Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

Homeward Bound

“No matter where you’re from, your dreams are valid.”—Lupita Nyong’o

Thank you Guyana, I had a wonderful experience being there and seeing your bold ambition of being a green state.

Many people think your vision for a fully green state is crazy. I think that is one reason why I'm on board.

I believe all our dreams ought to be Huge, dreams ought to make you feel excited, it ought to stretch you.

This is a concept which although not new is not fully seen in this part of the world, additionally Guyana just found oil so it is easy for them to neglect the green part of everything

So I take back the lessons of dreaming big and going for it no matter of others believe that I am crazy as hell

Dream Big

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Adventure on the Essiquibo

When you have an intact, healthy sense of worth, you value other people. You realize that people are different. You understand that people see things and interpret things in different ways. You do not compare yourself to them, nor do you feel the need to compete with them. You know who you are, which means you can accept others as they are.Until Today


I decided to take in the towns off the Essquibo River yesterday, as usual asked no questions

We cross the river using a very huge and long draw bridge onto "the other side" drove for about another hour and there we were on a pier. Ok, so far so good.

Then I saw the boat that I would be entering to cross this river, which by the way is so huge! Seems smaller compared to the Nile, maybe it was my extreme concern about the boat

The boat was a small wooden structure that held a maximum of ten people - to me 7 too much

The captain said the wood never sinks, whatever happens the boat will float!

Well I have none of that type of wood in me so what's going to happen to me?

Thanks for the tip cap!

I got on the boat and we took off to 4 small towns, I am amazed at the simple life that still extists, people were chilling in their hamocks with their families, talking and laughing in the first town

The second town was where they say the gold is! it was bustling and busy, boats at the dock were in and out, people were on a mission

The third, Sloth Island was peaceful and calm, I really enjoyed that stop

We stopped at a waterfall next, the water was brown, they told me its because of the minerals. I will accept that, just wont be bathing in it, no offence!

Then it was time to leave

The tide rose, I looked at the wood, I reminded myself that the wood will float

The Captain said we would have to go slow as the water is too rough

A river yall? With waves?

We spent 2 hours on that river, it was rough literally and every other way

Nightfall hit, the place was pitch black, I started singing songs to take my mind off the fear

David Rudder was the choice!

I was so happy to touch land, I cannot even begin to explain!


One more day in Guyana, the adventure continues

Peace



Guyana Green Expo - Day 5

some days i show up by candlelight, and other days as a wildfire. Diamond Dorris


I was scheduled to conduct a workshop yesterday. I kept asking all day about the logistics, I was told that it would be done. The time ticked by, I still kept asking. Just at the end of the day I was told to come to a particular place at 4pm. I arrived and the spot wasn't ready, there was nothing in place.

Okay then, so do I light a fire or not? I decided to be kind.

What are the options?

They had none

Can you come up with some options?

They came up with three options

What is the best option?

They mention what they believe the best option and I accepted.

The workshop will go on tomorrow

Once the workshop is completed I will have a word about the organisation, the big picture is the workshop.

How many times have I not kept the big picture in mind and get caught up in the minor details? The minor details are just that, minor. The means towards the end are important. Leaving the ego out is important, leaving the feeling of being embarrassed out is important, acting out in fear usually leads to a hot mess!

Wish me luck today


Peace

Guyana Green Expo Day 4

Attitude and perspective is everything. If you’re a pessimist, then you have negative thoughts that won’t go away no matter what the odds are. If you’re a realist, you are just coming to terms and accepting a situation rather than feeling like it was yours or someone else’s fault. Bolde

What is the difference between stating what is and what it should be?

What is the difference between showing anger and being negative?

What is the difference between being nosy and showing concern?

I ask myself these questions quite a bit, particularly in times where I realise that I am on the verge of getting annoyed.or feeling resentful.

I have learnt that intention plays such a huge part in what we do, even unintentionally. That is to say if we set no intention for what we are doing our subconscious takes over, whatever we are thinking consciously or subconsciously reflects itself in our reality.


The other thing that I learnt is that bringing in opinions based on past hurt, trauma and issues will move it from the facts to what we think it should be. I am testing the theory to see how it works

I check myself, I check my language, I check my feelings, I check my intentions. Sometimes I know right away that I have crossed the line to negative and nosy behaviour, especially when I use the check list. And then there are other times I have to be reminded, some brave souls remind me that I am or I have crossed. (I appreciate y'all!)

So, all in all, lessons on the Journey have taught me to state my intention, even if it is to myself before I do anything. The best intention I have found is the one where I state that I show up real and do my absolute best, I show up and be present with no judgements allowing the Universe to use me as it sees fit

With that intention I am able to see when I have stepped over the line!

I told my friend yesterday - the hip hop era was on to something when they said "Check yourself before you wreck yourself"


So I am here at the Expo asking myself these questions because there are some things that are concerning me about the preparation and execution. I have committed to continuing to show up nd do my best no matter what!


Peace




Guyana Green Expo - Day 3

The right people hear you differently - Lalah Delia

Today was the day that all the politicians and the rest of technocrats were scheduled to be present. They called it the formal part! I was interested to see the Guyanese version of formalities. Why? It seems that many former colonies of Britain all have this way they behave at formal political and Government functions. Confessions on the Journey - I am so over it! It seems ancient to me and there are so many ways to show respect to an office and a person, there are so many ways to host a function, there are so many ways to show love for country but adoption and adaptation of old school rules, Anyways I digress


The commitment made by the Guyanese government  to transform and be a green economy by 2040 is commendable, it is to be applauded and congratulated. They have managed to mesh their discovery of oil and gas with the vision to be green in the midst of it all. Well done to them, I was indeed heartened and inspired by this bold move, I am also happy to play a small part in this transformation


I also met some lovely people today as well.

Peace



Guyana Green Expo Day 2

Until today, you may not have realized that you have the power to reshape and redefine any experience Iyanla



I am in Guyana to facilitate sessions at this Conference and appear on a panel - that is all I know

The agenda I have't seen - not because I haven't asked, I have asked and was told that the agenda is shifting and will be given the details tonight. I let go immediately the fear and need to be in control, the Universe is obviously talking to me. As soon as I let go, my gracious host asked if I wanted to go into town to do errands in preparation for the workshop. I jumped at the opportunity, after all, what else would I do back at the conference centre?

We took a taxi into town, the capital of Guyana is called Georgetown , they call where we were going "Town Town" a combination of wide tree lined streets, old historic buildings and loads of people on the streets selling, shopping, standing and talking. The vibes was high, the sun was so hot we abandoned all attempts to walk to go anywhere and jumped into a taxi who thought he was running a party car, the driver turned up the music so loud! We asked for it to be turned down, he wasn't best pleased so we got out of the car and walked for a bit, then had to abandon that idea once again.

We ended the "town town" tour at a Fish and Chips spot for lunch, plaintain chips too! It was delish!

Give thanks for the opportunity to see the town from a local's perspective,

Let's see if I get the agenda later on today!

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Guyana Green Expo - Day 1


What you do for your highest good, for your own well being, is going to be good for everyone else. It will be a bit scary at first, but in the end, you will feel a lot better. You will be clear. You will have put everyone on notice.  
Iyanla



This my first time in Guyana, this is the first time I am asked to facilitate this type of workshop, Confessions on the Journey - I felt a tad bit overwhelmed, I looked at the panel and thought wowee, this is different to my usual get on the mic and speak sort of thing, anyways, having said that I will show up ready!

The flight was short and sweet, the driver assigned to take me to the hotel seemed to me to be a lovely person, we had a very lively and funny conversation on the hour drive to the hotel. I was told that there would be a meeting at the hotel  going on when I arrive so join in.

I put the bags down and headed to the "meeting", it was a full on production of the Expo happening. The room was full of people, boxes everywhere, snacks, pens, bags, books. A production line was set up to stuff bags, I joined in, we filled over 200 bags, then we drive over to the stadium, and took a detour to the Massy Stores Supermaket because I forgot my toothbrush (the currency here got me chuckling, how can a toothbrush be $600 bucks y'all?) Anyways, that is their funny money.

The stadium was also buzzing, tents were being put up, solar panels being added, food stalls were driving in

I am so happy that I was invited, that I have been given the opportunity to share my lessons on the Journey

I will be here for 8 days and will definitely make the most of it

I just realised I don't remember any of the ladies names n the bag stuffing line yet we shared long conversations and jokes!!

Peace




Do You Know Your Triggers?

Do the Work - Iyanla

Do you know what your triggers are? I'm talking about the things that piss you off when spoken, said and done because you haven't dealt with an issue, something you know is causing you to be defensive  to the point of shutting down?

Are there certain people that just piss you off, you think for no good reason? You think its because they were born. 

I am of the view that there is always a reason, always a back story 


I started realising that some things and some people trigger me, I decided to pay attention

I decided to face the honest brutal truth that they trigger me for a couple of reasons, I get jealous, I judge them and I don't want to deal with a back story, a memory from the past that got me angry that I had pushed to the back of my mind.

I strongly believe that we have responsibility for our choices, our responses, the moment we start blaming others and justifying our choices by saying its someone else who made us do it, then we start giving away our power and projecting onto others.

Awareness, acknowledgement and taking responsibility is the work

Avoidance is not the work! Thinking it will go away on its own is not the work

Facing it with the knowledge that going through the discomfort knowing that on the other side a decision will be made to push you forward, even though it may not be an easy decision is the work

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Go Where You Bloom

Because you are

a living being — you need to always be where you can grow, thrive, and feel nourished. Lalah Delia

Many times we stay, we stay and make up reasons and rationale and justifications about why we stay, why we cannot leave, why being where we are is where we are supposed to be, about the sacrifice and the struggle.

Granted, there are some times that the lesson is in the "staying" the lesson is about patience and discipline and surrender.

And then there are times the lesson is in letting go, is in trusting and having faith and willingness to let go and to take risks

When you are getting sick all the time - it's time to be in a place where you are able to bloom

When you are sad most of the time - it's time to be in a place where you can bloom

When you are making up excuses and justifications both to yourself and others - it's time to be in a place where you can bloom

When you are escaping through food, drugs, sex, shopping, medication- it is time to be in a place where you can bloom

You are a living thing

A place with no oxygen will cause you to die

And a place to bloom includes the mental space.

I love the term "be willing" because it denotes that one is ready to give something new a chance

The Universe is self correcting and speaks to us all the time through the lives we live

There is nothing we can do to deny our blessings but there are things we can do to get in the way of them being manifested.

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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My Worth is Not Attached To What I Do

You work from sunup to sundown, afraid to stop, afraid to lose your worth in the eyes of others. But more important, you are afraid that the moment you stop doing, you will lose the worth and value you have placed on yourself. It is this, do- more -better- faster approach to living that leads to physical, mental, emotional and spiritual imbalance - Iyanla

Balance!

I have heard about this term "Work-Life Balance"

The term became popular because we became a society that work more than anything else, we put work above it all because we believed it allowed us to live better lives. A bit of wrong sided logic.

I have learnt that without balance, the scales are tipped, and usually not in your favour.

I have also learnt that when one is doing something with purpose and intention the balance is automatically built in.

Consider this, if you love yourself and is moving on purpose, you will make it your business to rest, you will be having fun and you will be grateful for the little things, you will make it your business to have fun, to rest, to play, to exercise, to be.

It is built it

As opposed to when the work is just to survive and pay the bills and more importantly to prove your worth to others

If you are working to prove your worth to others, to pay for the things you believe will signify that you have "made it" and your worth is tied to what you do, what you earn and who you know, there can never ever be balance

You will continue to search for that validation and worth from work

Balance does not require you to do anything better or faster than anyone else, it does not require you to compare your life to others

It requires that you make aconscious effort to be,to do, to rest, to work, to play and be present in those moments while you are doing it.

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Thank You For The Reminder

Wherever you go, go with all your heart. Confucius

This morning I had the opportunity to speak to the students at the San Juan South Secondary School's Career and Achievement Day. I must admit, speaking with teenagers terrify me, they are honest to the point of brutality, they don't pretend if they are not feeling you or getting the message

I always take the opportunity to speak to them because it pushes me over my comfort zone, I know right there and then when I have to raise my game even more than when I show up with what I think is a game changing message!

This morning did not disappoint, the energy in the room was high, they were there with me all the way guiding me to raise the game and be present in the moment. I truly learnt today how to feel comfortable with discomfort. and as soon as I surrendered to that feeling, we bacame one, the thing flowed so much, I was lauging and smiling and hollering, totally lost in the moment as opposed to me wondering if the audience was feeling me, if my face was greasy or my clothes were still in the right spot (I move around so much that things tend to move!)

Thank you San Juan South Secondary for the opportunity to share lessons on the Journey and the reminder to my own self to show up real

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Being True to Yourself is Not Easy

Being true to yourself is not always easy. For fear of not being accepted, we tailor our personality, mince our words, and carve our opinions to fit in. It takes courage to be real… and it takes stamina because if you want the best out of life, it will demand the best of you time and time again. Danielle La Porte

Sunday I had the extreme pleasure of hosting the young ladies from the NiNa Programme at the house for their birthday party

Quite a few of them have their birthday in October so it has turn into an annual event, last year we were kind enough to be given a place to use, this year the ladies decided upon a photoshoot as their birthday present.

The absolute joy for the simple things is what gets me everytime

The cake was a big deal

The ice cream was a big deal

The photos were a big deal

The KFC after was a big deal

The people who came for the lime was a big deal

A total reminder to me that it is always the simple things that count

It is always the love, It is always the love, it is always the love

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Push The Boundaries

We are inspired by people who go beyond the norm and push the boundaries of possibility. Mediocrity, on the other hand, does not inspire. Nor does it lead to greatness. Success, however you define it, will elude you unless you are willing to push the limits you have placed on yourself and that others have placed on you.”


Have you ever sat down and defined what success means for you? Not the TV version, or your parent's version, or the society's version.

Your own version of success, that you sat and thought about, that involves big dreams and being frightened at its possibilities?

If you haven't ask yourself why

Have you ever sat down and thought about staying where you are just because it is comfortable? That it allows you to pay your bills and eat?

Is it a given that you do this until "better can be done" because you have responsibilities?

If you have, ask yourself - how am I feeling?

Your feelings are the guide

If you are denying your feelings, your life will reflect the truth of what is inside

If you are feeling a sense of joy and content, your life reflects this in your attitude, in your manner, in your approach, trust me, you absolutely cannot fake it. What is inside is reflected outside

If you are feeling frustrated and angry about where you at in life it will reflect in your life

You will also have unexplained aches and pains and ailments

Your life tells you everything

And the transformation is a process, however for a process to begin one must well.....begin! One must decide!

What I have learnt is defining my own version of what success is may not be in line with what others have for me, and I have to be okay with that

I have learnt that success is not a one size fits all

it involves courage and discipline and feeling all the feelings, because they are indeed guides

I have learnt that the process may not have the same timeline as I do! and most importantly, do not ever judge the process


Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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In the End What Matters Most to You?

In the end these things matter most: How well did you love? How fully did you live? How deeply did you let go?” – Jack Kornfield, Buddha’s Little Instruction Book

Yesterday I attended a funeral, I did not know him very well, we crossed paths at secondary school where he taught, he went on to influence so many of my friends and became an icon in our local musical landscape. Even though I was a poor student in his music class, he always from that day whenever I saw him, smiled said hello and asked how was I doing. Everyone who spoke if him yesterday spoke of his humility, his smile and his attitude of love. He left teaching the school to go on to follow his dreams, a bold move as declared by everyone! How many of us are willing to take the risks to step out and be bold with our hopes and dreams? He did it and although it was tough he was able t influence so so many lives

I truly admired his courage and discipline

What I learned yesterday is to go for it, do it with love, do it with a smile, be authentic and your life will make a difference to someone!

Thank you Professor

May you Fly in Peace

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Divine Timing

All things come in due season - Iyanla Vanzant

Rushing anything is a complete waste of time and effort, I truly believe in Divine Timing. And, like nature we are also subject to some of its laws. Have you ever seen the sun rush to set or to rise?

I also truly believe that our blessings have our names on it, aka, what is for you is for you! We can chose whether or not we want to go and claim it by doing the work and having the faith.

We trip ourselves up wanting things when we want it, when we want it and all indications show that it is not yet the time nor is it the thing that really is for you.

We basically force it, we force it because we want to look good and be good!

When it does not happen the way we believe it ought to happen we get depressed, angry, despondent and wonder if something is wrong with us!

Divine timing - it works.

You cannot force it, you cannot force anything, it will not last.

What is for you, you will have once, you put the work in and have faith.

and many times letting go is also part of this Divine Timing Journey.


I have learnt not to force anything, I have been working on a book tour to St Lucia all year, there have been lots of work put in, today I decided to pospone it

Forcing it is not an option

In divine timing I will go and if I don't then St Lucia ain't for the I& I!

If I do go, come out and share lessons on the Journey

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School