Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

What is Your Why?

Keeping up will run you dry. It’ll run you ragged. And there will always be someone to keep up with no matter what you’ve done, what you have, or who you are. So the only way to win the game of keeping up, is to stop keeping up entirely. Instead, create, pursue, and desire from a place that matters most to you and only you. Maxi


How many times have you done something or gotten something because other people had it and said it was worth having?

How many times have you gone somewhere because it was the "in" place to be?

Do you ask yourself the reasons?

I have learnt that if the reason is to be popular, keep up, show your worth chances are it will be a hollow or shallow experience that keeps us on the treadmill of going, doing, and acquiring.


If we do something, have something, go somewhere because we want to, a soul calling, an intuitive response, the feeling is so much deeper

Many times we are on auto pilot and it is easier to follow the crowd rather than deal with our own calling- it is our calling so we alone will hear it, there may not be many people who understand,whether it is small or huge

It takes courage to go against the grain but trust me it is well worth it.


Follow Your Heart

Follow Your Intuition

Follow Your Purpose

you will be better off for it

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Do You Know Your "It"?

Most of us want to get away from where we are over to something else. Something spiritual, something peaceful, something successful. People are not in the way of your path, people are your path

This morning as soon as I woke up, I got a phone call, the insurance company, they wanted to know when I would pay by  due bill. It triggered me immediately - pay my bill? It comes directly out of my bank account. They told me no it is a cash payment. I was even more pissed.

I asked them how did they receive the previous payment, the lady responded through the bank account, OK then so what changed? I did not change it!

She started being defensive, she started putting the blame on everyone else, I started doing the same!

Then it hit me:

1. I recognised what my trigger was in that moment- it brought up some fear, when the fear came up I responded in fear

2. Responding to defence with defence hardly ever produces solutions

I asked the lady to put herself in my shoes

I asked her if we can find a solution

She was still annoyed and talking away imploring me to pay the bill

I continued to be annoyed as well, lady I want to pay my bill, I prefer if you can do your job properly rather than call  me before 8am, then the lesson kicked in

I asked her to consider the possibility that I  only want a solution, that I am annoyed about the approach she took.

She responded by agreeing to do some more investigation and return my call. I counted that as progress

When we know what our "it" is, when we can call it, identify it, name it, then we are in a position to change, heal, improve, grow

Anything other than that is what we call here "spinning top in mud"

The next time you start defending, making excuses, rationales and justification

take a pause

lay down the excuses and reasons and ask yourself

is this my "it" and proceed accordingly

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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You Cannot Lose

The fear of sacrifice and loss is one of the greatest obstacles to our spiritual progress. And as long as we think we are losing something real, we will drag our feet. ACIM

One of my favourite teachers on this journey Ms Iyanla Vanzant says "You cannot lose"

Metaphysically you just cannot lose! What trips us up is the feeling that we will lose something.

I cannot tell you how my life shifted when I truly believed in this - I cannot lose

I can learn

I can change

I can cry

I can move

I can shift

but I cannot lose


I cannot lose...


When I approach every event, every opportunity with this knowledge I can leave out the fear, the doubt, the anxiety, the stress!

I know that I can trust myself to not lose but to learn

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Are You Fully Present?

Be present enough to appreciate where you are. Don’t get lost on future trips or comparison journeys. Your life is unfolding in direct proportion to what you truly believe is possible.

Want more. Dream big. Desire much. But do not forget to appreciate now. Stacey HERERA

Being  fully present in the moment was a lesson that I learnt that has changed the way I approached my life in such a profound way.

Being in the moment for me, is being fully present, fully invested and focused where I am.

No thinking about what I have to do tomorrow, what I did not do today, what I forgot to do, what I am resisting doing and all the other random thoughts that accompany these feelings.

Being in the moment also involves not comparing the experience to something that I did before, something I saw somewhere or what I believe it should be.

When I am in the moment, I feel a sense of freedom, a sense of possibility and a sense of calmness. I fully experience what is happening. 

Making the choice to be in the moment can be challenging, it is a choice of trusting that you are in the right place at the right time and believing that whatever is in front of you, you can handle! The key to that is trusting and honouring your self.

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Happy Valentine's Day

Commit To Being Loving
• Set the intention to be loving each and every day.
• Set the intention to stop being distant every day.• Every morning close your eyes for sixty seconds and visualize yourself displaying loving behaviors and releasing avoidant behaviours.
 ⠀⠀Kyle Jones

Today is Valentine's Day, I wish you all the love and fun and excitement and peace!

It is always a pleasure for me to see all the happiness that these days drum up around me

People are smiling, they are speaking to you on the street, if it takes a day to have this happen, why not?

I can put up with the commercialism of it if it leads to a happy set of people, even if it is for one day.

So my friends, happy Valentine's Day and remember to love yourself.

Sharing a podcast on Self Love  - Akosua is Interviewed on the Self Care Sundays Podcast

https://podtail.com/podcast/self-care-sundays/ep-112-author-and-sp


Peace

Can You Receive?

The universe is the essence of duality. To be a good giver, you must be a good receiver. And to be a good lover, you must be good at being loved. Stacey Herera



How are you at receiving?


How are you at giving?


How are you at loving?

How are you at being loved?

Some of us are conditioned to be the giver, we feel great when we give

we feel wanted when people look to us for advice, guidance, love, and on and on and on


Can you remember how great you feel when people thank you for doing something that you either really wanted to do or thought nothing of it?

This is such a powerful feeling.

Receiving is the flip side of giving

If we cannot receive it really is more challenging to give with little intention.

When I get a compliment now I save the response to thank you. No explanation, no rationale, no justification. Before I would add something to the thank you.

Thank you is sufficient. It signifies that you have accepted the compliment, the gift, the intention.

It starts the process of both giving and receiving.

give it a go!

Think about how you are giving and receiving, and how you respond to it!

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Check Your Emotional Health

Louise Hay says that shoulder problems are from carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. She says shoulders “represent our ability to carry out experiences in life joyously. We make life a burden by our attitude.” Is the financial or emotional burden all on your shoulders and you feel responsible, fearful and inadequate? That wear and tear will show up in your shoulders. Think about your last injury. What was going on emotionally at home, in your job, for you at that time? East House Natural Health 


My shoulder is now healing. I have been following the doctor's instructions, taking it easy and not rushing the process.

Louise Hay's work has been important on my journey, her philosophies on affirmations, on healing ourselves through our thoughts and letting go of the past. During my healing process I decided to reacquaint myself with Louise's work. I came across the theory that my shoulder problems are determined by our attitude

I must admit, I have been feeling this way, how amazing are our bodies and our minds that we can heal them by our thoughts and feelings.

I give thanks for all the teachers on my journey

I now release the feeling of any burdens and move forward with a feeling of gratitude knowing that all things are lessons that God will have us learn


Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Initiate the Change

There’s accommodating and then there’s adapting to the world we live in. We all have to accommodate people around us and they do the same for us. It’s a give-and-take world we live in. But adapting to negativity within us or in our environment means deciding we can live with something negative rather than take action to initiate a positive change. Each time we adapt to something negative within us or around us, we pay a price Carolyn Myss

I always remember a story from a lovely lady I met on the journey. She was very ill at the time, her attitude was always positive. I always thought, every time we spoke, that I would have loved to have spent more time with her as our talks were usually quite insightful. I knew it would be a matter of time before she transitioned. One day I worked up the courage to ask her about her condition, she said that she had some pain and discomfort but never went to the doctor to check it out, she just learned to live with pain!

She learned to live with the pain!

We do not ever have to learn to live with pain especially when we can do something about it.

Living with pain is a choice!

We must find the courage to make another choice

We must believe that we deserve more

We must pay attention to the pain as it is giving us a message, a lesson, a sign, we don't have to live there, we don't have to live with the pain

We must know that, then act like we know


Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Stay in Your Power

At all times, we have the right and the freedom to determine what is important in our lives. We also have the freedom to focus our time, energy, and efforts on those things. 

The challenge is that far too often we do not take the time to determine what is important. Then we spend a majority of our life and time doing what we think we must do, have to do, need to do
. Iyanla

Someone told me that they were intimidated by a friend of mine, I must admit I was a tad bit shocked. I wanted to find out more as to why someone who can be considered her contemporary would intimidate her. So I asked after saying - never let anyone intimidate you! She responded that it was the job that the person held. Oh dear me, someone's position would intimidate you, and you knew the person before they had that job?

I was quite amazed!

We get to chose who and what we place importance on

We may choose this deliberately or unconsciously, the beauty about life is that it always gives us feedback through how we live

If the choice is unconscious it will still reflect through our lives.

We get to choose what we focus on

Declaring intimidation and helplessness is giving away our power. 

Spend some time in your own power, making your own choices, knowing exactly what is important to you and your life will reflect that!


Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Till The Soil

Honestly, without a lot of fluffy talk, it is time for you to know and to express the fullness and the richness of how wonderful, of how special, you are. NDW

We, all of us, are magnificent beings, we are born that way, believe it or not. 

Our magnificence is always there, it never leaves us despite poor decisions and choices, or circumstances and setbacks. I liken it to seeds in the right soil. If the soil and the conditions are conducive the plant will grow. The fruits will bear. 

There are some plants that seem to be withered, worn and ready to die, yet with some water and TLC they spring up and thrive

There are some with brown leaves that really ought to be green, stalks where buds are supposed to be - with a shower of rain a difference happens

The soil is important, the fertiliser is important

Our friends, family, health and choices are our soil and fertiliser. With the right combination our magnificence shines through.

I keep remembering that when I am veering off course, when I encounter others who have also forgotten their own magnificence!

Let us always remember

Till the soil! Root out the weeds! Spread the Love!

Peace



Why You Are Not Getting What You Want

Yesterday the celebration of the Bodaciousness started

Six of the young ladies of the NiNa Programme had an audience with our country's first female President, up close and personal

It was a bit of a surreal moment sitting with these young ladies next to the President of the country chatting away.

I want to thank the Office of the President for facilitating this memorable day and wish her the best for the future.


I also want to share one of the best blogs of my week - Maxi McCoy


I really hate not getting what I want. And I’m the queen of letting desire get in the way of intuitive knowing.


The amount of times I’ve known something was bad for me, but my brain decided I wanted it (for any number of reasons)…is countless. I’ve chased after big dreams that weren’t aligned but were desired. I’ve been laser-focused on making strides that weren’t rooted in what really mattered. I’ve chased after people that sucked (and some that were great but sucked for me). I’ve gone after huge opportunities that I knew would look and sound good, but were completely off when it came down to why I’m here.


Untangling the tentacles of desire is a complicated and difficult thing. The process will require you to learn the hard way. It will cause some blow ups in your life. It will break your heart. It will shake your confidence. It will make you wonder if you can even be trusted with what it is that you want. It will push you to the edge, and when you get there, you’ll realize why you didn’t get what you wanted. No matter how badly you wanted it. No matter how hard you worked for it. No matter how much energy you gave it.


You’re not getting what you want, because you’re getting something better.


You’re not getting what you want, because you ignored the whispers.


You’re not getting what you want, because the right thing is coming.


You’re not getting what you want, because it was the only path to learn the lessons you needed to learn.


You’re not getting what you want, because you’re getting what you need – To evolve. To know your power. To learn yourself. To understand your potential. 


What you’ll find when you don’t get what you want is that when you stop your initial fighting, sulking, and wallowing in your own bullshit puddle of why not me, you have an opportunity to shed the stories you layered onto the situation you were gunning for – why it was right, why it was meant to be, why it was for you, why it would all work out perfectly, why your future depended on it – to see all the red flags that you sprayed neon pink. You’ll get to see the information that was there all along. You’ll get to remember the whispers you heard and ignored.


And when you see all of that, you remember that you CAN trust yourself. Because that soft and intuitive and wise you is always there. She’s always accessible. And you get to choose whether you listen to her or not.


Sometimes we let desire get in the way of that wisdom, which is OK. And eventually we’ll learn to let that centered and knowing voice lead, instead of shoving it back behind the megaphone of desire. 


Bodacious Girls

Go for the Joy - Iyanla Vanzant




Plans are well away with the Bodacious Girl Gala. A celebration of bodaciousness which all began as an idea in my mind, it was shared with some wonderful people. The idea has morphed itself into something beautiful.

The intention is to to celebrate the young ladies that I have met on the journey, the ones who have taught me about showing up, about non judgement, about compassion, about patience!

The intention to highlight to others and to remember also that it takes a village.

The intention is  be of service to someone in someway

The intention is for the young ladies to celebrate themselves and their achievements

The intention is to live our best lives

The intentions is to share lessons on the Journey

Come celebrate with us!

The Little Things

Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness.” ~ James Thurber

Today my whole aim is to pay attention to my surroundings and what I am doing, to taste my food, to enjoy the warmth of the sunshine, to look at the flowers blooming on the porch, to smell the grass

The little things are the big things.

When I neglect or forget the little things big things happen to remind me to get back to them

So, today I remind myself to be aware, to be grateful, to be mindful of all the little things that make life so big!


My top 5 Little Things


1. Fresh Watermelon

2. The smell of newly cut grass

3. Sunrise

4. Birds around the flowers on the porch

5. Silence


What are your little things?

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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All Needs Met

"never underestimate and be willing to invest in the power of your mind. That’s the ticket to anything and everything, because that’s what’s going to lead to your experiences. That’s what’s going to build you character. That’s what’s going to resolve your issues and challenges. That’s what’s going to transmute and change your pathology. Don’t underestimate the power of your mind and be willing to invest in the power of each and every thought that you have.” Iyanla Vanzant

I have been reading up on thought patterns, and how powerful our minds are. From a thought comes an action and from the action results the experience. It fascinated me that simply by paying attention to what I think I can make simple adjustments to shift the experiences in my life. Of course there are things that are way out of our control, but what is within our control is our response the situations, as well as, the thoughts about the situation.


What do you think about money?

What do you think about love?

What do you think about your purpose?

What do you think about the world?


Every thought, every belief may be shaped by your experiences, by your family life, by your religion.What happens is that we look to validate our beliefs, and what we seek we find.

Since January began, I felt helpless, subconsciously, I felt helpless because I did not get paid for the jobs that I completed, when I called and asked about the debt, I was told that there would be a huge deduction based on the contract. I was pissed off, I knew they were right, but I had committed bills. I felt even more helpless, the spiral continued until my thoughts showed up in my experience, I woke up and I could not help myself, I could not move! I got shit scared, what is really happening here?

I could not move my left hand. 

My thoughts manifested itself in - I could not support myself

It is a painful wake up call, and through the process of healing which involves doctors, physio and rest I have to keep reminding myself that all my needs are met.

All Needs Met

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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I believe In...

What is going on in your mind determines the quality of your life - Micheal Singer

Maxie McCoy came up with a brilliant lists called "85 Things That I Believe in", I am going to share my top 30, I would love if you can share yours!

  1. I believe in sleep.

  2. I believe that believing in yourself is the ultimate superpower.

  3. I believe that we become what we believe. 

  4. I believe in stories. And their power to connect us. 

  5. I believe we’re here to love. Full stop. 

  6. I believe there’s magic in the everyday. Extraordinary in the simple.

  7. I believe moments are what matter. Not outcomes. 

  8. I believe that women are changing the world.

  9. I believe in the men who believe in women.

  10. I believe the path is made while you’re stepping. Not before.

  11. I believe in being the highest possible expression of yourself, always. 

  12. I believe that saying what’s hard is easier than living a life created by only saying what’s easy.

  13. I believe laughter is worth searching for. 

  14. I believe we’re here to learn the lessons. So let’s be compassionate as we do.

  15. I believe kindness is the ultimate leadership style.

  16. I believe we all have the power to make someone feel seen. 

  17. I believe the future is female.

  18. I believe words find us when we need them most. 

  19. I believe in lifting as you climb.

  20. I believe gratitude begets abundance.

  21. I believe we can make mistakes without being a mistake. 

  22. I believe if they’re talking about other people to you. They’re talking about you to other people.

  23. I believe tears can cleanse. 

  24. I believe the best healers help you heal yourself.

  25. I believe ‘letting go’ is actually acceptance. 

  26. I believe that anything is possible.

  27. I believe “one day” should be today.

  28. I believe in the power of small. It’s where big begins.

  29. I believe in clarity. Giving it and asking for it.

  30. I believe that beliefs can change.



Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Who Establishes Worthiness?

Your worth is not established by teaching or learning. Your worth is established by God. As long as you dispute this everything you do will be fearful, particularly any situation that lends itself to the belief in superiority and inferiority. ACIM

Your worth is not established by anything you do, make , share, teach or learn. You are           born worthy!

Isn't that magnificent to know?

Everything that you do does not make you worthy, everything that you don't do does not        make you unworthy and vice versa.

You are worthy, period.

We forget our worthiness, we forget our magnificence, we forget our enoughness and           engage in behaviours that reflect that. When we forget, we must learn, unlearn and re-         learn. And that process of unlearning, re-learning and learning still will not make us               unworthy, because we already are worthy. That process of learning will continue until we       transition. The process will continue until we get it, until we accept that our worth , then         we move on to something else.

Remember that, our worth is is only established by God, by virtue of being born, you are        worthy!


Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School