Akosua Dardaine Edwards

Let's Share Lessons on The Journey

Akosua Dardaine Edwards - author, writer, coach, gender specialist, speaker

 

10 Lessons I have Learnt

All things are lessons that God would have us learn - ACIM

1. The Little Things Are Really The Big Things - showing up for friends and family, the sunrise, the ocean, the phone call, the text, the showing up!

2. Do your Best in the Moment - even if you are suffering and unwell, the best in the moment eliminates guilt

3. Your Health is Your Wealth - no health, no work, no money

4. This Too Shall Pass - nothing lasts forever and everything is temporary

5. Do Not Compare Yourself to Others - You don't know their story, or the work they have put in

6. Follow Your Intuition - it hardly ever leads you astray 

7. Nothing you buy or acquire will improve your self belief

8. The Doubts will be there - do not listen to them or let it fool you

9. Show up as yourself every single time!

10. Put yourself first


Peace

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What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Not Interested in Competition

Not interested in conflict, competition or guilt Carolyn Myss

One of my very good friends told me that I compete only with myself. I found that to be both a reminder and a testament of how I want to live.

I want to be my best me. I define my best me as eating well, resting well, working well and sharing well.

Well meaning with the view that I am doing what is the absolute best thing for me in that moment, and when the best is with me and within me, I can share from that cup of wellness.

Many times before I have made many decisions from a space of guilt and competing with others. I have learnt that this method promoted my feelings of not enoughness. There was no amount of peace I got from comparing where I was and what I had to others. It really just made me work more and more without purpose.

Having felt these feelings of not enoughness, guilt and overwork, I vowed that I refuse to feel that way ever again and decided to concentrate on doing my best in the moment.

Some days I may be not be feeling 100% and on those days I still focus on doing my best in the moment minus guilt.

Peace

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What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

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What We Look For Is What We See

What we look for is what we see. If you see a world that denies you what you need, that is the world you will experience, but if you see a world that gives you everything you need and more, that is the world you will co-create with and expand with your vision of life. Anne Davin


This morning I went on a hiking trail, a group invited me to go. Firstly I was hesitant because I know that they are quite fit, they usually run marathons and this trail was part of their training. Secondly, I am recovering from my injured shoulder so I was also fearful of how the hand would hold up. In the end I decided to go, to challenge myself and to come out of the comfort zone.

I am so happy that I did go

It was tough, the hills were long and the trail included fallen trees and bush

I made the decision to start talking to myself with encouraging words, to rest when I am tired and to only compete with myself.

At one point I lost the group, I was alone in the forest with the birds and trees, I stopped and looked up, the sun was shining through the trees, the leaves were red and looked like a carpet on the ground, the birds and other insects were making a choir. As I stopped I saw butterflies around me. I took a deep breath

It became clear that it really is mindset over matter and what you seek you will find

If I focused on how hard it was, how much the leaves made the trail slippery I would miss the red leaves, the butterflies, the sun peeking through the trees, the butterflies guiding me on the path.

What are you looking for on your trail?

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?


What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Everything is Fleeting

You want everything to remain the same. You don’t accept that everything is temporary. Life moves in cycles generating new life and yes, death, and nothing will stop that universal movement. Accepting that everything that exists is only temporary allows you to release your attachment to things, people and even to your definition of yourself. This is how you continue to learn and evolve. Ana Rodriguez

I have been practising healthy detachment - which in my definition is keeping in mind always that everything is temporary, feel the feelings, then let it go knowing that all things are lessons that God would have us learn.

It seems that when I decide on a way forward, the Universe says - ah let me see if you are serious.

For the week since practising this principle:

1. My favourite bracelet broke into fine pieces and scattered all over the floor.

2. Someone who is supposed to be a good friend has proven that their definition of friendship is different to mine

3. There has been talk that I may be involuntarily transitioning out of a long term contract arrangement that I have been in to earn income


All incidents reminding me that everything changes and the moment that I want to hold on to it is the start of suffering.


What are you holding on to that you need to let go of to move you forward?

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?



What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Mindset Shift is Everything

most people associate assistance with something external as opposed to guidance from within. We look outward for some force other than ourselves to “come to our rescue” who has the wherewithal to make things better in our life. Carolyn Myss

We were built with the answers. I strongly believe that we are. We have this wonderful sense of intuition that we are born with that is there to guide us at all times. 

There are terms and conditions of use

Usually we are not able to hear the guidance when we listen to the noise. The noise can be denial, distractions, ego, fear. When we get still we are able to hear the guidance very clearly. Many of us are trained to just keep going, to just keep working, to listen to the external, to follow the trends, to pay attention to the world outside of us, then we wonder why we are stressed, over worked, over whelmed and tired.

The ability to listen and follow the answers within builds our courage, it builds our discipline, it builds our self belief, it builds our self respect. Those are the tools required on the Journey. These tools help in building our heart's desire.

Challenges will come, it is par for the course, and when they do you know once you go within, the answers will be there. 

So, what are you listening to, the noise or the guidance?

Peace





Loving What Is

Dear one, love is like the sun. It doesn’t discriminate between the worthy and the unworthy. It doesn’t bestow its light and warmth only on those who are good. It shines on all alike.

When you love what is, you are loving its soul essence, its indestructible goodness. And by speaking to that, from the love and goodness within you, you participate in a process of subtle-energy alchemy that is powerful, though its effects may take a long while to ripen. Hiro Boga

Loving what is, a term I have learnt from the wonderful work of Byron Katie. Her philosophy challenged me to look at things as they are, it does not mean that I like it or fancy it. It is really looking at the thing and accepting it as it is without adding on how it should be, how I want it to be and what could happen. That approach is really running ahead without really looking at what is in front of you. 

Hiro Boga takes it further by saying that loving what is allows you to focus on other's inherent goodness.She is of the view that everyone is born good and that goodness is still buried somewhere deep inside of us.

Loving what is, I have learnt, has allowed me to let go of control, to let go of a whole heap of disappointment when a desired outcome does not happen.

It takes practice

It demands letting go

It required losing the ego

It finds the good that we all have

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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Do You Have The Full Story?

Criticism does not make you smarter or better than the one you are criticizing Iyanla Vanzant

There is story behind everything, I truly believe that there is power in our story and what I have learnt is that even before the power there is more to the story than we even know. The launching into judgements, what if's and should's then we can be missing some vital information

This weekend I was giving some advice, unsolicited, no one asked me for it

Lesson Learnt Number 2- offering unsolicited advice without the full story is futile

I went on as if I knew the answers.

Lesson Learnt Number 3 - we usually do not know all the answers, especially when we do not know the full story

I went on and on and put in my own judgements and spin on the event - without knowing the full story

When I got the full story, my jaw was on the floor because I so way off, so out of place. Out of my lane.

Lesson Number 4 - Listen and Support rather than run to a solution

I am now moving forward with these lessons which will allow me to listen, to be compassionate, to drop the judgement and to remember that do not jump to conclusions without the full story because I may be wrong

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Who Is Your Person?

You and your person don’t have to agree on everything. That holds true whether it’s other people, movies, or how to handle any given situation. Julie McClung Peck


When I visited South Africa last November, speaking with my soul sister she said "She is my person"  

I asked her what did she mean by "my person", she went on to explain that your person is the one in your corner, supporting you, cheering you on and vice versa. 

Your person feels like love

Your person is real, they may piss you off with the insight and honesty but you will be told, with love, that you need to get with it!

I have learnt that having a "person" means that you have to be comfortable with vulnerability, comfortable with receiving and have the ability to approach difficult conversations- Self Love is essential!

As always, it starts with you


Who is your person?

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?


What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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That's the Things with Labels

That’s the things with labels. They are wonderful and empowering when you’re the one choosing them. They are an opportunity to be a new person, become a different human and grow into yourself in diverse ways.

They’re refreshing and rejuvenating and can become a rallying cry, your own shout for independence and freedom. In essence, it allows you to craft your own identity and image. They can be really beautiful things, but the minute you’re excluded from the process of choosing your label is the same instant they transform into something else completely. They become heavy and distorted, a yolk around your neck that changes the person you are and even the direction your life can take. Salma El Wardany


What do you call yourself? What labels do you add on to yourself and when you add it how do you act?


I am

Two powerful words

They activate much of our power, even when we don't pay attention to how we use it

How do you label yourself and where does it come from?

Do you say to others who put labels on you that it's ok to or do you leave it?

Do you reduce yourself to a label so when something else comes up that does not fit into how you have labelled yourself you feel boxed in or left out?

How you call yourself is how you live

How you call yourself is how others call you

Labels..can be limiting

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

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My Next Top Ten Level Limitations

What if that One thing you're afraid of is the One thing you need, to get Your Big Breakthrough and Go to The Next Level?” ― Jeanette Coron


My Top 10 Next level limitations

Having Tough Conversations

  1. Being Early and having to mingle with strangers

  2. Saying a firm NO

  3. Saying a firm YES

  4. Disciplined Eating Habits

  5. Sharing Personal Space

  6. Knowing my Worth and Charging for my services accordingly

  7. Looking Myself in the Mirror - without finding a fault

  8. Discipline

  9. Setting and Respecting Boundaries

What are yours?

Are you willing to share?


Peace



Have you read any of Akosua's work?


What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Discipline is a Choice

Discipline is about the self choice to keep doing something that you become a disciple of it, it becomes part of you - Rev Deborah L Johnson


A fresh view of discipline - Self Choice!

Deciding to to do something, usually on your own, so much so, that it becomes a part of you.

Every day, making a choice, all on your own, with no one else there to prompt you or baby you into doing that thing.

People who achieve their goals are disciplined

They choose daily to do something towards what they want to achieve, until it becomes a part of them.

Things may change goals may change, life may shift but the ability to choose discipline can remain constant, the ability to choose to make that thing a part of your life can remain a quality of your life.

Previously, I looked at discipline as a chore, at times as a punishment. With this fresh view, I have learnt that discipline is the daily choice to show up for myself and my vision.

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?




What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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A Different Definition of Praise

So long as you have YOU, you can face starting again. You may have to confront illusions you have about yourself, such as holding on to titles and certain salaries and privileges. Those, too, are illusions – big things that are really small. The truly BIG thing is You Carolyn Myss

I was in a state of in between cussing and walking away. 

I wanted to tell them off, I wanted to curse, I was plain ole frustrated.. Have you ever felt that way? I feel it when things are not going the way I want them to go.

I've learnt that ,all of the lessons of Life are good; ]

Listen, at no point along, the journey is more wondrous than another. 

There are no greater or better lessons to be learned in one place or the other. 

You fret so much about making the “right” decisions all the time, as though there is a wrong turn, a detour that could be made along the road of your journey, to a spot where your ancestors will not be, where you cannot turn to your highest self. 

They are everywhere; your highest self is IN YOU whatever turn you make.

There is always a lesson to be learned wherever you are. 

What are you fussing about? 

To be right? 

To look good? 

To be in control? 

For whom exactly?

For what purpose?

Praise the ones who you are with. 

Praise what you like and what you don’t like. You may say, well isn’t that giving the situation life? If I praise what I don’t like, aren’t I helping to create a space that produces more of it?

Praise is not about bringing things to realisation; it is not for the purpose of approving or not approving of any outer thing. 

Praise is for the purpose of recognising and accepting spiritual virtues that are present in you no matter what appears to be happening outside of you. 

If you are so worried about being right, being in control that you become so busy hiding from things, running from them and resisting them, then by your efforts to get away you are providing more fuel for the fire that you say you want to quell. 

Praise life.

Praise each other.

Praise yourself

Do it and see how much more you are a blessing to the world and how much the world will be a blessing to you 

Peace!!

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Follow The Signs

Intuition is defined as an ability to understand or know something immediately based on your feelings rather than facts. The ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning- Unknown



I know, I know, it makes no logical sense!

I know, doing something like that can be tough

It can be frightening, as well as, unnerving

Just imagine having absolutely no past or current evidence, no proof, no validation about something extremely important but wanting to do it, or doing it anyway.

Humans love facts, and control, and reasons as to why or why not.

Many times that gives us the comfort we need to justify our movements

Life is not always laid out like that, there will be times where there are none of the facts, the control, the evidence

What do we do then?

Nothing?

Sometimes yes

But when there are other signs guiding us, the smart thing to do is listen and pay attention to the signs

When we pay attention to our intuition despite the external noise there is a type of inner peace that cannot be explained - the peace that passeth all understanding

When we pay attention to the ego, there is confusion and chaos.

Oprah Winfrey said that every successful decision she made came from the guidance of her intuition. ( and she is a billionaire who lives on purpose too!)

There are many artists, poets and musicians who say that they cannot explain it down to anything but their gut where the inspiration comes from.

I have started paying more and more attention to my intuition, I have learnt that following my intuition takes courage, faith, and a little bit of a sense of humour

All great qualities that can come in handy for the journey.

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?


What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Courage is the Mother of All Virtues

And if you're the person withholding clarity from someone hoping they get it together eventually, or they figure it out, or that the situation will just resolve itself on its own... dig a little deeper for the courage to be clear. Examine why, exactly, you're not sharing your truth and saying what needs to be said. It'll release you from this tether of guilt, and it'll release them to what's next, which is what everyone deserves to begin with.Maxie McCoy



The great Maya Angelo said that courage is a strong virtue that we require if we are to become our best self.  For many of us, to achieve our goals, to move ahead, courage is required.

How do we initiate a difficult conversation without courage?

How do we move to a new city or country or job without courage?

How do we get that first date, or make that first move without courage?


It is the mother of all virtues.

How do we find and keep courage?

It is a process, doubt is a feeling that comes up when we are about to step out of our comfort zones. We want to be in control, our ego is a protective mechanism that believes its responsibility is to protect us from danger and the unknown

Courage comes in to push us out of the comfort zone, propel us into the an unknown place where we cannot control, it always inevitably for us helps us to grow.

I have learnt that:

Courage is feeling the fear and choosing to act despite

Courage is showing up knowing that you may not have all the answers

Courage is having that conversation that may not turn out well

Courage is taking a risk

Courage is following your passion and heart rather than the status quo

Courage is standing up for what is right

Courage is questioning core beliefs and taking a stand when it no longer serves you

Courage is leaving when we know it's time to leave

What are some of your definitions of courage?

Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal

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There is No Overnight Success

Do what you came here to do. Stop making excuses. It’s not going to get easier tomorrow. In fact the longer you wait, it will probably get harder- Maryam Hasna

Overnight success, who came up with that term? As far as I know this phenomenon does not exist at all, people see the success, people talk about the success but the fact remains work was put in, mistakes were made, lessons were learnt, feelings were felt, then they live to tell the tale.

What I have learnt is that overnight success is a term made up by others who were not part of the journey!

No such thing exists, do not be fooled into thinking that because someone or something went viral that it is an overnight success

Do not be fooled that because the media "just found" someone 

Do not be discouraged.

Do the work

Plant the seeds

Believe in yourself

Make the moves

Fail Forward

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love

Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Are You Paying Attention to the Signs Your Life is Showing You?

Your life is always speaking to you - Oprah Winfrey

Your life is always telling you something. It may not be in words. We all know that communication may be without words. How many times do you get goosebumps totally out of the blue? That is life telling you something

How many times have you felt so peaceful in a strange space? That is life speaking to you

How many times have you had unexplained migranes, or some type of sickness? That  is your life speaking to you

There is an old saying "if you don't hear you will feel" Your life will throw up signs to you to get you to pay attention

When life wants your attention it will get it. 

If you ignore life, it will continue to communicate with you.

Take the time to pay attention and listen to the signs.

Be a good listener 

Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love



Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?

Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal


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Your story is inspiring, your delivery is real
— Barbara Ince, President - Maloney Women's Group
The students who attended the function were so inspired by you they want all their friends to be exposed to your story.
— Cherisse Rawlins - Teacher Moruga Secondary
I must thank you for your presentation, many people were blown away by it.
— Sharon Christopher, Dep CEO First Citizens Bank Limited
It was a pleasure hosting you. Your reading from Nyabo (Madam) Why Are You Here? - was both thought provoking and insightful, thank you.
— Consulate General of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago - New York
You are an inspiration to us all
— Marlene Charles, YWCA President
I can’t stop telling people about your presentation. You changed my life forever!
— Michele Celestine, Executive Director Heroes Foundation
What an honour and priveledge it was for me and my wife to host you during your stay in Washington DC
— Anthony WJ Phillips-Spencer, Ambassador Extraordinary Embassy of the Republic of Trinidad and Tobago
Unveiling was exactly what I needed, thank you.
— Participant at 2017's Unveiling- Looking into the Mirror of Self
Akosua, congratulations and thank you for that fabulous and thoughtful sharing from your book. I did NOTHING for the weekend but read your books. Madam, I found your story telling light and entertaining, true Trini style but DEEP.
— Sandra Ferguson, Agency for Rural Transformation, Grenada W.I
After hearing Ms. Akosua speak, I now know that I am everything and that I have everything to become who I want to be.
— Jenna Marie Bharat, Student- San Juan South Secondary School
Madam Akosua was awe inspiring. Excellent motivational skills. For me as a new retiree her words encourage me to “give back to the village”
— Anthea Doyle
Inspirational for both year groups. Forms 3 and 5. They were at the edge of their seats. prodding them to plan and even when things do not go as planned... to never give up when faced with life’s challenges
— San Juan South Secondary School
She is complete, sincere and true to herself. Akosua relates to you on what is common in all of us, our humanity.
— Odella Jowaheer