. Unprepared meaning that I was impatient and wanted them to sit be quiet, listen and ask questions. And what they did was the complete opposite. The challenged me, they took me out of my comfort zone and forced me to see them as they are, their authentic selves.

I learnt yesterday that being prepared is an act of kindness and
intelligence. I learnt that I had to switch the plan immediately! Flip the
switch. Work with love and kindness and firmness and flexibility and
openness. I learnt that I must walk with those tools to every gig.

The participants were brilliant, they were open to sharing, they were being themselves and doing what they have learnt, looking for attention and love by any means they think they will get it. They showed up as themselves.

I must admit that I thought what are we doing? what are we teaching our
young people by example? In the end I decided to take the opportunity to do what I can with what I have to the best of my ability and leave the rest! and get prepared, super fast!

Peace!!

-- Posted By Blogger to What did I learn today? Lessons on the Journey to
Unconditional Self Love on 7/07/2015 12:04:00 pm

Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School