Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

Being Happy Includes Kindness

Most people think happiness is about achieving something but it's not. Happiness is about being happy with yourself and treating yourself with love and kindness  Kyle Jones


Today I want to share a post from the wonderful mind of Kyle D Jones who speaks the truth to me!

How do you learn to love yourself?”

⠀⠀Loving yourself is about establishing loving habits in every area of your life. These are the six areas of life you need to have loving habits: (1) physical, (2) mental, (3) emotional, (4) financial, (5) relational and (6) spiritual.

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My top thirty (30) loving habits are listed below:

1. Practice self-awareness throughout your day

2. Drinking at least eight glasses of water every day

3. Exercising at least twenty minutes a day

4. Working towards your short term and long term goals on a daily basis

5. Brushing and flossing your teeth twice a day

6. Having a daily skin care routine

7. Making sure your body is getting the proper nutrients

8. Getting enough sleep at night to wake up feeling good

9. Having the courage to face your fears

10. Being self-compassionate

11. Having a stress relieving technique

12. Taking personal responsibility for your feelings

13. Becoming skilled at identifying and meeting your needs

14. Setting boundaries

15. Receiving emotional support from an online coach or therapist

16. Being a lifelong learner

17. Writing in your gratitude journal daily

18. Staying away from negative people

19. Staying away from abusive relationships

20. Refusing to compare yourself to others

21. Giving yourself permission to make mistakes

22. Refusing to take other people’s behaviors personally

23. Putting down your phone as much as possible

24. Spending time in nature as much as possible

25. Printing out your bank statements every month and tracking your spending

26. Letting go of unhealthy spending habits

27. Making a budget at the beginning of every day, week and month

28. Having six months of living expenses saved for emergencies

29. Praying daily

30. Meditating daily

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The more loving habits you have, the more you start to make yourself feel loved and valued. You also need to make sure these loving habits are in every area of your life, not just one or two

Sleep is a Super Power

Hello Lovies


Its been a while!! I have been caught up, literally with our Caribbean Arts Festival - CARIFESTA which is a ten day festival of the Arts and Culture bringing together 20 countries and 2000 delegates - sort of like an Olympic games for the arts!  The festival started on the 16th of August and will run for ten days, so we are now half way through and  Its been quite a whirlwind.


Today I had some time to breathe and there was nothing more that I wanted to do than to touch base with y'all and see what's up!?


I have been paying attention to the lessons on this Journey of being part of a team that executes the largest arts festival in the region

The top five lessons thus far


1. Take nothing personally - a lesson that can apply anywhere and  in any situation


2. Get some sleep - Sleep is a super power - functioning with little


3. Everything cannot be scripted and controlled in the way I want it to be-many times the surrender to the flow and process brings even more joy and awe


4. People show you what is inside them when in crisis so pay attention and recognise the fear


5.Let Go and Let God - when you have done all you can, let it go


Peace


Transformation

One of the things that makes you so very qualified to help people isn't the number of certifications or degrees you have, it's not your education. While that's extremely important, what makes you most qualified to help people is that you have a strong desire to help people.

Caring. Loving. Being present. Being attuned. Creating safety.

These are the things that make you most qualified to help and serve others.  Mastin Kipp



When you step into something you are mindful of what you step into. How it would impact you & you deliberately go into a thing- a career, a business, even a relationship, & because we know that something is going to happen TO us

the reverse
is where YOU take YOU with YOU into a thing and you TRANSFORM what you are stepping into
Where the environment shifts because of that you are bringing
This is an unto moment
This is about how we bring the best of who we are & the best of what we know to the circumstances to allow it to transform


Peace

What Are You Doing With Your Power?

Deep down inside of us there is a power,it's an inherent power, its an authentic power and nothing that has ever happened to you has diminished your power Iyanla Vanzant



Blaming others is a misuse of your power

Depending on other people to make you happy is a misuse of your power

Holding other people responsible for your life is a misuse of your power

People pleasing is a misuse of your power

What Are You Doing with Your Power?


Not taking care of your body - health wise is a misuse of your power

Giving into fear is a misuse of your power

Not taking care of your mind - is a misuse of your power

What Are You Doing With Your Power?



Denying your dreams - is a misuse of your power

Denying your purpose - is a misuse of your power

Ignoring your intuition - is a misuse of your power


You have the power to make the decisions in your life, for your life and about your life

Use it

Don't Give Away or Misuse your power

Peace



Fly High Toni

1. Whatever the work is, do it well—not for the boss but for yourself 2. You make the job; it doesn’t make you 3. Your real life is with us, your family 4. You are not the work you do; you are the person you are Toni Morrison


Toni Morrison made me want to read more. In fact, she made me want to read period. When I first picked up the book The Bluest Eye, I was captivated by it, I did not understand it at first, and so wanted to. I sat with it for a long time and concluded that I must read more. I just read more and more books, which I think literally saved me.


Toni Morrison made me want to be brave, the things she said were so bold and audacious. I thought that this is a woman who I can pattern after if only, if only, I was brave enough. When I read her story I realised, I could be brave enough to, I would just have to believe in myself.


Toni Morrison made me write, indirectly. I think the influence of reading her books, seeing some of myself in the stories and feeling pride in it sparked something in me about self love, self belief and courage.


Toni Morrison has left us gifts, she has left the world all these gifts

I want to honour her by also leaving gifts for those who are coming behind me. By being courageous, believing in myself and showing up real.

Thank you Toni

May you R.I.P


Peace


We Lead in Guyana, come join us

https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Predictions anyone?

There's no amount of prediction or preparation that will help you know exactly what will happen in what order.  Mastin Kipp


Someone asked me today if I had all my jobs lined up and planned before moving on from my current job.

I said no

She was gobsmacked as to how I did it.

All I could say that it was a combination of faith and choice.

There were times that I left a place by choice because it was just not where and what I wanted to do and how I wanted to feel

There was a time when I was fired

There was a time when my contract was not renewed

There were times I just walked out

And in hindsight all of those times I was somewhat scared that I would not be able to pay my bills or live comfortably and not once, not even down to my last dollar did I starve or had no where to live. I always had food and shelter, I may not have been able to go to the hairdresser and do pedicures monthly but maybe that is not what I needed at that time.

When we are at the crossroads, there must be something inside us that knows, that knows, that knows you will be ok.

On the really hard days remind yourself that this too shall pass and to get to the mountain top there will be times where rest and being out of breath is a must!

Just part of the journey!


Know who you are

Know your why and remember

the challenges are part of the Journey

Find a way to self talk, to practice and to celebrate the small wins

Peace


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

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Instagram

Facebook

What Do You Tell Yourself?

What do you say to yourself on the really really hard days?


How do you speak to the magnificence inside of you when you do not see evidence of it?


How do you show up to yourself when you need you most?


What are the things you do for you and with you when you must?


Share some of your techniques/talks/tips


Let's share lessons on the Journey


Peace


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there

https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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Instagram

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You Decide for Yourself what you want to become

Crazy what we settle for until we know we deserve better. Hopefully any hurt you’ve been through turns into stories of your resilience, courage, faith, strength of spirit, humor and not resentment. But ultimately that's your decision. You decide for yourself who you want to become Maryaam Hasnaa

The residential of the NiNa Young Leadership Programme comes to a close on Sunday with a graduation. This is always an event I look forward to just because the ladies have so much fun. It is in a new space which provides a new set of logistics and dynamics. It laready seems ore restricted but I refuse to put any limitations and stories on it before.

Pat, as usual, outdid herself in the planning of everything and for that I am so grateful, I know that it could not have happened without her assistance, dedication and patience!


Cheers to the young ladies who showed up!


What Did I Learn Today?

"When you are growing & living beyond the places that are familiar, you gotta be willing to do things that scares you. 
You gotta be willing to ask for help.
You gotta be willing to trust what you know.
You gotta be willing to believe"

Peace

Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there

https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

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Instagram

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Happy

“The secret of life is to have no fear; it’s the only way to function.” Kwame Ture




Today is Emancipation Day in Trinidad and Tobago, a celebration of when the slaves were freed, the capital city of Port of Spain comes together in a celebration of colour and sound through a procession from the point at where the freedom proclamation was read to Freedom Village. This was the first year that I experienced it. The sun as blazing hot, the people were dancing and signing, the children were smiling, the music and drums were undeniable and the faship - so much bold colours and statements of royalty

I felt privileged to be a part of this where I could honour my ancestors in such a way!

May I always remember the ground upon which I stand.
May I always remember I walk with thousands
May I always remember because of you. I can
May I always honour myself by honouring what you have done
May I always remember & know that nothing and no-thing can stop me.
May I always remember that it is never our circumstances but rather our thoughts about our circumstances that determine our power to transform them.
We have the power either way
The power to use against ourselves.or the power to free ourselves.
May I always remember that wildest dreams come true
I.as I live now. Was your wildest dream come true.
I honour that. Always
Peace

Perfection is a Trap

If you feel like you don’t have it all together, trying living that instead making your life about the ever constant fixing of that. Maxie McCoy


Who said that we had to have all together- all the time?

Well who told me that anyway?

Has anyone told you that?

Especially as an adult. The expectation is as an adult, we need to have our shit sorted, to have it all together. And if we don't somehow we are relegated to the pile of immature, acting like a child and some may go as far as  to call us crazy!


I have learnt that this constant push towards fixing and perfection is a trap.

It messes with our heads, especially if it involves peddling products to "fix" us! make us more pretty, more handsome, more curvy, more shapely, more educated, more smart and on and on and on...

I have learnt that life will do whatever is required to heal you. life you, save you or get your attention. Many times that involves doing things that may be uncomfortable. Acceptance and knowing makes the process of adulting easier! 

Knowing meaning having that belief that whatever happens we will be OK,  and we will deal with it accordingly. THis may not ever look like how we planned it to be.

We simply cannot predict every step of the way or know everything!

Many times, we come from a place of the past, and how we reacted in that moment. In a new moment we go back to that place to deal, some times the new moment requires a new response, this scares us. This is where the knowing comes in.If we don't believe in the knowing we react in the same old way and guess what? We get the same old result.

We have feelings as a guide, use the guide to lead you to a new place. When we ignore or give the guide too much juice we will get lost and take a longer time to learn the lessons along the way.

Live in the flow

Live in the now

Love the life you are in

Know that whatever happens you will be guided and will be ok

Feel all the feelings

and have some fun along the Journey

Peace

Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there

https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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A Time for Everything

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, NIV)”

I love this quote.

It always reminds me that there are seasons, that nothing stays the same. Nature also reminds me of this. There are seasons. There is a time for planing and for reaping

There is a time for rain and for sun

When I get frustrated by a process and the time it is taking to achieve or manifest something I am reminded that there is a time. If we use our rest time to work, there will be consequences and vice versa

The lessons that come with the timing of events include having faith, having patience,and trusting the process

I know that rain cannot fall everyday

I know that the sun will not shine everyday

I know that there will be a time for both and with that I can rest assured that what shows up in my life is diving timing and adjust accordingly!


Peace


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

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Instagram


Facebook


Love Everything

At every chapter, a soul appears on my path and becomes my best teacher for what's next. We are always guided and it's almost magical to see how life constantly sends someone to take us by the hand and walk with us through what we fear the most.I'm immensely grateful. - Valencia


Being around the young ladies in the NiNa Young Women's Leadership Programme has taught me that people are in our lives to teach us or for us to teach them. We may not know it at the onset but I truly believe that ultimately we are all students and teachers sometimes all at once.

A beautiful thing happens when we have determined from early in the interaction what our role is. We can respond accordingly.


Sometimes our lessons are easy and other times our lessons are challenging.

Sometimes our lessons are fun and sometimes they require some slogging or tears.


This past week reconfirmed to me that what makes all of this even more worthwhile is love. Love everything! Love is different to like, you can love it and not like it. The love gets you through. it, the agape love. The love of your brothers and sisters as fellow human beings

Without that, the journey is much harder!

Peace


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook


People Who Listen to Themselves Feel Good

When you start to care about yourself on a soul level, you start listening to what you have to say to yourself. You listen to your emotions. You learn from them and they offer you a perspective that your mind cannot even fathom. People who listen to themselves, feel good. Thandiwe



Day 5 - NiNa Young Women's Leadership Programme


Today the young ladies were to do a business pitch before a panel of judges. They had 3 minutes to present their idea and 2 minutes for questions.

They arrived early, looking very professional, dressed up and immediately started practising their pitches. Tempers started flaring up, they started arguing, asking to leave, feeling sick.

I had a word with a couple of them, it did not seem to be helping

We lost 2, they bowed under the pressure!

The others, after their heated exchange decided to patch things up and do their pitches

They were brilliant, it was an absolute joy to watch. The work they put in was evident in their presentations

I could not be more pleased


What Did I Learn?

1. Sometimes you have to let people work it out for themselves

2. Sometimes you only have to keep a safe space for others

3. Sometimes friends show up and they jump in with you on that day's journey

4. The Universe always has your back


Peace



Decisions

Nothing from Nothing leaves you with nothing but trust - 3 Canal

Day 4 of the NiNa Programme

Decisions...

Do you plan your work, or do you work your plan?

Are you waiting for another man’s plan to work? To hold out your hand?

Do you pray when you are broke or do you build with the Gods?

Are you fly by night or are you a fair-weather friend? Or are you the type a friend can depend on until the end?

Have you ever sat back and thought about how your life can change overnight?

Do you waste your time, or do you spend it wise?

Do you dream for steam or only when you close your eyes?

16 young ladies

5 mentors (past participants)

3 Angels( Patricia & Avinash & Erica)

1 powerhouse friend who went to the Olympics - 4 times

because

build something from no-thing


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there

https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

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Instagram

Facebook


My Definition of Going All In

Talk to anyone who has a commitment to excellence and a few common themes will emerge:


willingness to take responsibility for your intentions, actions, behaviors, responses, attitudes in every single situation.

making a decision to face all fears, directly, rather than fighting them away or pretending that they aren’t there.

intentionally finding ways to make small but consistent progress. Kate Courageous



Day 2


The annual NiNa  Young Women's Leadership Programme has begun

Every year we host young ladies at a 7 day residential with the aim of providing a safe space for them to bloom! This year we have expanded the programme, we have opened the circle and changed the venue. A lot of changes all at once.

What did I learn today?


Going all in doesn't mean changing everything over night. 
Going all in can simply mean you're 100 percent committed to showing up.
to using what you have,
to being patient, 
to trusting the process.
to being flexible
to learn
& that's how we build & rebuild
Look for creative ways.
things can be done gradually while still committing fully to your vision 

Peace

Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there

https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

Follow Akosua on

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook


Lessons from Grand Bahama Island

Everyone in the world is searching to fill a perceived emptiness. This emptiness is not clearly defined in our thinking because there is nothing in the world that will fill it. ACIM


Hello loveys


How are you?

It's been a hot minute since I checked in, it seems that the last few days flew by. I was in the Bahamas for an event and the schedule was packed, packed, packed

I had the absolute honour and pleasure to speak at the Rose Edition - The Power of Her Story 

12 absolutely fabulous women sharing their stories openly and authentically.

The power of it moved me

These are my lessons from the past few days on Grand Bahama Island


1. Go with the flow - The flights were delayed - like for hours - like for more than 5 hours. The schedule said I had to be at an event 2 hours after arrival - that did not happen and my worry did not make it happen either.


2. Be Present - I made a conscious decision to put the phone down when listening and speaking to people - huge difference being fully in the space you are in.


3. Learn to say no without guilt - sometimes the most loving response is no


4. Grand Bahama island is simply stunning! - and the lobster is so delish


5. Show up and be authentic - all the time!


6. Be grateful- for it all.


Peace


Check out the We Lead PowHerful Conference - I will be there


https://welead.21qcaribbean.com/


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love


Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


Follow Akosua on

Twitter

Instagram

Facebook


Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer