Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

Moving House and the Lessons

We can’t be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don’t have something better.

C. JoyBell C.


I have to move...and soon

This makes me sad

I have to pull out the lessons that I have learnt thus far and be prepared for the new ones that I know are coming

I love where I am, I really love it, it is like a dream where I am

I know it is temporary but letting go is a lesson that I am in special ED class with

One lesson comes to mind is let go and trust.I don't know what the other lessons yet are but the feeling is one of sadness.

That's it!

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Who Are Your Teachers?

Honor the teachers that push and challenge you through time -- the ones that don’t let you "slack-off", or waste your precious moments -- but don’t mystify them. Great teachers are examples to be copied; paths to be followed . . . to be loved, and respected, but when placed on pedestals -- the equal reaction is, they’ll always fall. This damages your belief in the teachings, the teachings that pushed and challenged you to grow further and faster; to save the precious time of your life; to ultimately have the time of your life. Guru Singh

There are so many teachers around me, I have come to the conclusion that many of the people who push my buttons and piss me off are also my teachers, they have allowed me to either demonstrate how not to be and to learn patience, compassion and non judgement.

People who are comfortable speaking their truth and are courageous to do with kindness, also teach me that freedom is important. Freedom from other people's opinion.


The ones living their dreams despite the status quo also teach me that it can be done

To teach is to demonstrate, mainly by actions! To walk the talk

Children, in their honesty and innocence also are teachers, they are all embracing until taught differently!

So who are your teachers?

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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A Proud Day - NiNa Graduation

The journey is never ending. There's always gonna be growth, improvement, adversity; you just gotta take it all in and do what's right, continue to grow, continue to live in the moment. Antonio Brown

Today is the graduation for the NiNa Young Entrepreneurship  an  Leadership Programme.

NiNa is a leadership and entrepreneurship programme developed for young women to embody an entrepreneurial mindset. Bishops and Trinity East Sixth Form School has been a partner for a very long time, they continue to churn out excellence on an annual basis



I am especially happy and proud to see this programme continue despite my traversing and being present to facilitate this. Mrs Patricia Toby has been a God send, she has been committed to NiNa. Avinash, a teacher at the school has been supportive from the first day I introduced the idea to him. I have so much respect and gratitude for them both, they didn't know me but wanted to join up and assist.

2019 is around the corner I see the programme evolving,who better to have in my corner but these two? When I came up this idea, I remember having an advisory committee, they have all gone their separate ways, I give thanks for their support at the beginning, every one who contributed, teaching me all about how to let go, how to work as a team, how to take responsibility for my actions

Here we are going into our 9th year and I am so grateful for all the lessons, I am looking forward to seeing what happens in the future


Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Give Yourself Permission

“Don't aim for perfection. Aim for 'better than yesterday'.” 

― Izey Victoria Odiase


I am announcing today, plainly & openly, right here, right now that I, Akosua Dardaine Edwards, have given myself permission to

- not kill myself to be perfect.

- to not always feel I need to have all the answers.

- to not feel guilty for not having all the answers.

- to mess up & recover minus the guilt.
- to always show up as me - every single time.
- to know that there are consequences for each choice & be prepared to live with the consequences of my choice even if its unpopular.
- to love & serve despite it all.
I also give myself permission to be my awesomely flawed self & remember that I am enough
Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Who Are You Becoming?

Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming. John Wooden

We know when things are about to change

We know when we are forcing something

We know when it is time to leave

We know when it is time to arrive

We know when it is time to make another choice

We know!

What happens quite a bit is most times we don't follow the knowing because it takes us into an unfamiliar place, the unknown, the "I don't know" space.

Most times we listen to the noise, rather than that still soft voice

Life has a way of showing us where we are

We carry on as normal and more times than not, shit hits the fan

We get fired, laid off, downsized, restructured

The relationship comes to an end

The car stalls

The health stalls

we do all sorts of magic to keep the job, car, house, relationship, the things and nothing works

Because it is time, time for you to have self belief, patience, faith, trust, courage, to listen to your intuition.

none of it relates to the "things" all of these experiences are about who you are becoming on the journey.

So, who are you becoming?

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Confusion and It's Fix

I wanted to share with you a blog from Maxie McCoy which truly resonated with me, I hope that you enjoy it

Peace



"Confusion is typically born from one party not being clear, and one party not asking for the clarity.  In an effort to remain comfortable, we choose not to be direct. But in that lack of clarity is confusion. And confusion keeps us on the hook. Confusion becomes a murky pool of questions. Confusion leads to painful blind siding they didn't see coming. Confusion harvests all kinds of pain and resentment that could have been avoided by just being clear. Being direct. And saying the things that are hard to say.

I've caused confusion. And I've tolerated it. I've committed to things in person that I had no intention of following through on. I've held my real feelings close because I didn't want to hurt their feelings on the spot. I've hoped it would all just go away instead of having to own my responsibility in it, out loud. I've ignored poor performances, thinking the positive can outweigh the negative... eventually. I've smiled to someone's face and cried behind their back. I've done it.

I've done it because being direct, and clear, and honest can be hard. Demanding clarity can be, too. It can hurt our own heart, and it can seem like it might hurt someone's else's. But we must do it anyways.

So if you're feeling confusion about where you stand, in your job, in your relationships, in your friendships... consider creating a conversation for the sake of clarity. Examine why, exactly, you're not asking for the clarity you deserve. Yes, it's possible you hear what you fear. It's also possible you hear something that gives you the freedom to move along with grace instead of weighted down with confusion.

And if you're the person withholding clarity from someone hoping they get it together eventually, or they figure it out, or that the situation will just resolve itself on its own... dig a little deeper for the courage to be clear. Examine why, exactly, you're not sharing your truth and saying what needs to be said. It'll release you from this tether of guilt, and it'll release them to what's next, which is what everyone deserves to begin with"


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Back Home

The way we experience the world around us is a direct reflection of the world within us. Gabrielle Bernstein

Coming home after a trip is usually a bitter sweet moment for me.Being away from the daily routine gives me an opportunity to reflect. Reflection can bring up moments that can be tough to accept particularly when we know that there are better choices that we can make, that there can be more discipline and consistency in our lives, less judgement, less fear.

Looking into the mirror of self is critical for growth, and sometimes that can be uncomfortable because your dress can be stuck in your drawers and you had no clue. I have learnt that everything starts within, everything starts with a decision to do, to move, to love.

Every business

Every dream

Every great love affair

Every movement

And so, when I reflect I get to see that I have been avoiding decisions, out of fear

How would I...... insert as required

How would I.....pay my bills?

How would I.....live without him/her?

How would I....survive?


The decision to do is one of faith and self belief, I have also learnt that it really is never about the how. it is always about your decision on how you want to feel, and how you want to live your life.

So, I am back at home, and making decisions to leap, to soar, to think global, to act, to move

It's scary as hell but I know it will be better to jump rather than to be pushed

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Travel Chronicles

When you face struggles with an attitude of openness—open to the painful feelings and emotions you have—you find out that it’s not comfortable, but you can still be fine and you can still step forward.  Openness means you don’t instantly decide that you know this is only going to be a horrible experience—it means you admit that you don’t really know what the next step will be like, and you’d like to understand the whole truth of the matter.  It’s a learning stance, instead of one that assumes the worst. Marc Chernoff

I left South Africa on Thursday, my first stop was Dubai, 8 hours away, the lines to check in for Dubai were crazy until people started getting annoyed and shouting because of the chaos, I pulled out a book to keep my focus. In the end I thought about the lady who started shouting, how many of us benefit from the rabble rouses, she demanded some order in the way they were checking in the passengers. People were not joining any lines, they were generally just pushing and squeezing in the lines wherever they could.  As the time ticked down people were pushing and being more disorderly. 

The lady basically went to the agents and demanded that they do something about it, they did nothing but what happened after that was, the people who were pushing decided to behave as they were being called out. Give thanks for the ones who stand up for themselves, so many times those who come behind, sometimes unknowingly, benefit from those that stood up and made noise. I was reminded of that in the check in line at the OR Tambo airport.

Dubai's airport is like a huge mall, the high end shops, trolley's to shop, people shopping. I decided to forgo any shopping particularly given my financial situation. But Costa Coffee held memories  for me. I wanted to have a mocha for old times sake. Many times when I lived in London, I would take a book and sit in Costa Coffee sip and read for hours. I pulled out my card to pay after ordering the coffee- Declined

Doesn't it sound louder when the attendant says declined? To me it sounded like she said it on a loud speaker PA System. I smiled because if I didn't I would cry. I bought a couple of things for my mu, at the airport just before using my card! Okay then, let's use the other card. Voila - it worked

I walked to the gate and I saw that the flight was stopping in Milan- What? With a 4 hour layover? This was no where on the itinerary I got so annoyed! I was under the impression that I would be flying directly from Dubai to NYC. No such luck!

Got to Milan- had to go through the whole take out laptop and shoes drill, wait the 4 hours it is now Friday night! 

Arrived after just over 8 hours in NYC, got into the immigration line, the women said to me close my door and come with me

I was shitting bricks, I did not even want to ask any questions

The put my passport in a blue folder and took me into a room with other passengers, some Indian, some Muslim, Some black women. My tummy was churning.

I have been travelling to NYC since I was 11 years old and this is the first time that I have been "taken into a room" so many things were going through my head. I sat and saw how they asked the people in the room for documents, money and to pledge that what they were saying was true

My name was called after 45 minutes.

"What is your business in NYC?"

"I am in transit, heading home"

"From where"

"South Africa"

"Will you spend the night at a hotel?"

"No, maybe a lounge"

"Do you want to see my boarding pass?"

"No"

Silence

Keys are tapping

Stamps are stamping out of what looks like a special lunch box

"Give the officer this card"

She returns my passport to me

I walk out and hands the officer

"You're all clear"

Well phew!

At the moment I am writing this waiting on my 4 hour layover at the JFK Airport

What Did I Learn? Don't always assume the worst before a situation plays out

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Thank You to Every One

Anytime you feel danger or fear
Then instantly I will appear 'cause

I'm every woman, it's all in me - Chaka Khan

Thank you to the real ones

Thank you to every single woman that:

- worked without pay

- worked with little pay

- worked with half pay

- worked yet late pay

- showed up tired

- showed up and did the damn thing

Thank you

Thank you to every single woman:

- who stayed

- who stayed because...

- who stayed proud despite..

- who stayed the course

Thank you

Thank you to every single woman:

- who travelled far to find work

- who left their homes in the dark to get to work'

- who left the children at home or with the  family to do the work

- who took a lotta shit at work

- who beat off the advances on the job to keep the work

- who walked off the work because that didn't work

- who called it out because they were not afraid to lose the work

- who did the work

Thank you

Thank you to every single woman:

- who paid their dues, my dues, your dues

- who paid the bills

- who paved the path

Thank you

I commit to every single one of you today that I, Akosua will honour all of this, everything, in my own little way starting by how I live my life, every day as a demonstration of the gratitude which assisted  to get me to this here place.

I will always remember that you paid, you prayed, you slayed.

I thank you

I love you

I honour you

Woman

May I always remember the ground upon which I now stand.

Peace



Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Top Seven Lessons on The South African Trip

 Forgive the past and let it go, for it is gone. You stand no longer on the ground that lies between the worlds ACIM


The time is drawing near to leave South Africa,  there so many emotions wrapped up in this trip, in this leaving.


I am always amazed at how distance away from the norm,  the distance away from the day to day grind can bring so much of a difference in the way I think. I can almost say that it is inspiring, it has been a reminder to me that the world is not the space I occupy but there is so much more out there.

So, for this I have decided to share my top lessons learnt on this trip.


1. Keep an open mind - things can be done differently to what you know and still be okay.


2. Everyone is connected - people are people everywhere. We want to feel heard, to be seen and to learn and share experiences.


3. Even is you are not in control it does not mean that things are out of control - on this trip I did not even have too much say even about what I ate.


4. Dream Big, Think Globally  - this to me means stop playing small, stop thinking small, let your dream be as grand as your imagination can take you.


5. A sister circle is important - without the judgements, without the heat. Authentic and open safe spaces help us grow.


6. Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it.


7. Asking for what you want when it is different to what is offered to you does not mean that you are ungrateful.


Thank you South Africa



Have you read any of Akosua's work?




What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Soul Spaces

There is no king who has not had a slave among his ancestors, and no slave who has not had a king among his. Helen Keller

My mother gave me an African name, 2 in fact. My mother is wise with foresight. She listened to the guidance given.

I have been fortunate to see and visit many places in the world (give thanks)

There are two places in particular, that speak to my soul (Super Island T&T and the African Continent)

When I set foot on the Continent, my soul rises up and speaks to me in ways I cannot even begin to explain

I am reminded of my responsibility: - to myself (to honour myself because there were those who came before me and made this path easier)

I am reminded of my responsibility to learn, to teach. To teach is to demonstrate, rather than to talk and pose and pretend.

I am reminded that I have work to do, to continue to build spaces for me, for others, to show up...real

I am reminded of how powerful I am

How courageous I am

How things take time to manifest

to have patience

to trust the process

I am reminded that just following the pack just for the sake of fitting or to keep the peace in is the weak. & I am not weak. I did not come from weakness

I am reminded that the challenges I face are par for the course and minute compared to the ones my grandma, my people faced & conquered & lived through.

I am reminded  - why I am here

I am reminded that not everyone will get it, will get me and that's OKAY as long as I get it

and after all these reminders I return to my other soul space T&T transformed within, the bagful of reminders nudging me to act on them, to remember them, to honour them

Peace




Have you read any of Akosua's work?



What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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The Movation

The people who make it to the top -- whether they're musicians, or great chefs, or corporate honchos -- are addicted to their calling ... [they] are the ones who'd be doing whatever it is they love, even if they weren't being paid." -- Quincy Jones


The Innovation Hub hosted me at their Movation Mondays, a platform for their,entrepreneurs to learn from others. It was indeed a privilege to be the speaker for the 26th November 2018, the record will show, that I, Akosua Dardaine Edwards, contributed to this movemnt.

There was a penny dropping moment where it dawned on me - I was having fun! I liked speaking in front of these people, I liked seeing their faces, I liked how they were engaged, and I liked how I worked to pull back those who I was losing. This is what I love doing! OMG what a feeling! I speak for free quite a bit, people ask me why. I can now answer that I simply love it. I simply love sharing the lessons that I have received. I also believe that at some point it will assist me in the life I want to live, one with travel, meeting new people, seeing new places, and making the world a better place for all.

This is the last planned speaking gig for me in South Africa, who knows what tomorrow brings, I have truly enjoyed this ride!


Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?



What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Perception is a Choice

Perception is a choice of what you want yourself to be; the world you want to live in, and the state in which you think your mind will be content and satisfied. It chooses where you think your safety lies, at your decision. It reveals yourself to you as you would have you be ACIM


This morning I participated in  a 10K Race in Pretoria. The setting was at the Voortrekker Monument. Starting the race I was confident that I could run a 10k having run one a few days before, as I navigated the course, I realised that there were quite a few monster hills. It was a tad bit discouraging but I was determined to complete the race. The self talk was real! "whatever happens, complete the race" and that was my mantra.


It was my choice on how the course and race was perceived. I decided that it was challenging but whatever happens I will complete it.

 At Km 8 there were 107 steps to climb, cue in the mantra. "whatever happens, complete the race", the course was beautiful, I stopped a couple of times to take pictures like a true tourist!


Whatever happens- complete the race!


My medal was duly deserved


Peace


Keep Going

“What's done is done. What's gone is gone. One of life's lessons is always moving on. It’s okay to look back to see how far you’ve come but keep moving forward.” 

― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart


It's been a whirlwind, between meetings, seeing people, running, and catching some of the sights in Soweto. I am inspired by what is happening here. the attempts to create an Arts and Culture District, to create and stimulate entrepreneurship, to focus on reducing unemployment, to build technology

I am heartened by the progress they have made, it is not perfect yet they soldier on learning the lessons as they go.


What Did I Learn Today?

Keep Going, Learn as you go

Assemble a team, do not be scared to leave some of them where you found it

Do not be afraid to be wrong, don't be afraid to admit it and don't wait to apologise

Keep an open mind and a willing spirit

Think Big, Think Global


Have you read any of Akosua's work?



What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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South African Lessons Continued

When we want to change someone, we are trying to change our reflection. The reflection which we don't like - Sylvia Salow


Have you ever considered that the people around you are mirrors? 

Have you ever considered that the life you live is a mirror?

Sometimes we look into the mirror and we don't like what we see and rather than accept it, we strike at the mirror as if that would change anything!

Being here in South Africa (SA) is like looking into a mirror, sometimes it's challenging to look in the mirror and accept that somethings need adjusting especially when it is unexpected!


Those are my lessons for today!


I had a lovely meeting with the African Women in Mining, hoping to make some wonderful connections in the future.


Have you read any of Akosua's work?



What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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South African Lessons Continued...

at some point it may serve you to decide that

a particular project or undertaking is complete.

Seeking excellence is one thing; never finding

anything totally satisfactory is another.

It is as I have told you before:

Perfection is the obstacle of creation Neale Donald Walsh 


Today I had the opportunity to be a judge at the The Innovator's Hub and Black Umbrella's Pitch Competition in South Africa. 24 entrepreneurs pitched their ideas in three minutes with 2 minutes for questions for  the prize of a grant worth $100k Rand

The competition was intense, the pitches were quality, the room was packed.

I truly had fun

The Innovation Hub in Pretoria is one of the most modern facilities that I have ever seen,  a futuristic type of vibe! finger print and face recognition, open green spaces, technology throughout, healthy food and promoting green! Apart from a book store and Library,  this would be my version of heaven.

I was smiling all day!

Entrepreneurs take risks

They provided me with a reminder that taking a calculated risk is essential to moving forward, even if you stumble  that is a forward movement.


Failing forward is a thing! A useful thing


I also met some really wonderful and interesting people

Awesome Day

Give thanks

Peace  

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School